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Original poster

AIBU to ask your advice on wether it's worth taking my Neighbours from hell to court?

658 replies

Totallyattheendofmyrope · 21/06/2017 21:04

I've had threads on here about my neighbours from hell.
We've been threatened, sworn at harassed and our visitors harassed.
We have involved the police who initially wanted to issue a harassment order against said neighbours but were overruled by their superior officer who said " it never ends well in neighbour disputes" Confused
The actual abuse has reduced significantly though we still endure low level harassment.
I'm keeping notes etc as recommended by the police.
I've pushed for mediation and have met with the mediator however neighbours are stalling and I doubt very much they will attend.
Currently the favourite form of harassment is to park their vehicles to make it quite difficult for me to park. I can get in and I can get out but I do dread weekends and I dread coming home as I'm always so anxious about what they will have done and will I be able to get in ok etc.
I have checked my deeds and they are blocking my "easement ' and it states in the deeds that no one is allowed to do anything to hinder another's ingress and egress.
Currently the neighbours are freely enjoying and utilising the easement I honour and provide them with on my land.
So- Aibu to consider starting legal proceedings or am I just feeding into their crazy?
What would you do?

OP posts:
CaptainHammer · 31/08/2017 18:15

Good luck for tomorrow

mikeyssister · 31/08/2017 18:34

Good luck for tomorrow

MintyChops · 31/08/2017 18:41

Good luck tomorrow OP, hope these asshats get put in their place.

GinandGingerBeer · 31/08/2017 18:44

Christ. They're completely unhinged!
Good luck for tomorrow.

LonelyRadiator · 31/08/2017 18:49

Do you know what people mostly think when we watch those neighbour from hell tv programmes? That all neighbours are as bad as eachother

Winding eachother up, tit for tat, neither party can just let it go, nothing better to do or too much time on their hands, envy, old fashioned bitchiness or boredom, etc etc

Both sets of neighbours are feeding into eachothers little battles. Involving police just heightens the drama for each of you. It's pathetic.

Ignore your neighbours, eventually they'll ignore you when they don't get a rise.

It's pathetic.

flumpybear · 31/08/2017 18:55

Speak to the police, but I think you can discuss the past especially if they 'open a door'
Remain calm and grounded and let them trip themselves up - good luck in shovelfuls StarStarWineWine

flumpybear · 31/08/2017 18:56

It's fine beyond that lonely radiator

flumpybear · 31/08/2017 18:56

*gone beyond that

OneThingAndThenTheNext · 31/08/2017 19:19

Good luck for tomorrow OP.

StoorieHoose · 31/08/2017 19:20

loneyradiator I assume that you have never lived next to neighbours which have caused you distress? Believe me you can not rise to their pettiness, not confront them, try and rise above their actions and still they will persist

Good luck for tomorrow OP

ToadsforJustice · 31/08/2017 19:22

Good luck. Ignore LonelyRadiator.

Motherbear26 · 31/08/2017 19:22

Hope all goes well. I don't think they'll be able to mask their true colours for long.

ChanandlerBongsNeighbour · 31/08/2017 20:31

Good luck, rooting for you!

CanuckBC · 01/09/2017 05:40

Just finished reading both of your threads! Good luck with the mediation😁

LazyDailyMailJournos · 01/09/2017 06:37

I remember your previous thread. Good luck with mediation today.

donajimena · 01/09/2017 06:52

I had a bully NDN. They verbally abused me but my police officer must have said something effective (or my bully NDN was slightly more reasonable) because they just started ignoring me which was great.
Anyway as a little anecdote I bought something off ebay and the seller was delayed in sending it so we had a bit of back and forth on email and when he said he'd be posting it I said can you write on the parcel not to leave at number 23 because he's a knob. Thinking he'd include the posting instructions 'Do not leave with neighbour at 23'
Anyway I got home,found a card saying that I had to collect said parcel from our very small local depot/office. I picked up the parcel and the seller had written on it 'please do not leave with neighbour at 23 because he's a knob' verbatim but with an added smiley face Shock
The small depot is where NDN worked...
Best of luck!

youarenotkiddingme · 01/09/2017 07:25

Good luck today Flowers

I understand exactly what you are going through as went through similar with ds old school.
The other party spending more energy making life difficult and building up a paperwork trail to justify their unreasonable actions rather than solving the issue.

Would it be a reasonable suggestion that the edge of the ROW is painted so everyone knows where they can and can't park.
I'm not suggesting a neon yellow line or anything jut more like a darker brick colour highlighting the edge?

JaimesGoldenHand · 01/09/2017 09:08

Good luck today, OP Flowers

SandSnakeOfDorne · 01/09/2017 12:54

Good luck, they sound horrendous.

BringMeTea · 01/09/2017 12:57

Hope it goes well for you. Flowers

Original poster
Totallyattheendofmyrope · 01/09/2017 13:15

Thank you, I'm on my way now - taking strength from you all Flowers

OP posts:
HepKestrel · 01/09/2017 14:16

good luck Flowers

Mia1415 · 01/09/2017 14:19

Good luck today!

youhaveafacefortheradio · 01/09/2017 14:40

Good luck

notapizzaeater · 01/09/2017 15:24

You know you are in the right and any sane person should go too.