AIBU? Sister named/naming her children the same as mine...

[McCormick1988]

I have 2 sons: Hayden and Oliver.

DSis had a daughter after I had Hayden and named her Hayden I didn't care too much as she was a girl and mine was a boy. It also didn't matter that much.

My Oliver is 2 months and she is the 3rd trimester of her pregnancy and has announced he's an Oliver.

Different middle names but still!

AIBU to think this is a bit unfair?

To be fair Oliver is no. 1, but Hayden... Although she's a girl. I don't know, I'm just annoyed. DH just tells me to chill about it but I'm struggling to!

This is massively weird, she is nuts. Do you think your sister might be jealous of you/your life in any way? Some sort of weird psychological thing going on!

it is very strange i have a similar name to my cousin i have a 70,s double barrell name say Sarah-Jane and my cousin is Jane our parents are brother and sister whilst i think its a bit strange it wasent that much of an issue as our parents have several other siblings and are not very close i have two other cousins with similar names say Hannah and Anna i can only think my Dad and his brothers and sisters didnt have alot of imagination.

She definitely has issues with you, whether that's jealousy and one upwomanship or total (weird) devotion.

That's very strange.

It's really really odd.

My two SILs were expecting seven weeks apart. Dsil 1 named their baby which turned out to be the same name dsil2 had chosen, not a common name at the time, but on the way up. Niece 2 got given a different name.

One name the same is unusual, two, weird. Why would you, unless their was a particular reason (named after deceased relative etc), but then I presume you would have known about that link previously.

That's... nope. That's incredibly odd. I'm trying to think of some plausible explanation behind why she would even want her children to have the same names as yours, and apart from thinking that "big Oliver" and "little Oliver" is somehow really quite sweet, the only word my brain can provide in this heat is "odd".

Oliver as your nephew's middle name... yeah; maybe. But as his first, when there's already an Oliver in the family?!

Odd.

I second Purple and Birds questions.

Yes - hadn't thought about a deceased relative. But even then, if you were, say, honouring Auntie Louise and your sister's DD was Louise, you'd surely choose Sarah Louise or something? Very, very odd.

That is really, really weird

That's so weird I think I'd be calmly telling her that it's not normal and she'll understand that once second 'Baby In Honour Of...' arrives, you and your kids won't be able to see much of her, as it will be just really uncomfortable for all of you. But ESPECIALLY her poor kids!

Two close family members have the same names in my family. Both first and surname. It's never been an issue at all. When we were trying to think of names, we only had one that we both agreed on so I can see how it could happen!

However, both names being used is strange.

Dd is has already announced (not preg but recently married), that she will use our dd4 name for her dc. Dd name is Kitty, she will use Kit for a boy or girl. I'm trying not to be , but I do hope she has a boy!

Not dd, dsis

Very weird

This happened in my family lots. I have uncles on my mam's side who both have daughters named Jessica and sons called Jason and Stephen. They all also have the same surname. It's not a big deal...

Thi is weird, have you told her how you feel?

a bit weird to be honest and also, not very fair on the children!

Did you discuss the name Oliver before the birth?

After Hayden I think I would have asked her if she had any issue with you naming your son Oliver and if so say now- then at least you could have told her she's a weird one once she named hers Oliver.

I can understand being named after aunts etc but to call cousins identical names is odd - particularly when so close in age

Super weird.

You'll forever be pointing out that your children are older and were called Hayden and Oliver first

That is so fucking weird

Well, no one owns a name so she's perfectly entitled to name her children as she pleases. But I do think it's a bit of a close relationship to give them the same names. They're first cousins and will (I assume) be together a fair amount of the time. In my family we have two second cousins who were given the same names as myself and another cousin. It didn't bother anyone and we didn't live in each other's pockets so it wasn't a constant 'issue'.

Just grit your teeth and move forward, there's nothing you can do about it. What cannot be cured must be endured. Comfort yourself that people will think that she's unimaginative.

Another thread had a similar issue and everyone said
'Nobody owns a name and name your child whatever you want'

So why is it now 'wierd'??

For the record it is weird .... and sad

Are they family names?

One of my DD's and my niece have the same name as they are both named after my Nana. My brother and his wife chose a different diminutive for niece to what I use for DD. My DS and my nephew have very similar names for similar reason - my sil's father and my FIL have the same name and both DS's are called after their grandfather.

If they're not family names that's a bit odd.