AIBU to say that Nikki Morrison and Sherrie Ryder of the BBC are lazy-assed 'journalists' and that it's possible that BBC have just ruined my oldest and closest friendship?

[RestlessTraveller]

Yes it's a TAAT, but it's a thread about MY thread. So for thise of you who haven't read my previous thread, I was due to be a bridesmaid on Saturday when my best friend decided she couldn't go through with it and I posted on here for some advice about what to do.

The MN massive provided me with some excellent advice and we got through an extremely difficult day. I received an email from MNHQ to say they had received a media request from the BBC who wanted to run the story, I politely declined. Now it would appear they have run the story and they have quoted me (and other posters on the thread) without my permission. Yes, I realise this is a public thread and that's they didn't need my permission but I'm still pissed off!

So I just needed to call the bride and tell her why her story in on the BBC website and needless to say she is not a happy bunny. Yes I know I deserve it but I REALLY needed advice!

Anyway BBC, YOU ARE CUNTS AND I WANT MY LICENSE FEE BACK! ( Bet they don't publish this thread)

Rolling 24/7 online news means that you've got to have fresh content all the time. Inevitably a lot of it will be shit but you can't have static pages when everyone else is refreshing around the clock.

"You don't need anyone's permission to find that annoying and be pissed off about it"

It is a bit much, however, to say: "BBC have just ruined my oldest and closest friendship". I'd say the OP did that all by herself.

There's no way it's "news". Some random anonymous person on the internet has posted their, also anonymous, friend called off a wedding. This is "reported" on another internet site, with cut and paste comments from the original site.

For all the BBC, or indeed MNers, know the situation or people involved may be a figment of someone's imagination. Someone may be bored and just click baiting for shits and giggles (see also Chester Zoo and 90% of other MNer trolls going back to judge flounce, lavenderrrr etc). Someone may be gauging reaction to a book plot. The OP may be getting married herself and having doubts so posted to garner opinion ("I'm asking for a friend").

Someone who genuinely regretting fucking up by inadvertently putting a real friend under public scrutiny (a newbie to MNer perhaps or someone who meant to post in whole other more private part of the site or someone with shit FB settings who goes viral, say) would not then be starting other threads with inflammatory LOOK HERE titles. But then someone genuinely worried about a real friend wouldn't be posting their private and painful situation on a completely public site as a live action entertainment in the first place, would they?

There is something here that is a load of bollocks, that's for sure.

Haven't read the full thread, but I can't believe the responses you're getting OP. You came on here for advice and support, not to have the story published by the mass media.

Mumsnet IS mass media.

Can't believe how naive some people are being. Of course MN is mass media. What on earth do some people think it is? A confidential helpline for guidance?!

If the OP really just wanted to know the practicalities of canceling a wedding at short notice, she wouldn't have gone into the detail she did (personal comments about the families) and once she had the necessary info surely she'd have asked the thread to be pulled? The first thread had clearly become somewhere for people to vent their views and judge the bride (understandably if you're going to post on mass media) For every one post giving practical advice there were probably 50 discussed the rights and wrongs of the bride. Can't believe the OP kept returning to that thread to keep it going, or that she's now starting a new one

I don't think they were really checking to get OP's permission (they don't need it for a public forum) but rather to check if the story was real.

Mumsnet is an anonymous forum. It's not quite the newspapers or telly is it? And yes, of course it has a wide audience, but the BBC is our state media, with an audience of millions. I think it's totally unethical to just lift quotes from here, which is what they did. It's incredibly lazy, in bad taste, and to what end?!

When are the BBC going to get back to actually reporting news? I have just looked at the article and can't see how it actually constitutes a story. The whole thread could have been a work of fiction for all they knew. (Not implying it was OP just that they run the risk of printing something that was made up). It is just a load of quotes from anonymous MNetters. They may as well just have a slot which says; "and today's interesting threads on MN are:-" and post a link!

What BigBlueBus said!

wait a minute th crap frozen cake thread wasnt real?

Supply and demand isn't it? The BBC, Daily Mail etc will publish these magazine pieces as long as people read them.

Correct, Gabs

Broke my heart that did.

Pulling stories off forums perpetuated fake news.

I don't understand why the OP needed to ask for advice on here. If I wanted to help the bride I'd have asked if there was anything she wanted me to do, taken instructions from her and got on with it.

But maybe that's because I'm a journalist and practical like that.