AIBU to say that Nikki Morrison and Sherrie Ryder of the BBC are lazy-assed 'journalists' and that it's possible that BBC have just ruined my oldest and closest friendship?

[RestlessTraveller]

Yes it's a TAAT, but it's a thread about MY thread. So for thise of you who haven't read my previous thread, I was due to be a bridesmaid on Saturday when my best friend decided she couldn't go through with it and I posted on here for some advice about what to do.

The MN massive provided me with some excellent advice and we got through an extremely difficult day. I received an email from MNHQ to say they had received a media request from the BBC who wanted to run the story, I politely declined. Now it would appear they have run the story and they have quoted me (and other posters on the thread) without my permission. Yes, I realise this is a public thread and that's they didn't need my permission but I'm still pissed off!

So I just needed to call the bride and tell her why her story in on the BBC website and needless to say she is not a happy bunny. Yes I know I deserve it but I REALLY needed advice!

Anyway BBC, YOU ARE CUNTS AND I WANT MY LICENSE FEE BACK! ( Bet they don't publish this thread)

Yes I said they didn't need my permission, something tells me I'm going to have to say to A LOT on here, doesn't stop me from being pissed off about it though and I do think that this should be a cautionary tale, people shared a lot of personal information on that thread, and I do think that it could and will stop people posting on here for much needed help.

now the bbc are at it-scum

I didn't see the first thread.

I've read the article. In fairness, I think the tone is well balanced and has helpful advice BUT the fact is, you did decline and they should have respected your wishes.

Did you complain to MN restless? If you said no and they still allowed he BBC to run the story.....

Well MN is a business. The wider the threads go the more clicks they get, and clicks make the advertisers happy and keep MN free.

Don't post anything you will come to regret.

I can't find the story OP (tho maybe not googling right). So maybe it's been taken down.

Hopefully your friend will read the thread? You were very professional in your responses, you were clearly asking for advice and didn't discuss her very much at all really. And anyone could tell that you were very stressed and really needing advice.

Good luck in sorting it.

Unfortunately shiny I don't think they need MN permission.

@shinyredbus MNHQ can't do anything. The BBC can quote whatever they want from a public website.

Hmm you did post someone else's traumatic life event on the internet, and it's common knowledge round here that the media trawl the juiciest threads every day.

If I was your friend...well I'd be your ex-friend to be honest. To know that's what you were doing on what was my most difficult day...

I know you posted looking for advice but you may have to accept that she'll never see it that way.

Yes, thanks for that, I realise that this is probably the case.

Me too. I wouldn't want my bridesmaid posting about my wedding or lack of it on MN.

Heap it on there ladies!

I can't find it either, so hopefully it has gone before any damage was done.

So was the original thread deleted? Why?

The original thread is still here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2951039-What-are-the-logistics-of-cancelling-a-wedding?

Unfortunately it's legit , morally bankrupt but legit

So sorry OP lesson learned for all of us to never post anything that could easily out us

Fuck though

It is lazy journalism, however as pp have said it is common knowledge that it happens.

I've just read the article. Oh dear oh dear op.
Emotions are running high. I'd just lie low and hope for the best. Hopefully your friendship recovers but don't hold your breath. I mean that in the nicest way.

Bloody hell. MN is a convenient place to ask questions, your situation wasn't life or death, some stupid bride made an error and it's tough tits it's ended up on another site.

MN is popular, it's public and BBC is also.

OP you only have your own, naive self to blame.

Ask someone else in future

Kinda wish there was comments on the article so we could call them out on the piss poor excuse for journalism.

The story is still there, someone posted a link on the other thread.

Sorry OP, it took me one google search to find it, its still there. I have no useful advice for you