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MIL Surprise, surprise

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AmberStClare · 15/06/2017 17:51

DP is away from home on a course and have been enjoying this week on my own, slobbing out in the evening after work, eating supper in front of the TV and generally having a nice time.

Just got home from work and opened the front door, walked into the sitting room to find my MIL sitting on the sofa. Cries 'surprise surprise, got the key from your NDN, let myself in and have come to stay for a few days to keep you company whilst DP is away.'

Just rung DP and he is equally annoyed as is expected back Saturday and we were looking forward to the weekend catching up on each other's news and bit of frottage. All out of the window as MIL expects to be waited on hand and foot, in fact just said if I was putting the kettle on she would love a cup of tea, 'And a biscuit dear if there are any going.'

Who do I kill first, NDN for giving out the key without checking with me first (She has never met MIL before as we moved here recently) or MIL for presuming she can do this.

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BeepBeepMOVE · 15/06/2017 18:11

I'd be fuming!

She's an adult, just say sorry it's not a good time. Next time call!

AmberStClare · 15/06/2017 18:11

I have got a friend coming for a drink tonight hence Prosecco in fridge but not staying over. MIL is on phone to DP wailing about me at the moment and how ungrateful I am.

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Birdsbeesandtrees · 15/06/2017 18:11

Oh I am.

From the tone of the message MIL obviously has form for this kind of thing and it obviously upsets OP. I'd be quite happy to help her out.

Birdsbeesandtrees · 15/06/2017 18:12

I do hope your DP is backing you up.

NoahPinnyon · 15/06/2017 18:12

What's frottage?

Nocabbageinmyeye · 15/06/2017 18:13

Good woman op, might make her think next time. Like if your dh is away and you have the house to yourself for a week why the actual fuck would anyone want their mil rocking up Shock

Nocabbageinmyeye · 15/06/2017 18:14

Oh I hope your dh has your back

gamerchick · 15/06/2017 18:14

I hope he's backing you OP. Does she have form for this? You don't seem surprised .

ShesNoNormanPace · 15/06/2017 18:14

How was your neighbour to know she was your MIL and not a burglar?

UndersecretaryofWhimsy · 15/06/2017 18:15

My major concern here is why you and DH would only want frottage when he's been away. What kind of weird kinkery is going on here? Enquiring minds need to know!

Noah - Google it (but not at work).

RebootYourEngine · 15/06/2017 18:16

Haha wtf. She turns up unannounced, starts making demands and then cries when you ask her to leave.

Taylor22 · 15/06/2017 18:16

If she is openly bitching about you in your own home go up to her now and say that you want her to pick up her shit and leave. She's clearly an ungrateful, selfish twunt and it's time she learnt her place.

highinthesky · 15/06/2017 18:16

How was your neighbour to know she was your MIL and not a burglar?

I bet she looks just like Agatha Christie Grin

CoffeeWithMyOxygen · 15/06/2017 18:17

Good Heavens. Have you texted your friend to get her on board with the story? She needs to make sure she brings a suitcase, even if it's empty, and pointedly dump it on the spare bed. Well done for getting the key back off your neighbour - don't give her another and I'd consider changing the locks on the off chance that MIL had time to make a copy. I hope your DP isn't pandering to her wailing but instead making it clear that her behaviour is obnoxious. I'm actually cringing for you.

thatorchidmoment · 15/06/2017 18:18

Oh my word. How does anyone think this is reasonable behaviour at any point?! Does she have form for this sort of thing?

DO NOT BACK DOWN OP!!

GinIsIn · 15/06/2017 18:18

Has she got form for being this batshit?!

ApocalypseNowt · 15/06/2017 18:19

How far away from you does your MIL live OP?

Can't believe she just rocked up like that?! Well done for telling her she couldn't stay though. Now....stick to your guns prosecco!

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 15/06/2017 18:19

oh that is just so so rude...I would not have let her feet touch the ground!

How did she get there? What a fucking liberty!

AmberStClare · 15/06/2017 18:19

Noah, Frottage = rumpy pumpy.

DP is an only child, MIL thinks of him as her little boy still. When I met him she was still putting marmalade on his toast for him at breakfast. Knocked that on the head very quickly when we moved in together!

She has never done anything like this before but we did live quite close to her before. Now a two hour train ride away.

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sonjadog · 15/06/2017 18:20

Do not back down! You don´t want this to be an experience that is repeated over and over and over again...

Love51 · 15/06/2017 18:20

It's not you, it's her. Promise. If she thought you might be lonely, the appropriate thing to do would be to invite you round for dinner. Not move in unannounced. Clearly SHE is lonely but this isn't the way to deal with that.

FetchezLaVache · 15/06/2017 18:20

OMG. What is DP saying to her? I too hope he's backing you up!

She could have phoned and asked if you would like her to keep you company while your DP was away. Or, better, she could have reasoned that as a grown-up woman with a life and friends outside of your relationship, you might actually be capable of making plans for yourself while DP is away, as opposed to pining gently and counting the minutes until his return.

Awkward as arse, though, to have a sobbing MIL actually IN YOUR HOUSE and I absolutely feel for you. Extra Wine

Birdsbeesandtrees · 15/06/2017 18:21

Um. Frottage isn't sex as such. Sexual act more like.

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