AIBU? Sister named/naming her children the same as mine...

[McCormick1988]

I have 2 sons: Hayden and Oliver.

DSis had a daughter after I had Hayden and named her Hayden I didn't care too much as she was a girl and mine was a boy. It also didn't matter that much.

My Oliver is 2 months and she is the 3rd trimester of her pregnancy and has announced he's an Oliver.

Different middle names but still!

AIBU to think this is a bit unfair?

My Grandfather was called Michael and he named his son Michael. Not that unusual.

Very confusing for grandparents to know who they're talking about... or family party when someone shouts "hayden, Oliver, it's time to go" or when there's a mixture of presents under the Christmas tree.... the confusion will be endless.

Your sister is completely nuts! This is really weird.

I normally think that mumsnetters are a bit keen to think that someone has MH issues but in this case... I think there is some justification. It is totally bizarre to name your children the same as your sibling's children. And shows such a lack of imagination as well.
My dh's sister called her ds by the same name as dh. (She was living on another continent, there are many years between her and dh and she said she sort of forgot that she had a brother with that name! Still, 30 years on, it is a family joke).

Yes. This weird being that you both are adults. It reminds me of when my sister and I were little girls, and she would copy everything I did. Followed me everywhere, wore the same outfits as me....Our Mom's doing here...buying us matching outfits, just different in color. It is obvious to me that your sister truly admires you and looks up to you. Even though it is a little off, because you think she would want her children to have their own names. However, take it as a compliment, laugh it off. Not worth any stress or conflict with your Sister if you get along great. If you do not get along well then is she just trying to get under your skin, and annoy you? It doesn't seem like it but I am just an outsider. Even though it is weird and you, like every normal parent, wants their child to have their own name...especially in the same family....at least it will make for great conversation and laughter for many years to come. Love is still the key with siblings/family. Be Encouraged! :)

It would be interesting if the OP updated, as her sister would have the baby either by now, or very soon.

I also wonder what the children's father thinks of them having the same names, as he wasn't even mentioned in OP's posts.

My daughter's name is the same as my cousin's daughter but our mutual GPs are dead so no grandchildren with the same name issues. My cousin's daughter is 18 mine is 2. She definitely got there first! That said I've not seen either of them since the last GPs funeral 6 years ago so I think I'm pretty safe.

I know a family where the dad married twice. the sons from both marriages were given the same name. that is seriously weird & wrong IMO!

Your sister is batshit! Did she actually do it?

Did anyone else see this thread as the main news item on Yahoo?

I don not think OP is coming back.

I read it on Yahoo and couldn't resist commenting. I wonder if anyone else will pop up and say the same happened to them. Threads like these shouldn't die that easily.

When I was at school, there were two girls in my class who were best friends, let's call them Emily and Claire. Emily had a younger sister called Lucy. The families were very close and often went on holiday together. When we were about 10, Claire's mother gave birth to twins, and named them Emily and Lucy. I don't know whether she consulted the original Emily and Lucy's mother first.

I think a 10 year difference and unrelated would be fine. Its quite flattering that someone likes your name choice! My DS's best friend insisted on calling his baby brother after my DS! The poor baby's middle name is the same as his because they promised their son he could choose the middle name (DS does have an incredibly cool name) . Our ex builders son is named after my dh because he liked his name!

George Foreman, the boxer and grill entrepreneur, has five sons, all called George. He claimed it as so that they would always have something in common.

That's super weird, I think - as is the logic behind it.

It's pure arrogance that, like Jermain Jackson and all his kids being called something like Jermsome and Jermajesty

It is weird, unless you have a lot of siblings. My Dad is one of 12, most of who have lots of children, there are quite a few people in my family with the same names.

I can remember a family get together as a kid where I felt really left out because I am the only one with my name in the whole family (I've never met anyone outside the family with the same first name as me either) while my baby brother for example was dragged off to have a photo with all the cousins, uncles etc he shares a name with. there was 8 of them and a dog.

my baby brother for example was dragged off to have a photo with all the cousins, uncles etc he shares a name with. there was 8 of them and a dog

the dog made me laugh

there's a lot to be said though for having a unique name, whether it's in the family or at school - nobody ever has to make it clear which one they're talking to/about.

DD2 has a not-even-top-100 name, & was the only one at her primary school of 300 for most of her time there, until another one turned up quite late on - she has a double-barrelled surname, & half of it is our surname. That was a bit strange!

That's so so bizarre.

Zombie thread!

Although maybe the OP will come back and tell us whether herself & Dsis had any other children and named them the same!

Weird as fuck and I would go ballistic with her! I would say oi get your own baby names its fucking weird to take mine. How much confusion will it cause at family events?! Weird as fuckkkkk.

That’s fucking weird. 😳

That's proper mental!

I'd consider changing your Oliver's name without telling any of them for a long while.

If you have a 3rd child. I'd introduce under nickname/fake name. Eg Angelina or Angelica would only be known as Ange. So sister no idea if angela or angel or whatnot.

I had no idea if she was thinking of those names of not.

It would be a very strange coincidence for her to be thinking of Hayden for a girl (never heard it used as a girls name) before you had your DS. OTOH, as Oliver is a very popular name, so might have been the name she had chosen years ago should she have a boy. Though as she has copied you once, I think she should let that go.