Your first child?

[SugarnetMum]

What age were you? Did you have to make a decision to keep the baby? Iv found out I'm pregnant today. Obviously I'm all over the place!

starfairlylights my initial reaction was that I wasn't going to have the baby, I said this anytime I ever thought about being pregnant. Now that I'm here its totally different. And the fact that the last few weeks when I didn't know for sure if I was pregnant, I was longing for a child...

You're all wonderful people!!! Dunno where I'd be without you all tonight.

First proper doctors appt Monday morning to do 'paperwork' nurse said.. So surreal. Looking forward to the first scan
I'm very lucky to have such a supportive caring dp too. I forgot I wasn't in this alone when I was crying after seeing the positive home test result, dragging on any clothes I could find and marching my way over to the gp, then realising he was by my side the whole way :)

Congratulations!

I was 33 when I had my first and only baby - planned.

I was 32 but a lovely mum I know had her first at 18 and next at 20. Both hers grown into lovely adults, both at Uni now and she and DH still happy together. Wish I'd started younger. Hope you come to a firm decision you are both happy with.

I'm 39 and currently 13 weeks pregnant with my first baby! Very much planned and wanted 😊

Sugar if you want this baby you can do it!! It's normal to worry and be thrown off. I felt the same until my 12 week scan and now my bump is growing its the most amazing feeing ever and I can't imagine ever regretting it now. It's magical (minus sickness and needing to pee a lot in between) congratulations to you and your dp. Xxxx

Its completely normal to be up and down about it all Sugar it's a huge thing. I definitely got more excited once I'd fully made my mind up and told everyone.
It helped me to have a plan.
Being completely honest. I wasn't fully sure I'd made the right decision. Not until my dd was in my arms and then I just knew, it was meant to be!
I've not questioned my decision once since then, even when her dad was being a idiot and I really thought I'd be doing it alone.

I think the fact youve put so much thought into this shows that you are a careful and considerate person, so I reckon you'll be a great and levelheaded mum. Congratulations

42 - not planned, DH much keener than me, so we stopped using contraception and I was hoping I was 'too old' to get pregnant - I wasn't .

17 but I was forced to have an abortion.

37 years old and one day. (Though DD was not meant to be born anywhere near my birthday and spent a long time in scbu. All ended well though). My one and only, and the light of my life.

25 very much planned baby. She took two years to conceive.

18 fell pregnant 19 I had my
Now 17 year old- best mistake ever! If I had the option to live my life again would do it the same

Plus my son says it great having a younger mum as he feels he can be open with me compared to his friends who has mums in the 50's and 60's. But I think any parent can have that if I'm honest.

16 when I fell pregnant, 17 when I had him.

He is about to take.his lastly few gcse's this week. We are incredibly close and I am so proud of him.

23. Yes had to make a decision to keep baby but best decision ever! I'm now 28 weeks

First pregnancy at 19. First child at 32.

Found out at 17 and had baby at 18. Huge shock but all worth it.

36. Planned.

I was 34 when I had DS. Very much planned, very much wanted.

Never wanted any more after I had him, I just wanted to give all my love to him.

29 and planned

OP, I hope this thread hasn't made you change your mind through positive stories. It's very rare that someone will say they regret having a child, even if in fact they would have very much enjoyed their lives if they had gone a different way.

I'm sure whatever decision you make regarding this pregnancy you will make work long-term, but I would advise at least considering the practicalities before making any firm decisions. (Things like a budget, do you have a job? What is maternity payment like? etc).

Just to provide an alternative view: I got unexpectedly pregnant at 21, when I was still a medical student. If I had kept the baby I'm not sure that I would have been able to complete my studies and my life would be completely different now. I had a termination and have never regretted it, am very happy in life (as I'm sure I would also be saying had I had the baby, which is sort of my point).

Think carefully about any decision you make, and continuing or terminating are both valid decisions. Good luck!

I was 22, unplanned.

I'm a single mum and it's hard but I love it and DS and I have a pretty comfortable life. His dad is involved.

43 and three quarters. Much wanted baby, natural conception after three miscarriages, light of my life.

I was 19 and baby was unplanned. I booked an appointment for a termination. I kept the baby though (he's almost 30!) Iwas right to keep the baby even if the circumstances weren't great, he's been a blessing.