AIBU? Sister named/naming her children the same as mine...

[McCormick1988]

I have 2 sons: Hayden and Oliver.

DSis had a daughter after I had Hayden and named her Hayden I didn't care too much as she was a girl and mine was a boy. It also didn't matter that much.

My Oliver is 2 months and she is the 3rd trimester of her pregnancy and has announced he's an Oliver.

Different middle names but still!

AIBU to think this is a bit unfair?

I feel sorry for your sister because anyone who hears about this (extended family, friends, neighbours etc) are just going to think she's very, very odd.

Instead of talking about how lovely her new baby is, they'll be talking about their names.

I'm surprised your Mum thinks it's "nice". I'd imagine most Grandmas would find this a bit embarrassing.

I'd be tempted to say nothing more about it. You can't make her change it and a lack of reaction might be the best policy for a number of reasons.

She's spiteful.

And her children will resent her for it.

Sad.

It's odd and unpleasant and deeply unkind to her children who it seems will always be in the shadow of their cousins because people will be saying which Haydon, which Oliver?

I am not sure you can really stop her expect to point out it is odd and others will think she is weird.

Agree with Scrumpernickel

"And poor Hayden the Sequel and Oliver the Sequel. They will find it strange once they're old enough."

My guess is they may even change their names when older.

Weird!

She has no shame does she? Or common sense? The entire world who knows your family is going to judge her and her kids.

Show her this thread OP!

What the hell, haha! Is she the full quid?

Do you see her a lot? Will the kids be close? It's just so weird

Your own sister?! She's bloody deranged. No. This is not on at all. You need to get your own mother to have a work.

Who the hell wants 4 grandkids that all have the same names?!

'Nobody owns a name and name your child whatever you want

Of course they don't and of course you can, but you will look like a fucking lunatic if you name your two children the same as your sisters two children.
Every action comes with reactions!

Hayden the Sequel and Oliver the Sequel.

I would tell your sister that's what you call them in your head because it's just so weird and sad that she's done this to them.

I actually feel sorry for her children, that she's this pathetic (and she is) to have done this to her children. They will eventually be old enough to realize their mother did this on purpose.]

Yes, nobody owns a name, etc etc

However, to use both of the exact same first names for cousins is really odd.

Very strange. I'd be majorly put out by that too. My sister and I were pregnant at the same time. Her daughter was born just before mine and was given the name I was considering (DSIS didn't know this) so my shortlist was duly amended. When she was considering naming her second daughter a name similar to my second daughter's (think Elizabeth and Beth) I politely asked her not to, so my daughter had the option of using Beth when older. And so she chose a different name. All very civil.

I'm surprised other family members aren't being a bit more vocal about this. It seems such a daft thing to do.

Very strange indeed.

There are a few thousand different names out there that she could use!

Buy her a baby naming book?! will she get the hint

If you think that your sister is strange I can go one better. I have a cousin we will call him Doug, he married a nice girl and had a son they called him James. Sadly when James was five, Doug and his wife split up. But Doug being a good Dad saw his son James EOW and during the holidays etc. Then he met another nice girl and they got married had James EOW and hols as before, then she had a baby boy and named him Jamie. So both brothers are James and Jamie that's even more batshit than cousins with the same name!

Maybe OPs sister just really really likes the names Hayden and Oliver?

I think it's weird, and I'd be annoyed if someone in my family did that.

Once is irritating (not to mention strange especially using the same name and for another sex). Second time is utterly bizarre, and verging on psychotic lol. I'd tell her to get her own names! Just why would you do that do your sister? Of course it's a free world but she is deliberately copying you, which is very peculiar.

That is weird.

Could you approach it from the childrens point of view? How sad and embarrassing for them to ever be in their older cousins shadows.

Those poor children.

There's something going on with her. Some kind of psychological issue she has with you.

Tell her your next girl will be called Shithead (indian name, Shi-theed)

Do they have different middle names they could use when they're old and realise how crazy this is?

@olderthanyouthink yes, thank goodness! I know this is outing, but I wonder if it's just a coincidence or on purpose. My Hayden is Hayden Robert and hers is Hayden Rose. My Oliver is Oliver John and hers will be Oliver James (already announced on FB so definitely happening) see how the middle names have the same letter!?

If I pulled this stunt on my sister, my mother wouldnt hold back in her thoughts about it and rightly so.

Your DM is opening herself up to a load of hassle. Imagine the birthdays on the calendar. "Oliver's birthday" Which fucking Oliver.

Cant even do Oliver J, because are both Oliver J.

I hope their surnames aren't the same! Will they be going to the same school?
It is weird, most parents try to find something different from close relatives' DC's names for their new babies.
My family tree has strings of Philips and Alans caught up in it, going down the generations and all with the same very common surname. It makes life difficult for the amateur genealogist!

Very peculiar.

Does her DH/partner not have a say in the names and what does he think about it?