Would you let your dd go to little mix concert?

[gutsywillow]

Okay so my question is if you are a feminist and disagree with the sexualisation of young girls would you allow your DD to go to a little mix concert?
My cousin has offered to take my DD with her DD. My DD is 9. Would I BU to say no?
I feel uncomfortable with it, firstly I don't want to be promoting this kind of portrayal of women and how women should look, secondly its really, really crap music.
Will she grow up and think, blimey why did my mum let me go to that? I thought she was a feminist!

I too my dd (9) to a littlemix concert. Yes the clothes or lack of let a lot to be desired and the dancing was a bit very risqué but I soon realised that was all going over dds head and she just loved the music, atmosphere and generally had a great time ! Let her go, she'll outgrow them soon enough .

How can you know it's going over her head, though? It's the drip drip drip effect. The fact that there are women who think that there is anything liberating, equal or feminist about it shows how these messages are absorbed. And still the men are going around fully dressed while the girls are in their undies. Even so-called empowered women like Beyoncé.

Jesus people really overthink things don't They?

I took dd (10) to see LM last year. We had a lovely weekend away. She didn't mention their clothes or anything apart from what a great time she had. Infact her highlight of the trip was a free muffin on the Megabus Gold bus 😁

Well dd didn't mention the clothes or the dancing. She loved the music.

I'd rather be accused of over-thinking than failing to think at all. My own eyes tell me that girls and women, in their droves, dress in clothes that are impractical and restrictive. Hell, I did so myself till I stopped giving a shit. But why? Men don't tend to. They're not taking up heels and pencil skirts and vest tops. Is it because they aren't surrounded by images right from their youth telling them that they should do so?

DD is at a non-uniform school. One of the few stipulations they have is that shorts can't be too short. Fair enough, but looking around the shops it is extraordinarily difficult to buy a 7yo girl 'girls' shorts that aren't buttock-skimming. DD also once asked me to get her a new hoodie with pockets. Almost impossible in the girls' section in M&S, yet every boys' hoodie had pockets. Are little girls meant to be carrying their bits and bobs around in a handbag ? All she wanted was a pocket to stick her YoYo cards in!

Dd has plenty of clothes with pockets.

Dungarees, jeans, skirts, Oh and zippers/hoodies. Although I don't see why a lack of pockets means a girl must use a bag. Dd never takes anything out with her. If she's taking her picket money I'll carry it for her if she doesn't want to carry it.

You're really not seeing the point, are you?

When my daughter was 8, she was mad on the spice girls. I couldn't stand them but she wanted to see them in concert so I took her. Fortunately I was wearing industrial strength earplugs throughout. ( I still think they sounded like they were screeching down a Hoover hose at that )
She loved every minute of,has her ticket and programme in her memory box and still talks laughingly of how mum sat with her earplugs in while she almost popped with excitement.
It's not about you OP, its about your daughter and her enjoyment. There's lots of things that kids enjoy that adults don't.
We can't understand why a woman would want to sing and dance on a stage with her chebs half out, but I guarantee that your daughter won't even notice in her excitement.
Scarey spice danced and sang, well shrieked round the stage in the same way, it didn't make my daughter or countless other little girls do the same.

Fgs, I've got a bloody spice girls earworm now! 😭

Rivertam. No, I'm not.

The thing is. Straight from my dds mouth. She had a great time. That's the long and short of it. She isn't now dressing like them, she couldn't care less what they were wearing. She loved the atmosphere and the music. Why is that so hard to understand?

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This with bells on

sally it's not hard to understand. People disagree with you. That's all.

"But feminism is about more than choice."

This. I hate the whole "it's their choice" rhetoric that's always carted out in these debates. That choice does not exist in a vaccuum. The choice to act and speak a certain way affects the way women are viewed and treated by society.

"The thing is. Straight from my dds mouth. She had a great time. That's the long and short of it. She isn't now dressing like them, she couldn't care less what they were wearing. She loved the atmosphere and the music. Why is that so hard to understand?"

That's not hard to understand at all. It's just that there is more to it than that.

I am an old gimmer. I have seen much worse and more obviously exploited starlets.
Go. Enjoy. Talk to your daughter about whatever you think needs discussing.
Buy Gogirl and Girltalk for her. Tweenager crap but with positive messages about friendship, body image and assertiveness. Recently had a junior clothes model who was an average size and shape for example.