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I threatened him.

196 replies

PurplePancake · 17/06/2017 16:31

NC.
Was walking home today and I saw the boy who has been physically bullying my 15 yo ds. I caught up with him and told him that if He ever lays another finger on my son I will kill him. He was on his own and not so tough without his wee pals around him. I'm still shaking. I honestly wanted to smash his ugly smug face in with something

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dinosaursandtea · 17/06/2017 16:33

So you threatened to kill a teenage boy? You must feel so brave...

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 17/06/2017 16:34

Aww, do you feel all big for having the balls to threaten a CHILD ?

ImperialBlether · 17/06/2017 16:35

Oh come on. This is someone that's bullying her son. He's hardly an innocent child.

pipsqueak25 · 17/06/2017 16:35

i'm like you, total knee jerk reaction but sadly i don't shake afterwards, so i'm potentially a real liability, if an assault took place you should report it though,

Wolfiefan · 17/06/2017 16:35

Hope he doesn't go home and tell his parents. You could end up with a police visit. Bullying is vile. But you could easily argue you bullied that child. (Note. Avoid calling children ugly and smug and threatening to smash their faces!)

Questioningeverything · 17/06/2017 16:36

I've got a friend going through this, ds has been repeatedly assaulted and mugged. If you're the lovely who's son this is... I don't blame you. What your son has gone through is horrific. And the police have been worse than useless. As have the cps.
If you're someone else... given the above situation I'm so close to, I totally understand what can drive you to it.

PotteringAlong · 17/06/2017 16:36

Let's hope he doesn't call the police, eh?

LedaP · 17/06/2017 16:36

Op this eill not have helped. Dds bullying was so bad the police charged the bully.

I wanted to ring his neck. But that would not have helped anyone. Least of all my child.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 17/06/2017 16:37

He may not be innocent Imperial but that is no way for the op to act at all!

Nancy91 · 17/06/2017 16:37

You have to remember he is a child. I get your anger, but you can't threaten a kid as that makes you a bully too and I don't think it's particularly legal to make death threats either Confused

ConConstance · 17/06/2017 16:38

I don't know how I would react in that situation as my daughter is only 1 years old but your just as bad as he is!

MatildaTheCat · 17/06/2017 16:38

Did you see David Tennant do just this on the last episode of Broadchurch? It was totally sincere acting. A bully needs telling. You didn't lay a finger on him and gave him a fright. Boo hoo.

I highly doubt he'll tell anyone but if he did does he have any proof?

haveacupoftea · 17/06/2017 16:38

Can't blame you tbh.

pipsqueak25 · 17/06/2017 16:38

ok, so the threat isn't good but what would 'dino' and 'trip' do if it was their child. as i said before knee jerk reaction, my aspie son has been taunted in the past and i've told several teens and adults responsible in no uncertain terms what is what.

deloresclaiborne · 17/06/2017 16:39

i know where your coming from op, but dont be surprised if his mother turns up at your door later.
you threatened her son ,you may have started a war

deloresclaiborne · 17/06/2017 16:39

i know where your coming from op, but dont be surprised if his mother turns up at your door later.
you threatened her son ,you may have started a war

QueenJulian · 17/06/2017 16:39

I can completely understand your instinct to do that. I'm not sure if it was right or wrong but I do get it. I'm also not sure posting on AIBU was the best idea for you right now as you're obviously distressed and it can get brutal on here. Try to calm down and look after yourself for a bit.

scaryteacher · 17/06/2017 16:39

I used to teach 15 year old boys. Physically they are not 'children' in many cases, even though they might be so mentally. When the 15 year old is a six foot tall, six foot wide rugby player, hurling abuse at you, 'child' is not the first thing that springs to mind.

BasinHaircut · 17/06/2017 16:39

Even though I know it's wrong, I think I'd do similar TBH. The thought of my son being bullied is utterly heartbreaking so Flowers for you

Syc4moreTrees · 17/06/2017 16:41

Although to be fair the kids DT yelled at were 18-22 year olds, not 14-15 year olds. I think there is a bit of a difference.

Ill advised OP 😔

deloresclaiborne · 17/06/2017 16:41

sorry dont know why that posted twice

Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 17/06/2017 16:41

If I had the balls to I would want to do the same.

For anyone saying he's a child etc. Well he's also not innocent and OP didn't actually do anything to him, at the very most she might have scared him. The bully would have easily dished out far more hurtful and damaging things than that.

I'd challenge any parent who's dc has really suffered to not have done similar or given the chance.

Allthebestnamesareused · 17/06/2017 16:42

With any luck the little git will be too embarrassed to tell his Mum because he'll have to admit to the bullying (if she doesn't already know). It's a case of her word against his and although I don't condone it part of me thinks good on you!

Also although he is a child my DS is a foot taller than me at 15 as are most of his friends!

Calm down, have a cuppa or glass of wine and if his mum/dad does turn up just stay very calm and deny,deny,deny!

hellobonjour · 17/06/2017 16:42

Meh YANBU. 15 is old to enough to be called on the fact that you're a dick.

onesilencetoofar · 17/06/2017 16:43

So the way to handle a bully is to become a bully yourself? Not cool.

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