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MIL Surprise, surprise

786 replies

AmberStClare · 15/06/2017 17:51

DP is away from home on a course and have been enjoying this week on my own, slobbing out in the evening after work, eating supper in front of the TV and generally having a nice time.

Just got home from work and opened the front door, walked into the sitting room to find my MIL sitting on the sofa. Cries 'surprise surprise, got the key from your NDN, let myself in and have come to stay for a few days to keep you company whilst DP is away.'

Just rung DP and he is equally annoyed as is expected back Saturday and we were looking forward to the weekend catching up on each other's news and bit of frottage. All out of the window as MIL expects to be waited on hand and foot, in fact just said if I was putting the kettle on she would love a cup of tea, 'And a biscuit dear if there are any going.'

Who do I kill first, NDN for giving out the key without checking with me first (She has never met MIL before as we moved here recently) or MIL for presuming she can do this.

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BewareOfDragons · 18/06/2017 22:53

What did she say to him?!

And please tell us he didn't pay for her B&B.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 18/06/2017 22:54

Won't sleep tonight til I know the outcome!!

redshoeblueshoe · 18/06/2017 23:05

Button - I hope she's pissed

AmberStClare · 18/06/2017 23:13

Sorry haven't been back sooner. MIL told DP I had been very unkind to her when she arrived but she was prepared to forgive me. Whilst at the B&B she had been thinking about me and thought I had put on a lot of weight. From this she had deduced my crotchety mood was down to an impending happy event! Not true but despite what he said she is convinced she is going to become a DGM soon. She is wild with excitement and convinced it will be a little Grand Baby Son.

The only baby arriving around here in the near future is Famalam the kitten.

Goodnight all. Xx

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Fluffyears · 18/06/2017 23:16

Oh god she'll be in your face constantly if she thinks you're pregnant.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 18/06/2017 23:17

Hope he told her you won't be quick to forgive her for bloody squatting at your home!!
Or is unpacking in 'her' bedroom acceptable??
Cheeky old bint!!
Well done op!!

Whatthefoxgoingon · 18/06/2017 23:20

When your mil spouts this shit to your DP, what does he say to her Amber?

MuffinMaiden · 18/06/2017 23:23

I thought this thread couldn't get any better, but that is priceless. The sheer desperation for it not to be her own behaviour at fault, the judginess, the fact she's making herself feel better that the room isn't "hers" by presuming it must therefore be in waiting of a child! When a grandchild doesn't turn up, do you think she'll believe it, or convince herself that you suffered a terrible loss? Confused

BewareOfDragons · 18/06/2017 23:23

She's prepared to forgive you, and in the next breath says you're getting fat essentially... Hmm

StealthNinjaMum · 18/06/2017 23:24

I hope he stuck up for you otherwise I'd tell him to sleep in the B and B too.

Does he think she knows she was out of order in just turning up and is trying to save face? Or does he think she thinks her behaviour was fine and it's OK to just turn up like that and con the neighbour into giving a key? If the latter I envisage many threads in the future from you.

BewareOfDragons · 18/06/2017 23:25

And send her lots of pics of her grandbaby cat ... when you get your kitten.f

Doesitgoto11 · 18/06/2017 23:25

Oh dear sweet deities. Stay strong missus and feel free to come for a beak to Dover

TheweewitchRoz · 18/06/2017 23:32

That's shocking - what did your DP say?

SwissChristmasMuseum · 18/06/2017 23:32

Oh behave! Navy is most certainly not a bully but I must say, some of you lot are bordering on it, what with your eager panting for punishment, all the sly egging -on of the OP and the ridiculous attribution of motives to someone you know nothing about.

SwissChristmasMuseum · 18/06/2017 23:34

Something's gone pretty wrong. Take a lesson from posters like Expat and Cocolepew, who manage to express their opinion without any of that snide crap.

Columbine1 · 18/06/2017 23:42

Surely one day most of these posters will be MIL themselves...

SugaredSocks · 18/06/2017 23:45

Really hope you'll be doing a new arrival photo shoot with Famalam just for MIL's benefit! I could do with some of your gumption though. Can't stand my MIL but usually end up coming across as a grumpy antisocial teenager as I try and hold my tongue so look surly instead...

StrangeLookingParasite · 18/06/2017 23:49

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SwissChristmasMuseum · 18/06/2017 23:54

Are you one of those eggers -on thriving on the drama then, Strange?

SwissChristmasMuseum · 18/06/2017 23:59
Halo
StrangeLookingParasite · 19/06/2017 00:01

Is there a reason you're slinging off at me, whoever you are?

5LiveSportsExtra · 19/06/2017 00:06

Has she always been this delusional? Is this normal behaviour for her? If I were this woman's child I'd be a bit concerned. My DM can be really hard work and gets all sorts of funny notions into her head but this would worry me.

SwissChristmasMuseum · 19/06/2017 00:07

Sorry, no Blush. Just the general tone. Not you particularly at all. Apologies.

ButtonMooooon · 19/06/2017 05:59

Just out of interest OP, how many bedrooms do you have? Please please please turn "her" bedroom into some sort of kitten play room!!! You can get those massive beds that have scratching posts and toys attached underneath

And if/when you do choose to have a baby make sure it's a girl Grin

pigeondujour · 19/06/2017 06:03

What on earth did your DP say?!