AIBU? Sister named/naming her children the same as mine...

[McCormick1988]

I have 2 sons: Hayden and Oliver.

DSis had a daughter after I had Hayden and named her Hayden I didn't care too much as she was a girl and mine was a boy. It also didn't matter that much.

My Oliver is 2 months and she is the 3rd trimester of her pregnancy and has announced he's an Oliver.

Different middle names but still!

AIBU to think this is a bit unfair?

I think one child named the same is fair enough-especially if it is a reltively popular name.But to call them both the same is beyond weird- but nothing you can do about it

Op, you MUST have a frank and honest conversation with your sister. Do not let this slide, the impact will last a lifetime if you do and impact on your kids. I feel bad for you, actually, this is not a normal situation.

Could your sister be joking about her second child's name? The baby hasn't been born yet, right? Perhaps she thought it was funny as you both have Hayden's but she isn't series about calling her new child Oliver?? Or is that just wishful thinking for you.

Happened with my GC - two cousins have the same name - no problem. Take it as a compliment.

I wonder if she feels she 'claimed' the names earlier by saying they were her favourites and that she thinks you're UR by using her favourite names?
My friend called her DS the exact names I had picked for mine. She had a boy first so if I had gone ahead and used the names, it would have looked as though I was copying her. I was a bit

take it as a compliment

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But @GwenStaceyRocks my kids were already born and named by the time she claimed they were her favourite

Is she a very competitive person OP?
Was she in you shadow as a child?

I wonder if she is hoping to gloat in the future that her Hayden or Oliver are more accomplished/popular/successful than yours?

Has she told extended family the plan? If yes, has no one said 'don't do it you fucking nutter' to her

Get your husband to call you her name, when you next see her, and when asked say you've changed it.

Once could happen and I would suck it up, twice would leave me pissed off because it is blatant shameless copying.

Although it is easy for me to say that I would consider changing the babies name (after cousin is here) in reality I am not sure I could have done it.

At two months you could change it though.

It is weird but at least your kids are older so everyone in your family will know she's the nutter butter.

I'm trying to think how she'll reasonably explain this to her kids when their older at family events. Their going to freaking hate it.

I think your parents (especially your mum) need to step up and have a word.

Weird much?

So let me get this straight, you have 2 children, and your own actual sister will have 2 children with the exact same name as yours?? Thats very, very odd

I think, in your shoes, I would change my children's names, frankly. Either call them by their second names or by deed poll.

But I'm uptight like that.

How strange.

My sister used a name that I adore for my niece, but that was a family name, a similar name to one of our close relatives that had passed away. But once she had used it with my niece, that relative had been honoured iyswim, and I am glad there is a little girl I love with that name. I wouldn't use the name again, it'd be a bit odd!

Another one for the 'it's weird' vote here...

Why are you accepting this so calmly, op?
It's batshit!

It isn't unusual for people to have a name that a family member has had previously. My uncle Andrew was named after his father, and my cousin's son Lee was named after his uncle. Also, another cousin of mine had a baby at 43 - two decades after her first 2 kids, and she named her Hayley; the name of another one of our cousin's kids who was 23 at the time.

But for a woman to call her 2 sons the exact same names as her sister's sons; who are same age (roughly,) that is very odd.

Have you asked her why OP?

I'd keep a close eye on my husband if I were you.

YANBU!!! I would b seriously pissed off! What is she thinking??????? 1 I could forgive, but BOTH names????? Come on ... WTF!!?

This must be very confusing for your parents. Think of christmas gifts

'Think if the Christmas gifts'!!!! lol NSEA !!

I wouldn't worry about it. Her kids will change their names as soon as they're old enough. She's definitely batshit.

That's really strange. My sister and I are both pregnant and due 4 days apart (her 1st and my
3rd)
We're both keeping or names secret from everyone but we only told each other to make sure we didn't have the same name.
I do think it's odd that your sisters done that.
Also very confusing at family get together a I bet?

op please tell her that you are using rumpelstiltskjn for your third child.