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I threatened him.

196 replies

PurplePancake · 17/06/2017 16:31

NC.
Was walking home today and I saw the boy who has been physically bullying my 15 yo ds. I caught up with him and told him that if He ever lays another finger on my son I will kill him. He was on his own and not so tough without his wee pals around him. I'm still shaking. I honestly wanted to smash his ugly smug face in with something

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C4priSun · 17/06/2017 19:03

You think it's ok for a 40 year old to yell at a 15 year old?

AlexaAmbidextra · 17/06/2017 19:04

So many achingly reasonable and perfect posters on his thread who would no doubt invite their child's bullies round for tea and understanding.

ThanksMsMay · 17/06/2017 19:06

Have any of you actually seen a fifteen year old "boy". They're fucking huge. Not quite like punching a baby in its pram. Should she just let him keep beating up her kid? Confused or maybe she can ask very nicely?

calli335 · 17/06/2017 19:07

YANBU OP. You timed it just right while he was on his own. I really hope it does the trick, the little shit. Forget the do-gooders on here Flowers

ThanksMsMay · 17/06/2017 19:08

ou think it's ok for a 40 year old to yell at a 15 year old?

Absofuckinglutely in the above scenario. She's done him a massive favour s physical assault could get him arrested

ivykaty44 · 17/06/2017 19:08

At puberty you stop being a child

If this teen has done something wrong then he will face consequences, people will shout and tell at him.

LorLorr2 · 17/06/2017 19:09

Confused/surprised at those who are on the boy's side. He's not in nappies, he obviously is aware of what he's doing Hmm

Threatening to kill him was too far but there's no point in tip toeing around your son being physically bullied, can totally see why OP's anger built up and she wanted to put the lad in his place. He probably needed the wake-up call if he's been repeatedly bullying someone with his mates to no consequence.

PizzaPower · 17/06/2017 19:09

Offence against the person act 1861:

A person who without lawful excuse makes to another a threat, intending that that other would fear it would be carried out, to kill that other or a third person shall be guilty of an offence and liable on conviction on indictment to imprisonment for a term not exceeding ten years.

And bullying your son is not a lawful excuse. You could be in serious trouble OP if he involves the police.

susiella · 17/06/2017 19:10

Well done OP, I'd like to shake your hand.

Babykoala1 · 17/06/2017 19:10

If you wanna act like a big man, prepare to get treated like one. Good for you OP.

C4priSun · 17/06/2017 19:12

I don't care how big or strong a 15 year old boy is, he still has the brain of a 15 year old doesn't he

ivykaty44 · 17/06/2017 19:12

Bit if old fashioned telling off never did any harm

ThanksMsMay · 17/06/2017 19:15

but the likelihood is when he's back with his mates, your son will get more grief for "sending his Mummy" along. You should have shown restraint, difficult though it is.

Far more embarrassing than sending your mummy along is being scared of someone's mummy so that you have to retaliate with back up...

ThanksMsMay · 17/06/2017 19:18

And Capri? Do you think he's quaking in his boots? She didn't assault him, she merely cautioned it was a risk if he continued to hurt her son. Literally the only risk he takes is if he can't keep his hands to himself. I don't give a shit if he's 15. He can join the mother fucking army next year.

jarhead123 · 17/06/2017 19:18

YANBU. He isn't a kid when he is making someone life hell. Hopefully you scared him.

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 17/06/2017 19:24

We confronted my DS's bully after years of relentless bullying. He was a jumped up liitle twat who thought he could go through life doing exactly what he wanted and treating people like sh**.
It was good for him to learn that life isn't like that and people have their limits. We did him a favour.
Once we stepped in our DS received an apology the next day from the kid in question and it never happened again.
Absolutely the right thing to do.

Lweji · 17/06/2017 19:31

So, what if he does lay another finger on your son?

I understand your anger, but YWBVVVU to threaten to kill him. It's a serious threat and he could report you to the police.
I would if I was his parents.

You need to find a better way to deal with his bullying.

Lynnm63 · 17/06/2017 19:31

I don't blame the op. There are no witnesses if you're concerned you're on cctv say you told the little shit to stay away from your ds. The threaten to kill will be the bully's word against yours. If he's that's much of an obnoxious shit he or his family may well be known to police. Might give the bully a taste of his own medicine.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 17/06/2017 19:31

Bit weird that people are saying the op will be in "trouble". If the "child" chooses to involve the police she's hardly going to just admit it. There is no evidence and they're not just going to take his word for it.

C4priSun · 17/06/2017 19:32

It's brilliant that we are so encouraged that grown ups won't believe the word of a child 🙄

StrangeLookingParasite · 17/06/2017 19:33

I could not possibly care less about this bully or any other - why do people make excuse after excuse for these little shits?

Not ideal but sometimes instinct takes over. When DD was bullied it went on for months and I said nothing because DD begged me not to, just quiet words with the teacher that achieved nada! Coming back off holiday after half term she was so cheerful and looking forward to going in. As we came through the gate, I saw the bully see DD then rush to round all the girls up and heard her say "Remember what we said while she was away, that nobody will talk to her or be friends with her. DD heard and her face just crumpled. I went to the girl and said "what's that?! What did you just say about DD? Let's go and say it toyour teacher together and then your Mum and then the headteacher, come on, lets go!" She cried and ran off. It came out of me before I could stop it and I do not regret it.

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LorLorr2 · 17/06/2017 19:33

C4pri would you suggest the scamp should be left to carry on assaulting OP's son because his age excuses him? We know right from wrong as toddlers, he needs setting straight because it's not acceptable - think of the damage he's caused himself compared to a single scolding about those actions. Also what BabyKoala1 said!

Lweji · 17/06/2017 19:33

I doubt he was seriously scared though.

ThanksMsMay · 17/06/2017 19:34

I'd love it if he went to the police and said
"The mean lady said she'd kill me if I kept attacking her son"

I'm sure the police would immediately arrest her for threatening to defend her son which she has a legal right to do.

I suspect they'd tell him to wind his neck in and stop wasting their time.

LorLorr2 · 17/06/2017 19:35

-the damage he's caused to OP's son, by himself (with some onlooker chums by the sounds of it)