Would you let your dd go to little mix concert?

[gutsywillow]

Okay so my question is if you are a feminist and disagree with the sexualisation of young girls would you allow your DD to go to a little mix concert?
My cousin has offered to take my DD with her DD. My DD is 9. Would I BU to say no?
I feel uncomfortable with it, firstly I don't want to be promoting this kind of portrayal of women and how women should look, secondly its really, really crap music.
Will she grow up and think, blimey why did my mum let me go to that? I thought she was a feminist!

I would let her go. My DD is 8 and she is going to see them in Glasgow. She likes their music and tbh she doesn't pay attention to what they are wearing.

I think the only time she has ever mentioned it was when one of them was wearing a Newcastle United top and that's because her step dads a fan.

I don't have a DD but if I did and it was a band she liked I'd let her go. Just let her have a good time!

I went to the Spice Girls concert when I was 7. I used to love going to concerts when I was a kid.

Surely being a feminist means you would have no problem with how little mix dress? You sound like the complete opposite of a feminist.

their habit of wearing slutty clothes

That's a disappointing choice of word from someone who classes themselves as a feminist.

My DD is 10 - she likes Little Mix amongst others. We have talked about their clothes - why they dress like they do surrounding other issues in the music industry (led by her following the One Love concert).

My view as a feminist mother to a daughter is that she has autonomy to like whatever music she likes - I don't think it is right for me to say "you're not going, they're crap".

If she wanted to go I would absolutely let her

I'm taking my 6 year old to see them in a few weeks and we both can't wait. I love Little Mix, their songs are really catchy.

Goodness, I grew up with Madonna in her underwear-style costumes and survived.

I don't like sending children to pop concerts, regardless of the artist. 9 is far too young in my opinion, most likely she would find it too loud, too many people, just too much so I would save my money based on that.

DD watches the videos, we check before she is allowed to see it.

I tell DD that singers dress up, like actors they do it as they play a role. The way they dress on stage is not necessarily the way they dress/behave in private. They sell their music that way.

Dear god some of you are so precious

Why on earth would you not let her go because of what they wear?
I'm sure you won't let her go down the shop dressed in a body suit and heels!

We all know that it's a show, it's staged and as pp said your dd will know LM don't walk the dog dressed like that

I also agree there's some slut shaming on here, let people wear what they want, not what you think they should
Feminism supports choice

ER slutty clothes really please don't say that sort of bollocks to your dd will you. Total opposite of feminism and a horrible phrase.

Hope she enjoys the concert op.

Sorry, you're all quite right about my use of 'slutty' there.

Women are absolutely entitled to wear what they like, when they like - but girls should know that people will judge them for it - whether this is right or wrong - and when girls are deciding what to wear, they should think about the image they are portraying and projecting to the world.

There are plenty of ways for women to dress revealingly, yet classily.

And LM cannot sing! Their breath control is awful.

A part of female empowerment is about wearing what the fuck you want and no one else judging? I HATE the attitude of you cannot be a feminist if you wear skimpy clothes.

You can, if that's what you like wearing!

I agree with the pp who suggested to let her ago and use it as an entry point to talk about how women in music are presented differently to men etc. As for the music - perfectly normal to like crappy pop at nine, she'll outgrow it soon enough.

I don't think it's as simple as 'feminism is about choice' though. Can a woman call herself a feminist if her choices are demonstrably harmful to women as a group or class? I don't think so.

Yay, slut-shaming! Go sisterhood!

I think these concerts are far more about camaraderie and pantomime, rather than persuading young women to become sexually active.

The performers themselves are not children. I think I'd give my 9 year old the benefit of the doubt that she would understand that, at 9, she needn't be seeking to emulate what adults on stage have done.

I get that they won't notice what they're wearing but they do get messages from seeing their role models dressed like this.
To everyone who says they dress like that because they want to, I would argue that it is the pop music industry which is run by men who know that sex sells and continue to promote this look.
Oh I don't know now!

Re: "female empowerment"

Short piss - takey video challenging the notion that this is empowering

I would be thrilled that someone else would take her meaning I didn't have to go and endure it myself.

I have memories of a mother sat knitting at a Duran Duran concert back in the day.

I wouldn't allow it OP. Personally I see LM as contributing to the sexualisation of young girls and it makes me very uncomfortable.

Completely understand that this isn't everyone's view, though, and no judgement of others who make different choices.

To everyone who says they dress like that because they want to, I would argue that it is the pop music industry which is run by men who know that sex sells and continue to promote this look.

YY!

To everyone who says they dress like that because they want to, I would argue that it is the pop music industry which is run by men who know that sex sells and continue to promote this look.
Oh I don't know now!

Quite right. The main aspects of their look/stage performance will be designed by their management team to make money for the record label they are signed to (if they are who I think they are - one of those Pop Idol groups?). Of course they're grown women who have willingly signed up to this in exchange for money/sucess/presumably enjoyment - some people would say that's the choice aspect of feminism. I would have when I was younger, but I'm not so sure anymore. We don't make choices in a cultural vacuum.

I do think they need to pop on a cardi, and maybe some slacks Maybe insist your cousin brings said items with her and chucks them onto the stage.

But really I think if your daughter really wants to go banning her might be a bit mean. Have you listened to the music? Wings and Salute and both have pretty good messages in terms of female empowerment.

And back in the day Spice Girls went on about girl power whilst wearing bikini tops and falling out of Union Flag dresses, if my Mum had banned me from seeing them I think I'd have been devastated!

I don't bother too much about what Little Mix wear, but when I heard their lyrics about "hope she's getting lots of sex and she's not faking it like I did" I refused to have it on for DD (8) anymore. Because i don't want her singing along and I REALLY don't fancy trying to explain what it means.

I totally misread this as a thread about letting your DD mix concrete which I thought was an odd thing to be asked to do but a useful life skill nether the less.

Adele is arguably one of the most successful female singers of all time, she hasn't been sexualised...

YABU and reading way too much into what they wear.

"Adele is arguably one of the most successful female singers of all time, she hasn't been sexualised..."

Adele appears to be the Diet Coke ad of this thread.o

I wouldn't let my 9 year old go, but wouldn't judge anyone who does go.
Its totally up to individual parents what they allow.

My reason is just I think little mix are all about raunchy clothes and really not about culture/music. There's loads of other bands /pop acts who are slightly better, but LM wear so little and never say anything vaguely intelligent and I don't want DD to aspire to that.

For those who think Ed Sheeran is beyond reproach might I suggest listening to his songs and find one that doesn't involve alcohol or drugs
He is either in a bar or club or going to a bar or club or drinking beer or shots.

Oh and Doritos and pizza feature heavily