Would you let your dd go to little mix concert?

[gutsywillow]

Okay so my question is if you are a feminist and disagree with the sexualisation of young girls would you allow your DD to go to a little mix concert?
My cousin has offered to take my DD with her DD. My DD is 9. Would I BU to say no?
I feel uncomfortable with it, firstly I don't want to be promoting this kind of portrayal of women and how women should look, secondly its really, really crap music.
Will she grow up and think, blimey why did my mum let me go to that? I thought she was a feminist!

let her go to the concert, she'll have a great time. If she wishes to be a feminist when she's older, fair enough, but just now? Let her go and enjoy herself.

let her go

I don't think I object to how they look as a feminist. That is about marketing but they go along with that presumably willingly. I trust my daughters to be aware (because they've been taught to be) of the ridiculous misogyny in society extending to objectifying women and children.
I do object to the content of their songs as someone who appreciates English and music. So no. I am not dpening money and time on them.

I am a feminist but I don't see anything inherently wrong with Little Mix

Does your daughter like Little Mix?

Don't know if this makes me a judgmental bitch, but I would definitely not want to allow it.

Your comment I don't want to be promoting this kind of portrayal of women and how women should look, secondly its really, really crap music is bang on.

I am torn with little mix as actually they like to give off a female empowerment message but at the same time wear hardly anything.

I have more an issue with my DD's liking Justin Beiber or Chris Brown than I do this girl band to be honest

Surely not wanting your DD to go to a concert because of the way the women dress is the opposite of feminism?

A feminist would say women can wear whatever they want.

Will she grow up and think, blimey why did my mum let me go to that? I thought she was a feminist

If you don't let her go she'll grow up thinking, blimey my mum didn't let me enjoy anything I liked because of her feminist views.

YABU not to let her go because you think the music is "crap" - that's subjective, and this is about her taste, not yours.

As for the feminism thing, I have to say that of all the bands in the world a 9-year old could get in to, Little Mix would be one of the better ones in my eyes. But that's besides the point. You can't shelter her from these things forever (or even now - I'm sure she's seen them on TV!), you can only teach her to be questioning and look at things with a critical eye, and then make her own choices.

Indeed women can wear whatever they want

Feminism is about choice

She's 9 it's completely normal for her to like crap pop music and want to be like all her friends. Seriously don't try and stop this phase as it's perfectly normal and she will get sense as she gets older.

Banning things never works and you just make it more attractive and more of an issue.

Don't make your dd 'that girl' whose patents never let her do the stuff other girls do. She will resent you and for what?

Yabu to let her go. Their singing will damage her taste in music forever more. .

A friend of mine offered to book tickets and to take my DD 11 but I said no for the same reason.
Their music on its own is quite catchy I suppose but the dancing in their videos is sexualised and their outifts are trashy, pvc basque-style - horrendous.

My DS, who is 9, watched the video and asked why they were dressed so strangely!

I wouldn't stop her, no. In fact, I am taking her.

I am always tutting that they look cold and need to put some tights on. But I'm not going to disapprove and stop my DD from going.

I think it's gone beyond being deemed that being dressed this way assumes they are sexually available. Girls go out dancing in micro shorts and bikini tops. That's their choice. And their right. That's why as a feminist I will take her (and am threatening to wear a bikini and micro shorts )

I know women can wear whatever they want but it is a reflection of a misogynistic society when women are more successful as music artists when they dress like sexual objects.
It seems that the consensus is more that I should allow her to go.
She does like them, I think, well we don't watch music videos really but she likes the songs we've heard. I haven't told her about the offer yet.

Girl bands whose lives are run under contract by rich men are the absolute antithesis of "female empowerment".

No, op, I wouldn't let my daughter go (if she was 9!) and similarly I gave said "no" when my son has been invited to attend the male stereotypical equivalent.

I don't have an issue from a feminist perspective as such. I just think their performance is far too sexy for young girls. No?

Back in "my day" it was All Saints in their combats and trainers.

women are more successful as music artists when they dress like sexual objects

This statement is simply not true. Adele for example is infiately more successful than LM and shows about 1% of the flesh they do.

Your daughter is going to be exposed to Little Mix et al no matter what, it's pretty impossible to enjoy anything if you take such a hard line approach. Let her go, but continue to talk about the expectations put on women and girls to dress and act a certain way. Little Mix didn't end up dressing all sexy in a vacuum, they're doing what society wants them to do to get ahead and I don't think it's fair to single out individual women who wear make up to work interviews, shave their legs and underarms, dress whatever way instead of pointing out why they (we) do it.

I am a feminist and I hate Little Mix. Their style, their habit of wearing slutty clothes, and their terrible voices. So I wouldn't waste my money by going to see them - and I certainly wouldn't let my 9yo.

I'd let her listen to their music at home but I'd talk to her about how male and female pop stars portray themselves - does Ed Sheeran take off all his clothes and do concerts wearing a thong? No? Then why do Little Mix?

I'd try to find some female pop stars who don't undress for stage too (Adele. Anyone else?) and talk about why, and what's important.

Let your go, why read into it all so much

"Adele for example is infiately more successful than LM and shows about 1% of the flesh they do"

Adele- and who else?

'Slutty clothes'? You're no feminist. A true feminist would allow other women to be, act and dress how they wish to.

Ed Sheeran I think is inherently worse. Have you noticed the theme running through most if not all of his songs