AIBU? Sister named/naming her children the same as mine...

[McCormick1988]

I have 2 sons: Hayden and Oliver.

DSis had a daughter after I had Hayden and named her Hayden I didn't care too much as she was a girl and mine was a boy. It also didn't matter that much.

My Oliver is 2 months and she is the 3rd trimester of her pregnancy and has announced he's an Oliver.

Different middle names but still!

AIBU to think this is a bit unfair?

well the Hayden's would have pissed me off but I would be outright angry and questioning of this nonsense.

No one has the right to tell anyone else what names they can and can't give to their children. There are no exceptions to this rule.

So weird.

Not really any excuse with the millions of names to choose from. Yes of course the sister has the right to use the names too, but that doesn't make it any less bloody weird.

Even more weirder

Do you think your sister could be trying to be like you in some twisted way? Or wishes she had the life you have?

Why do you think she is doing this?

It's so very weird! What about nicknames?

Everyone will always know your kids came "first" if that matters... but mostly I feel bad for the kids, her kids. I don't understand why she wouldn't just pick another name. I don't understand why she would make her kids always "second"... Very very odd.

I don't say this lightly but your sister needs psychological help. That is just not normal behaviour.

Hayden and Oliver aren't what I would think of as similar style names, not a criticism, I like them I just imagine Hayden's brother to be called Brody and Olivers brother to be called Issac (IYKWIM?) so I highly doubt they were secretly her most favourite names ever.

The fact your mum thinks it's nice suggests that she's always pandered to your sister and probably always made you share everything with her even to your detriment.

If your sister is definitely going ahead with it, when the birth is announced on fb I'd be tagging her into a status saying:
Congratulations to sis, sisDH and Hayden on the wonderful arrival of their son and little brother Oliver. Lots of love from me, DH and their cousins Hayden and Oliver, can't wait to meet him. 😘💙

But then I'm petty and if she's going to do it then let the whole world see her crazy antics

You could show her this thread, it's unanimous that she is acting weirdly to say the least.

When she announced on fb she was calling her child Oliver James did no one comment isn't your sisters son called that?

One of my great grandfathers had exactly the same name as his older brother. The next one along had the same names but reversed. It's always amused me!

This, however, is very odd and yanbu to feel anything about this. I can't believe no one else has told her how strange it is or questioned her complete lack of originality!

How bizarre. Suggest she spells it Olyver, to shake things up a bit

How bizarre. Suggest she spells it Olyver, to shake things up a bit

Enough with the nasty comments. If someone has a right to do something (like naming her own children) then let's everyone stop complaining when they exercise that right. There's only one opinion that counts here and that's the DSis. The rest of us should back off and accept it.

Imagine if someone came up to you and said they didn't like the name you have given to your DC because < insert any reason you like here >, what would you think?

There's only one opinion that counts here and that's the DSis. The rest of us should back off and accept it.

Pah. What a load of nonsense.

Yes she can behave like an odd creature with a weird fixation on her sister if she so chooses but the OP has EVERY right to have an opinion on this. And y'know what? Since it's on a chat forum, so do I.

And my opinion is that the sister is a Grade A loon.

Your family parties must be a nightmare with both sets of kids having the same names.
I wouldn't dream of calling my little one the same and my brothers little one.

If someone has a right to do something (like naming her own children) then let's everyone stop complaining when they exercise that right.

Just because you have the right to do something doesn't mean you should do it. Or that it's a good idea.

Lets just hope the boys dont end up in the same school.

Imagine having to explain that one.

That's tonto. There must be a back story here OP. She can't have been perfectly normal up to this point and then done this.

Foxdale yes of course the sister has a right to do this in the technical sense but if you can't see that it's screamingly odd then that's also pretty odd.......

This is seriously weird, OP. I mean you can't stop her, but I don't think you're the only one who's judging her a bit for this. This is very nutty behaviour, does she act nutty in other ways or is this it?

When I had DD my fave boy's name was Charlie. DH's cousin (so no his brother) had a Charlie about a year later. When we had DS the following year we gave him a completely different name. We sill liked Charlie and they wouldn't have had the same surname but it just felt wrong for two cousins close age and area to have the same first name. So YANBU.

@Scrumpernickel: I agree, everyone here has an opinion. But what I actually said was There's only one opinion that counts here and that's the DSis.

I disagree. I think the OP’s opinion counts too. No she can’t lay down the law and prevent her extremely peculiar sister from copying her, but perhaps after this thread she might feel more confident in telling her darling sis that she’s weirded out by her behaviour. And that she might want to address the underlying issues that are making her act this way.

With rights comes responsibility....

@Scrumpernickel: She clearly doesn't think there's anything wrong with her decision. Maybe there are no "underlying issues" to address. Maybe she just wants to name her children without having to get anyone's consent.

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