What are the logistics of cancelling a wedding?

[RestlessTraveller]

Fuck, fuck, fuckity fuck. I'm chief bridesmaid for my best friend TODAY, AND SHE's just decided she can't go through with it. We're in a hotel,both of the families are here as well as quite a few of the guests. Apparently drowning myself in prosecco is not an option, so I need practical advice.

Your friend isn't very emotionally intelligent, is she, not to realise until this morning? I don't think 'not the settling down type' is a very good excuse, and why didn't someone question her?

Poor, poor guy (assuming he's not abusive).

People are suspicious because recently so many threads have been lifted wholesale from MN and printed in the Daily Mail as "stories" .

It's natural to suspect that unscrupulous "journalists" may resort to seeding MN with controversial topics.

Does no harm to let the lazy fuckers know we're on to them.

You are 100% right, Shiny.

The Op is probably dealing with the fallout.

I'm hoping op is drinking the prosecco 🍾

For factual accuracy ...!

The E in esta stands for electronic.
No you don't need a physical copy or access to it to book a flight.
You can check in online and go the airport.
You just won't be allowed to travel if you don't have one.

You can check your esta status (if you've ever applied for one, online using your passport details)

As you were.

Anyway- I am sympathetic to the idea of the groom going to NY- but personally I think he ought to go on the honeymoon with his mates and get royally rat arsed.

My feelings are with both B & G, but especially the groom. It didn't happen to me, but a to a friend of mine (the groom). Awful.

That quote about Princess Diana was 'Your name is on the tea towels'. She said it herself in that long television interview, quoting one of her close friends when she thought about pulling out of the marriage the day before the ceremony. I read her biography by Andrew Morton and it's in there too. She found out about Prince Charles' long-standing and still ongoing relationship with Camilla the day before their wedding.

OP, your involvement should end when you crash out tonight. It's for the bride to sort out the wreckage. I wouldn't be delivering her to the airport or doing anything to facilitate her running away and leaving the mess to someone else.

Posters accusing a long time poster of starting a thread like this as merely a plot for a book need to give themselves a shake.

FGS.

blonde I know you don't need to have ESTA paperwork but you have to have one.

Nobody knows what was going through the mind of the bride. No matter how late it's still better than marrying someone you don't want to.

cotswold you dont need to have the details of your esta as it's linked to your passport, all you need to know is when it expires (they last for 2 years), it's a good idea to have a copy but not necessary.

If you dont know when it expires you can go to the esta website and type your pp no in and you can get the dets.

Totally awful of this lady, really feel for thr poor guy

Sorry the thread updated so i missed everyone else saying the same thing as me upthread!! You can ignore my repeated info!!

I'm a bit at the number of posters who think he'll never trust a woman again.

Sorry, but that is just ridiculous. If people truly think they could never trust a woman again because ONE woman treated them poorly, that is literally discounting half the human population. Billions of people. Utterly ridiculous, thinking it would be ok to go forward in life blaming all women and treating them with suspicion for the actions of a single woman.

And I would say the same in reverse (women trusting men).

It is going to be awful for the groom and families/friends too but marrying someone when you don't want to is pure folly. I know, I stood saying my vows having drank a bottle of champagne first thinking 'I can always get divorced'. My dad even said when we were on our own about to make the grand entrance 'it's not too late to pull out'. I couldn't bring myself to do that and we are now unsurprisingly divorced after years of trying to make a wrong marriage work.

I very much doubt I will trust a man again like I trusted my XH.

BewareOfDragons

Posters have said that it will take a long time for him to get over this and trust another woman to this level.

That is just common sense.

Well the daily mail can quote this....

Dont cancel the whole thing keep the afternoon drinks.

If I had forked out for a dress, hotel, traveled, got my hair etc done, bought a gift probally raking up £500 or so it usually costs to go to a wedding. Then it was canceled last minute and I didn't so much as get a drink and appology I would be a bit annoyed to be honnest.

Poor guy

Oh my goodness - hope it's all sorted.
Does sound like a book.. I'm not saying it's untrue though?

Cotswolds - no. So long as you have an ESTA in place st the time of check in and flight you're fine. No details need to be entered at any stage nor shown to anyone.

Only reason I knew dd's was out of date was when I went to check in the day before. She'd got a new passport and t wasn't valid and wouldn't let me check in, though wasn't saying why. Figured it out in the end and did a new one and luckily it was confirmed almost immediately.

Where's the OP gone? I want to know what the groom said
I think the OP said earlier on that the groom had been told that the wedding was off and that he had has family with him for support.

I suspect the OP's gone to try and get everything else officially cancelled.

I feel for both of them.

I knew it was right to cancel my wedding when I thought 'may be he will die before the wedding day and then I won't have to go through with it.'
Not that I wanted him dead but just that I wanted a get out.
The second that thought crossed my mind I knew I had to cancel it. That was 6 months before the wedding though, not 6 hours.

I´m a bit surprised some posters think they should go through with the wedding because the guests will have spent a lot of money on the day. I would hate someone to go through with a wedding they didn´t want just because I bought a new outfit...

Fucking hell, poor bloke and guests.