AIBU to say that Nikki Morrison and Sherrie Ryder of the BBC are lazy-assed 'journalists' and that it's possible that BBC have just ruined my oldest and closest friendship?

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Yes it's a TAAT, but it's a thread about MY thread. So for thise of you who haven't read my previous thread, I was due to be a bridesmaid on Saturday when my best friend decided she couldn't go through with it and I posted on here for some advice about what to do.

The MN massive provided me with some excellent advice and we got through an extremely difficult day. I received an email from MNHQ to say they had received a media request from the BBC who wanted to run the story, I politely declined. Now it would appear they have run the story and they have quoted me (and other posters on the thread) without my permission. Yes, I realise this is a public thread and that's they didn't need my permission but I'm still pissed off!

So I just needed to call the bride and tell her why her story in on the BBC website and needless to say she is not a happy bunny. Yes I know I deserve it but I REALLY needed advice!

Anyway BBC, YOU ARE CUNTS AND I WANT MY LICENSE FEE BACK! ( Bet they don't publish this thread)

Perhaps it might be wise to ask for the thread to be removed now as it's outing.

I just think people are so, so daft for posting anything personal or identifiable - it's a public website; what you post here is in the public domain and other websites will pick things up and are not unreasonable for doing so.

I am sorry, OP, that it's got you in the shit, because you seem like a good friend, but the fact remains it's a public site.

To conclude, blabbing online yourself ruined your friendship. Silly

The BBC's internal guidelines should have prevented this; look at 6.4.1:

www.bbc.co.uk/editorialguidelines/guidelines/fairness/contributors-and-informed-consent

If you make a formal complaint, make specific reference to this guideline.

6.4.3 is relevant too.

Ok TryHarderWillis, "tough tits"? Is that what we say women who post on here about their abusive partners, or the fact they've had their umpteenth miscarriage, or they desperately need advice about their SEN kids? Tough tits when their posts get splashed all over the BBC or the Daily Mail?

Yes, my situation wasn't life or death but some are and I think these people should be able to post with confidence that it will not be so called news.

MN are going to have to do something about this soon, or they'll be losing posters in droves.
There's nothing they can do about it.

YES ITS AN OPEN FORUM IT IS TOUGH
Clear?

I never said it was right.

I was wondering whether your friend would have even realised if you hadn't drawn her attention to it.

I could sort of understand if if it was the bride themselves asking MN for advice.

A friend's cancelled wedding isn't really up there with abusive partners/miscarriage SEN children as threads go.

I've only ever seen things like this posted on daily mail (or linked to I don't read it) nor stuff about SEN

Or am I wrong?
Link me to one ?

Yes yes @ sparklingbrook.

This has really put me off from posting anything personal on here. I'll stick to Facebook groups from now on. Thanks for the heads up OP. So sorry for the shit you're going through 💕💕

The poor groom. Not only as he jilted on his wedding day, he now has it all plastered over the BBC. As for your friend, I'd be pissed off too I'm afraid.

I just don't understand some people. They have a crisis and their first thought is to stick the problem on MN. Do people not have family and friends DS they can run stuff by?

It's the weddings the press like.. They are particularly vulnerable to getting pinched.

It's really shit, but how long have you been on MN? You could have hidden this much better. AIBU was the worst choice

YANBU. I emailed the link on the webpage [email protected] to say it was shameful & not journalism

I think you're being a hypocrite. You published details of your friends private life on a forum read by 100s of 1000s of people. On top of that, you owe your friend sensitivity and privacy, the media doesn't.

Why do people use AIBU for every single thing?

Lazy journalism. Will put people off posting genuine unusual situations.

And now you are drawing more attention to it/yourself by posting about it again. I saw that old thread but many people on here reading now won't have

I don't get it

I am not defending the BBc's actions

I think many many people who start threads on AIBU bow are trolls or journalists

Thank you mummatron3000

For people saying you shouldn't share as there are journalists out there.. the whole point of M.n is a support forum. If you can't ask for support what's the point, and people certainly shouldn't be told theyre foolish for doing so.