FIL has a cheek!

[BlueMoon17]

The other night DP received this message from his DF:

'So, Fathers' Day Sunday. I've just treated myself to a new watch. £13 between you three.' ( DP has 2 siblings)

Now I know it's not a lot of money but I'm fuming, I'm hoping it's a joke. I just find it so rude! We don't get DF anything for Father's Day usually except this time I've got DP a mug and cider as it's his first one this year.

I know I'm probably BU to be so annoyed I just find it so fucking cheeky!

You're fuming? Really?
It sounds like he's having a laugh to me.

It seems a bit shit for your DH not to get his father anythigfor Father's Day tho?

I hope it was a joke obut I don't think it was, he's done it before. I'm not getting my DF anything either, we're saving for a wedding and let's face it, it's just a made up day for shops to boost their profits 😅

Um...or quite nice to have 1 day a year where you make your dad smile by not being an ungrateful little shit and actually thanking him for stuff.

Fathers day gifts always make my dad feel a bit teary eyed and special. What's wrong with that?

God, get a grip. Nothing to fume over. In fact, it hasn't even got anything to do with you! If he was asking you to chip in, I could see why you'd be annoyed (still not fumeworthy though)

Oh and seeing as it apparently started back in the 1900s I seriously doubt the shops back then made it up hoping it would turn into this big commercial thing.

Good grief. How mean are you?

It's your DP's dad and Father's day, of course he should get him a card and a present. Weird not to. None of your business, really.

Wow. What a tight miserable git. 13£ between the 3 kids, or 13£ each?

I don't think that will halt the wedding in any way, so don't worry. Jeez.

You sound like a delight. Perhaps the poor guy feels sad about being ignored every father's day. And you are fuming over this? Perhaps the £4.33 you spend will make your fil feel appreciated so actually quite worth it really .

I hope you don't expect to be treated on Mothers Day if this is how you treat your father and fil

I've got everyone a card, and it's not the money (like I said in the OP) it's the assumption I find cheeky.

Since when is to ok to by yourself something and assume others will pay for it?

What makes you think FIL is ignored on Fathers Day? Just because he doesn't get a present?

Really? £13 won't stop the wedding from happening.

You're fuming over £13? You need to get a grip.

Why not treat him on Father's Day? You sound bloody awful to be honest.

He isn't your father. The message wasn't sent to you. Family's have different rules as to what is rude or funny. What does DP think? I bet he isn't upset by it.

Families I meant

I buy my own Christmas presents and make dh give them to me on Christmas morning. It's very sad if someone feels they have to do that sob, unless you are scraping the bottom of the barrel for pennies, give him the money and a card and maybe ask him what he wants next year, it's obviously important to him

DP was a bit put out because we rarely hear from FIL, and then to get that message with no 'hi how are you?' or anything. DP will do what he likes but I still find it cheeky.

Chill out. Bloody hell, the word 'fuming' is so overused on here.

It's 13 lousy quid. And it's nothing to do with you.

It's not your father and not your place to be fuming about it. You sound quite mean.

I think it's lovely he's got himself something he wants. Much better than socks, scratch cards or lotto tickets. It's only £13 op.

Please explain to me why I'm mean and awful?

FIL still gets a card, and we'd go see him too but he's going away with his wife this weekend.

Just because I find buying yourself something and expecting others to pay for it cheeky doesn't make me a horrible person.

Fil is sending a very clear message to his children that he is feeling neglected and unappreciated.
It would be kind to take note. And not just because father's Day is coming up.