I threatened him.

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Was walking home today and I saw the boy who has been physically bullying my 15 yo ds. I caught up with him and told him that if He ever lays another finger on my son I will kill him. He was on his own and not so tough without his wee pals around him. I'm still shaking. I honestly wanted to smash his ugly smug face in with something

Hilarious. I wonder how many of those who are crying "CHILD!" have actually met a 15yo adolescent. Especially the ones who like to think they're big men, they don't tend to be meek.

Good for you OP. If it scared him, good. I doubt it did, however.

He's a Cunt..go better than that and tell his parents the same thing..I bet the bullying stops!

I am quite good at keeping my cool. I work with people under stress and I have had to learn to take a lot of flak.
But when my young niece was receiving abuse from her recent ex I went Ma Kray on his arse and frightened the life out of him.
Its not something I enjoy doing but its not something I am ashamed of either.

The problem nowadays is that most of the "proper ways" of dealing with bullying are toothless and useless: head teachers have no real power, whereas once upon a time they could have expelled the offender on the spot; even the police can't do much, whereas they might have been able to give the offender a fright once upon a time, night in the cell etc.

The experienced bullies know that the authorities have no real power over them, they know they're untouchable, so they use it to their advantage.

So I think giving a bully a fright in a way they're not expecting is a good thing.

I don't blame you in the slightest op

Capri Vigilantes?!
Just bloody stop it.

OP acted on impulse in the heat of the moment and warned off the not so little scrote who's been bullying her son after she spotted him in the street. I sincerely doubt she's going to escalate from there and start channelling Batman.

And get real about involving the police, bullying is way way down their list of priorities they're so stretched they won't act to reel in the bully until Op's son winds up in hospital or worse because of it.

Ds2 was being bullied by some horrible horrible kids. I don't directly threaten to "kill" them as such but I did tell them that if it carried on I would send my cousins around to batter them (slightly older teenagers). I wouldn't have cared a jot if the police had been called on me.

Didn't not don't

Yeah, I can't blame you for this. I agree with a pp - an adrenaline reaction. I aggressively confronted an unknown neighbour late at night last year by guessing where they lived and banging on their door until they answered. I live on a rough estate and am a small woman. I look younger than I am and the man was surprised by the way I approached him. He tracked me down to apologise the next day and said he realised just how bothered I must have been to have gone wandering the streets in the dark and hammering his door like that. It was all fine in the end but the thought that my children could possibly be at risk in some way had me out of the door and down the road before I even had a chance to think about it. My protective instinct kicked in.

At what point do you accept that some 'children' are horrible people and are going to grow into horrible adults? There are some people who enjoy inflicting pain on other people. They like being bullies. Sadly, some of them will have had horrible lives and only respond to violence and aggression. It's what they know. It's not the OPs responsibility to try to show him a better way or to help him with his issues. If the only thing that works is to threaten, then that's what needs to be done. He can work through his issues and hopefully mature into a decent adult with the help of other people - not the woman who's child he is attacking and bullying. She only has to consider her own son and stopping him from being a target to this bully. My mom threatened my bully when we were eleven. By that point he'd punched me, thrown a chair at me and choked me by putting his hands around my neck and lifting me into the air. I was tiny and he was a much bigger boy, though only the same age as me. She cornered him and threatened him and it worked. It was the only thing that worked. She never once regretted it or felt any guilt about it.

Good on you pancake It's not like you went looking for him, you happened to see him and took the opportunity to let him know you're on to him in a language he'd understand.

If you get any repercussions I'd be tempted to spread it around that he's only upset because when you told him to back off he leaked out some pee.

You know what op I would do absolutely anything to protect my son. I can't say yabu at all. At least your son know you have his back and will fight his corner. I don't think what you said was bullying at all. 15 is not a child. My ex boyfriend (both 15 at the time) beat and raped me so I don't subscribe to the child argument at all.

Has the OP been back?

Good on you OP. I wish my parents would've done that rather than leaving it to the school and kids to sort it out between themselves. Then maybe,just maybe the beatings and taunts and pranks wouldn't have escalated to attempted rape. Which i used to blackmail them into leaving me alone cause no one gave a shit..still.

But yeah sure they were just poor innocent kids,bless them.

I don't blame you in the slightest OP. Hopefully the shock of being confronted by you will teach the little shit the meaning of fear and he'll leave others alone.

YANBU I'd do exactly the same. 15 is old enough to aware of what a twat you are being.

YANBU! I'd do exactly the same for my son.

YANBU. The little shite deserved it.
My sister did something similar to my school bullies and funnily enough they never said a word or laid a finger on me again.

My dad did this for me. We were out in the car and we drove past a boy from school who had been threatening to 'kill me'. I told my dad, he stopped the car and jumped out. I don't know exactly what took place next but I never got any bother from him again My LO is only 4 months old but I already know I'd do the same for her.

I get he's a bully I don't condone what the OP has done it's awful but what's worse are the posters who are encouraging OP to lie about it and blame the child if he says anything. That could give lasting damage to him through adulthood depending how bad it gets, and would probably make the bullying worse

Child my arse! It's people that defend this behaviour that do not help nip it in the bud. Let's see how it is if your child was bullied. Will you be saying "it's only a child that smashes your face on the brick wall on a daily basis. It's ok. He's only 15 the poor darling!"
Well done op. If he has an ounce of decency he will stop. If he calls his mum or the police stick it as another bullying tactic. Don't let them get away with it.

That could give lasting damage to him through adulthood

I really wish people would focus nearly as much on the damage done to victims as they worry about damage done to perpetrators.

Fair play.

There is a real double standard on MN as to what constitutes a "child".

Bullies often have shit home lives / have been bullied themselves. I don't condone what the boy was doing, but death threats to a child are pathetic, you need to speak to his parents and the school, not turn into a bully yourself.

Good for you OP. I would absolutely do the same for my dc.

And I say this hand on heart, I couldn't give a fuck how it may affect the bully if it works.

My df had to have a word with a guy that was stalking me. It's what a parent does, protects their dc.

Whilst I understand the sentiment you could quite likely have made things worse for your DC. The boy in question doesn't actually believe you'll kill him - but now thinks you're fighting your DC's battles for them.
Plus obviously you've just broken the law.