AIBU? Sister named/naming her children the same as mine...

[McCormick1988]

I have 2 sons: Hayden and Oliver.

DSis had a daughter after I had Hayden and named her Hayden I didn't care too much as she was a girl and mine was a boy. It also didn't matter that much.

My Oliver is 2 months and she is the 3rd trimester of her pregnancy and has announced he's an Oliver.

Different middle names but still!

AIBU to think this is a bit unfair?

Does she realise that everyone will think her batshit ?

There is a real issue here, no idea what it is but odd. You need to tell her it's not the usual thing.

If Hayden is still young enough I'd change both my children's names. And make sure everyone know why.

It's very odd and would make me concerned and uncomfortable.

'Nobody owns a name and name your child whatever you want'

And I'd stand by that. I think what's weird here is the fact that the OP's sister would want to give her children the same names as their first cousins, thereby causing a lifetime of confusion within her (and their) immediate family. Her kids will have to be known as "Girl Hayden" and "Little Oliver". Or by their surnames. Given the lengths some people appear to go to to avoid there being another child in the same class as theirs having the same name, it seems bizarre that anyone would do it with cousins.

But she's perfectly entitled to, I suppose!

Utterly bizarre. I would not be best pleased if I was you. Your sister has issues. This is not normal behaviour.

My sister did the same near enough. Gave her DD a name that had one extra letter at the start to my DD, both abbreviated to same name.

Haven't spoken to her for a decade as a result.

That was the weirdest OP I have ever read about people using the same baby names. Your sister is mental.

Really really odd

Your sister is a fucking weirdo, sorry. I can't imagine doing this. There are 7 children between me and my siblings - we all took pains to choose completely different names each time.

Completely 100% weird!

That is very bizarre. Have you told her you don't like it?

Mad! Imagine if your mum has all the grandchildren for the day! "These are my grandchildren Hayden and Hayden and Oliver and Oliver"
I'd tell my sister she is being weird.

I think that is utterly batshit. Have you told her how you feel? Some people aren't bothered by this sort of thing but I would be greatly. Plus your parents having gc with the same names is so odd! Honestly I can't get my head round this. You need to speak to her.

Is there no father in the picture?

Tbh I wouldn't think much of my parents if they cba to think of my own name, rather than copying my Aunt's choices.

It would seem to me that they didn't care enough about me.

She's just plain odd.

That's a good question, diddl - I think my DH would have had something to say if I'd tried to give our DDs the same names already given to his nieces! And even if dad is out of the picture, what about the grandparents? Surely they would have commented?

Very freaky and going to get even more confusing as they get older.

Pretty much unanimous that it's bizarre!! Feel sorry for you OP. I wouldn't know what to say!

Very weird. Not a lot you can do unfortunately. You are right to be annoyed though.

The nearest thing I have heard to this is two of my sisters having the same name (first and surname) difference is one of them is a step sister and was obviously named before she became my sister through marriage. Your situation is very bizarrre and I'd be furious if I were you

It's absolutely mental, I wouldn't bother with her after the first child's name being the same it's totally weird surely her partner isn't allowing it?

Really really odd