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MIL Surprise, surprise

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AmberStClare · 15/06/2017 17:51

DP is away from home on a course and have been enjoying this week on my own, slobbing out in the evening after work, eating supper in front of the TV and generally having a nice time.

Just got home from work and opened the front door, walked into the sitting room to find my MIL sitting on the sofa. Cries 'surprise surprise, got the key from your NDN, let myself in and have come to stay for a few days to keep you company whilst DP is away.'

Just rung DP and he is equally annoyed as is expected back Saturday and we were looking forward to the weekend catching up on each other's news and bit of frottage. All out of the window as MIL expects to be waited on hand and foot, in fact just said if I was putting the kettle on she would love a cup of tea, 'And a biscuit dear if there are any going.'

Who do I kill first, NDN for giving out the key without checking with me first (She has never met MIL before as we moved here recently) or MIL for presuming she can do this.

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Chillyegg · 15/06/2017 18:21

Wow what is happening with your dp whats he saying. Shes nwxt level crazy. Welk done op

MissHavishamsleftdaffodil · 15/06/2017 18:22

It's that oh so gently framed guilt isn't it? 'I've had this lovely generous idea to just show up to keep you company!' - and if you don't go oh goody and leap on board, you're already cast as the mean, selfish twat.

Sigh. I also have family given to having 'lovely ideas' alongside this rigid, unshakable conviction that I have absolutely no life, no plans, and can be descended on at any second. That's led to more than a few rows and yet still they don't catch on!

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SunsetBeetch · 15/06/2017 18:23

Shock What a cheeky blighter! Id be fuming. Pleased to see you're not letting her guilt trip you, OP. Her current circumstances are of her own making.

CoffeeWithMyOxygen · 15/06/2017 18:23

She took a two hour train ride without even checking you were free?? What an idiot. Ignore the crying, she's just having a tantrum. The cup of tea thing would've pissed me right off, no way would I be offering biscuits to somebody who'd invaded my home!

UndersecretaryofWhimsy · 15/06/2017 18:24

amber, frottage is fully clothed rubbing. Which is fine, if that floats your boat after a week apart. Grin

Ecureuil · 15/06/2017 18:24

I thought frottage was dry humping?!

crocodilesoup · 15/06/2017 18:25

Yabu for saying frottage means rumpy puppy.
Actually you are also being unreasonable for saying rumpy pumpy.

She travelled two hours on a train to do this?

Pemba · 15/06/2017 18:26

This is not on. I would go nuts. What are you supposed to be 'ungrateful' about?

AmberStClare · 15/06/2017 18:26

Just regained control of my telephone to speak to DP. He is still a bit of a man child and said was there any chance she could stay tonight, er no. Friend is on her way now and assures me she has three ginormous suitcases with her.

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MissHavishamsleftdaffodil · 15/06/2017 18:26

Very true Crocodile

It's a short step from rumpy pumpy to hun and menz and fam-a-lam and then I'm afraid we shall have to call the police.

(101 of course! Just to get it logged.)

Goingtobeawesome · 15/06/2017 18:28

This is crazy behaviour which makes me feel a teeny tiny bit sorry for her. Don't shoot me. I'm a true MNter but a bit soft at the moment.

Dagnabit · 15/06/2017 18:28

Kick her out!! Don't give in!!

AmberStClare · 15/06/2017 18:28

Trying to be discreet for the more delicate minded MNers re frottage

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FannytheW0nderDog · 15/06/2017 18:29

Really feel for you. She is a manipulative bitch and she has probably got away with this kind of behaviour for years from weak willed menfolk caving in. Your husband really needs to support you in saying No to her. She imposed on you and now she expects to be hosted. If she won't leave I would go out for long evenings out returning really late til she gets the message.

astoundedgoat · 15/06/2017 18:29

Nothing useful to add, except that Forever Amber was my FAVOURITE BOOK EVER as a teen. I must have read it a hundred times.

Frottage was the least of what she got up to...

falange · 15/06/2017 18:29

ermmmm, maybe she was trying to be kind, to do you a favour? That's what I was thinking as I read it.

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Taylor22 · 15/06/2017 18:29

So after slagging you off he's now team mummy?
Tell him to piss off and find a hotel too and you'll move friend and a life time supply of wine in.

Bananasinpyjamas4 · 15/06/2017 18:30

Get a house alarm. Yourself. I can't stand unexpected intrusions.

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emmyhNL · 15/06/2017 18:31

What's happening now OP? Is she going after being told no? Did DP back you up more than "are you sure she can't stay?" (which btw sounds awful to his mum as it's putting the blame on you).

Hurray for friend and her suitcase!

AmberStClare · 15/06/2017 18:32

astoundedgoat mine too!

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CoffeeWithMyOxygen · 15/06/2017 18:32

That is ridiculous of your DP. Of course she can't, you've got plans. Bet he wouldn't be saying that if the roles were reversed and he was stuck with YOUR mother.

Don't give her an inch, OP. She'll try the whole 'I thought you be pleased, I came all this way' - he firm with answers like 'Why didn't you call first? DP is away so of course I made plans with my friends.'

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