AIBU? Sister named/naming her children the same as mine...

[McCormick1988]

I have 2 sons: Hayden and Oliver.

DSis had a daughter after I had Hayden and named her Hayden I didn't care too much as she was a girl and mine was a boy. It also didn't matter that much.

My Oliver is 2 months and she is the 3rd trimester of her pregnancy and has announced he's an Oliver.

Different middle names but still!

AIBU to think this is a bit unfair?

Just for giggles, if she has a 3rd, get pregnant just afterwards, tell her that you are going to name the baby something really horrible and see what she does. Then name your kid something different

That's really bloody bizarre, especially with the matching middle initials and all, and it's going to cause loads of confusion in the family. Somebody's gonna need a nickname.

What a strange thing to do. It makes me wonder if she'g got MH issues as well.

Has this been discussed with the mutual grandparents and the rest of the family? This is really going to cause confusion, and somebody should try to talk her out of it.

Zombie thread...

Not much point posting - the 'OP' hasn't posted in the last three months.

Very strange.

Posted too soon. My cousin named his 2 daughters the exact same names as me and my brother and I think it's odd!

The sister's opinion is not the only one that counts. Her children will one day have an opinion on this and I bet it won't be favourable!
Already people are taking the piss out of these kids and one of them isn't even born yet. The sister owes her children some consideration.

I would tell my sister not to be such a bloody loon and point out the consequences of this for her children.

And yes, OP has a right to object to this. It's stalkerish.

It was perfectly normal a hundred years ago... But these days when there are so many 'new' names it's a bit odd.

"Zombie thread...
Not much point posting - the 'OP' hasn't posted in the last three months."

The Sis should have just had a baby or be ready to drop, so it might prompt an update. Hopefully things progressed as they should.

I couldn't bear this. Would change your own Iliver's name? I would.

In some places the name is used over and over - Irealnd - Everyone is a 'Michael' so you have Mick, young Mick, old Mick, Couisn Mick, Uncle Mick, Marys Mick, Mick the butcher, dare I say Dark Mick, One Eyed Mick etc etc - and that's the risk run with two people with the same name, you need a descriptor to distinguish, so the children might well be Marys Oliver and Janes Oliver, or they could be Big Oliver and Little Oliver - or it could take a turn and have Ginger Oliver, Fat Oliver, Oliver with the Cross Eyes .....

It's not unfair, but it is very odd.

That's extremely odd.

I taught a kid who was her mum's 2nd child. She had a brother a year older called Stephen. She bounded up to me a few weeks into term and said "Miss, my mum's had the baby" (I didn't even know mum was pg as had never met her - turns out this was baby 7). I asked her "what's the baby's name?" and she replied "Steven". I asked her, isn't that your big brother's name and she replied "yes, but they are called after their dads". The 7 kids had 5 dads between them...

My cousin and I gave our oldest daughters the same middle name, which was our much-loved grandma's name. Other than that, we have all managed to choose different names.

My FIL and his brother had the same first name, now that's weird! Same parents, brought up together, but the same first name. Different middle names though. They were known as (the Gaelic equivalent of) Dark John and Ginger John. Although their names weren't John, but something equally common in Scotland.

Totally batshit weird. Reminds me of a short story where the family over the road were copying the life of the family opposite and when the normal mother walked into the crazy mother's house, she found an identikit copy of her living room in their living room. Is it like that in your family!?

I'd refer to them as Hayden Number 2 and Oliver Number 2...

What? This sounds absolutely ridiculous

DS has the same name as his (older) cousin. It's a family name for DH and we'd decided on that name way before the older cousin was born. It's not a close family (as in DS is now 6 and hasn't met his cousin!) so I think we've gotten away with it.

I did ask DH to 'clear' it with DBIL out of politeness (not sure what we'd have done if he had said no) and was quite embarrassed when DBIL never mentioned it to DSIL and so DSIL found out from the birth announcement. Luckily she's lovely so no issues (or not that I know of).

Her children won't thank her for it when they're older.
And everyone else must think she's a total weirdo whether they vocalise that or not. Very, very odd.

Weird AF

Her dc won't thank her for that. What a steaming weirdo.

Family names are one thing. It's not too uncommon to have the name of an aunt/uncle/parent/grandparent but to name your children the same as your siblings children? Really really weird. First time off enough, 2nd time
??? She's off her rocker!!

I would've a bit worried about underlying psychological issues. This is just bizarre.

that is SO peculiar

Your dsis is nuts!!

Who does that?! It's going to be so confusing for all involved!

I avoided names my friend's kids had, let alone family...