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To have flattened the sandwiches?

271 replies

DryBone · 10/06/2017 14:37

Been dieting for weeks, lost lots of weight and now below target. Thought I'd treat myself to a Burger King today. DH knee my plans as i had been banging on about it all week. I was really looking forward to it after eating like a saint all week.
So plan was today to go and do shopping and then pop to Burger King. Again I mentioned how much I was looking forward to eating this thing I'd been craving all week.

So we took the shopping home, I sort the dog out only to go into kitchen and see DH handing me a bacon sandwich. I said "what's that for?" So he said "well I knew you were hungry so I thought I'd save us the drive". I was fuming and told him I didn't want that, I wanted to go and buy what I'd been planning to buy all week! He said I was being a brat and ungrateful and if I desperately wanted BK I could drive myself - knowing full well I cant fucking drive!!!

So out of pure frustration I hammered the sandwich not realising that he'd put egg in it which splattered everywhere meaning I burnt my hand in the process. Now we're not talking.

AIBU to think he created this by going back on plans and not realising how fucking difficult dieting is when it's relentless for weeks?

Slightly hormonal so am prepared to hear I'm over reacting .

OP posts:
lavenderhue · 10/06/2017 23:08

This thread is hilarious. Grin Mumsnet at its best.

UrsulaPandress · 10/06/2017 23:15

Okaay Kp

I made the massive assumption that as they were out shopping and were going to pop to Burger King, but went home first, and that then he didn't want to drive to Burger King, that the shopping trip had been a drive rather than a walk. If it had been a walk the op could have walked to fucking Burger King and saved us all the bother.

scottishdiem · 10/06/2017 23:21

I do hope all the people defending the OP for her tantrum come back when a women complains that she did something for her husband and that said husband destroyed said something in a violent manner and defend the husband.

Anyway. OP, walk to BK. You've been dieting for a reason. Possibly too many BKs. Walk it and feel a little more satisfied when you eat it.

Oh, and never, ever tell or ask your husband to do something for you again. Yes he got it wrong but your reaction suggests he would be well not to get it wrong again in future.

Coastalcommand · 11/06/2017 00:09

Hammering sandwiches - or anything except nails - is not cool. YWBU.

Inarightpickleandchutney · 11/06/2017 00:56

Been there serial! Bern ages since I've been on here, what you want to chat about?

Inarightpickleandchutney · 11/06/2017 00:58

OD it's all in the first one, I totally understand!! Delicious I know, like lighting a fire though, God it takes hold!
So anyway, how are things on the surf?

Inarightpickleandchutney · 11/06/2017 00:59

Wrong thread!! As you were......

shockofthepops · 11/06/2017 01:01

You sound slightly mad

Ginger782 · 11/06/2017 01:21

This thread is hilarious Smile

Am I the only one who thinks a BACON SANDWICH is a treat anyway?!

Trifleorbust · 11/06/2017 03:24

I'd have eaten the sandwich then said. "Right, BK - let's go." Grin

Seriously though, he was BU to try to control your meal. If he didn't want to go to BK he should have just said no. But...you punched a sandwich. Moral high ground was conceded.

OnionKnight · 11/06/2017 10:50

You punched a bacon and egg sandwich?

Grow the fuck up.

TheStoic · 11/06/2017 10:57

He was passive aggressive. You were supposed to smile sweetly and say 'thank you Darling! even though you knew I wanted something different but that I'll appear very unreasonable if I don't suck it up

But you were just plain aggressive. Don't let dieting change your personality.

witsender · 11/06/2017 10:59

Both unreasonable. Him to decide for you that you weren't allowed what you wanted because he couldn't be arsed to drive, and then acting like a martyr...which kind of just proves his motivation for doing it.

You were unreasonable to react the way you did

loveslipstick · 11/06/2017 11:01

Definitely an over reaction but I chuckled as I read it as I can feel your rage, would definitely be something I would do too because sometimes it's all just too much!

ememem84 · 11/06/2017 12:00

I just showed dh this thread. He said if I went nuclear on a sandwich like hat he'd not be too impressed.

I'm imagining that ops dh thought maybe he was doing something nice. And has had it thrown back at him in a rather childish way.

I'd be kissed off if dh did that to me.

But the. Again I see a bacon and egg sandwich as more of a treat than a bk. but horses for courses. If you'd been going on about being so hungry maybe he thought he was doing the right thing.

CassandraCross · 11/06/2017 12:07

Utterly unreasonable for banging on about wanting a BK all week, diet bores are insufferable.

Totally ridiculous and over the top reaction to your dh.

Stop obsessing over food, stop banging on about diets and 'treats' and start behaving like a reasonable adult.

OculusReparo · 11/06/2017 12:37

Yesterday 15:13
IHateUncleJamie
1. Why didn't you go to BK while you were out?
2. What were you doing while he was making the egg and bacon sarnie? "Sorting the dog out"? Do you mean walking the dog? Because if not I don't understand how you didn't notice DH cooking.
3. To be fair, my DH would be bloody livid if I'd made him a meal that he then ruined by having a tantrum and squashing it. As would I be if he'd done it.



Sounds like a lack of communication and an overreaction.

I completely agree with this. Besides OP could have had the sandwich and then BK afterwards so it wasn't a big deal Confused

Brazenhussy0 · 11/06/2017 13:21

YWBU to smoosh the sandwich. But you know that already Grin

However, to those saying her DP made her a sandwich to be ‘nice’. No he fucking didn’t!
He didn’t want to take her to BK for whatever reason, and instead of saying that he didn’t want to (which would have made him the bad guy for disappointing her) he made a sandwich for her knowing fine well that if she reacted poorly to said sandwich that she would end up looking like the unreasonable one.
It was manipulative and twatty.

diddl · 11/06/2017 13:24

" Besides OP could have had the sandwich and then BK afterwards so it wasn't a big deal"

Only if her husband would take her there or fetch it for her.

It is annoying when you have been fancying something & then fpr whatever reason you don't manage to have it.

But it's not as if this was Ops only chance ever to have a BK!

EvansOvalPies · 11/06/2017 14:24

I just showed dh this thread. He said if I went nuclear on a sandwich like hat he'd not be too impressed

Ooh - so your DH has the last word on any argument? That's a tad worrying. Surely you have your own opinions and can make up your own mind?

Well, if ememem84 's dh has spoken, the rest of us 'wimmin' had just better shut up, hadn't we?

Alternatively, we can all just carry on as we were. Smile

EvansOvalPies · 11/06/2017 14:44

I am, however, calling GF on Drybone. 24 hrs after her OP, she hasn't come back once to either acknowledge people agreeing with her, or argue her point. Yet another who lights the touchpaper, then retires. Disappointing.

All a complete waste of our time, then, really.

Bettercallsaul1 · 11/06/2017 15:00

Maybe an attempt at Classics? It had possibilities. I saw it as a comic thread from the beginning.

Yujismum · 11/06/2017 17:44

Haven't read the whole thread so someone might have said this already......the crux of the matter is that he WASNT LISTENING to you or if he was, he didn't want to.

Folk not listening to other folk causes bloody wars! Same with dishonest communications. If you wanted a BK and you had said it often enough why did he chose not to hear it?

Littlelondoner · 11/06/2017 17:47

Burger king deliver...you are welcome.

Also when I was 3 I got send home from nursery for having the biggest toddler melt down ever over a cheese and marmite sandwich. Throwing it across the room as I hated marmite. I feel like this is not an entirly differant situation. Only I was a toddler.

It was a family joke for years afterwards if someone was angry "calm down don't get your sandwiches in a twist"

DistanceCall · 11/06/2017 18:04

He's a git. Does he have form for this sort of shit?