Your first child?

[SugarnetMum]

What age were you? Did you have to make a decision to keep the baby? Iv found out I'm pregnant today. Obviously I'm all over the place!

When my mum was 19 she had an abortion even though she was married she felt like it wasn't the right time and wasn't ready, she later divorced the guy not due to the abortion and had me 8 years later also unplanned. I'm having my first baby which is planned but happened very quickly. This is a decision that you must make and you need to be ready in yourself no matter what others say it's your choice, you also need to consider if you can care for the child on your own even though you are happy now it is important to know that there is a chance you could be a single parent X X X all the luck and love X

Unplanned. I fell pregnant at 20. I freaked out and was going to have an abortion. Thankfully I then decided to carry on with the pregnant. Had a lovely afternoon watching my wonderful 10yro ds at his sports day today

Always surprises me how many people MN seem to have been told they couldn't conceive...and then conceived. Something going wrong there.

Anyway, hope you're ok OP

Cakedoesntjudge your story is similar to mine. I for one thought i wasn't able to conceive, and my partner thought he wasn't at all! And here we are, I think my gut instinct is to keep and raise the baby, if that's the right decision or not who knows!..

I was pregnant first time at 36 and went ahead with that pregnancy. I fell pregnant a year later and decided not to go ahead with that one (we had already both agreed we were having no more children)

22, father sperm donor left me (despite being together 18 months) but I already felt such a connection with the little bump, that I followed through with the pregnancy. I have a lovely, smart, caring 8 year old now, and the father has not played any role, but have been with DP, who is the best dad to my 8 year old!

Thanks everyone. Okay well as of now obviously I think I'll be a crap mum but that's me doubting myself and being scared. Besides that, the minute I found out my main focus is looking after my body and baby so hopefully that's a good sign..I want to be in my best form throughout this pregnancy..

I was 28 when I got pregnant and he was a shock as I conceived a month after I stopped trying after eight years of fertility heartache.

I was 20(21 6 weeks after he was born)he was planned,I was married at the time.

But honestly I think it's such a personal decision,were all so different and so we all lead such different lives.Do whatever is right for you.

Good Luck with what ever decision you make

Pregnant at 31, had him at 32. TTC over 2.5 years and very much planned.

Now 34 and about to drop his brother

Dh and I have been together since I was 17, and we both agree that we wish we'd had dc earlier. So many things got in the way, but if we'd known then what we know now we would have moved mountains to make sure it was possible.

I'm not going to lie, the 2.5 year delay was bloody difficult. And we'd always said previously that if we'd had an "accident" that we'd keep it. I suppose that, for us, this is the way it was meant to be. But that doesn't mean that we don't have regrets.

Pregnant at 19, 20 when I had her. She is now nearly 13 and the light of my life and the best big sister to my youngest. I was with and am still with the father and had some support but not a great support network (family were too far away and worked so couldnt help as much as I needed in that regard) but we managed. How do you feel OP?

If you want to go through with this pregnancy, do it. Have faith in yourself and your abilities. The fact that you're worried about not being a good mum shows that you'll do everything you can to be a cracking mum

I was 19, unplanned pregnancy. Considered abortion but after some excellent advice on Mumsnet I went through with the pregnancy and now have a three year old who is an absolute pleasure to raise, tantrums and all

I was 26 and he was a desperately wanted baby

My mum had me when she had just turned 19, we have a great bond now

Good luck with whatever decision you make

I was 16 (17 when she was born) we managed, she's 11 now and we are really close.

I had a lot of family support which helped massively. Is that something you will have?

19 unplanned (1970) had gynae problems stupid Dr reconed I wouldnt be able to get pregnant, boyfriend of the time assured me the same,sick as a pig ("had" to get married) emergency cecar, she is 46, do I regret it nah, not at all!

Pregnant at 18 (didn't know until I was 19), had DD at 19 (few weeks ago) and was the best thing to ever happen to me

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19, had DD at 20. Unplanned pregnancy - I too was told I couldn't have babies and then my coil decided not to work!

She's almost 3 now and the best thing I have ever, ever done

I was 27 and he was planned. He was conceived a month after a miscarriage.
He's now 20.

Actually, that should read that I was 27 when he was born. I was 26 when I found out that I was pregnant.

I was 17 when fell pregnant and 18 when had her,was unplanned and i was in a relationship with her dad from when i was 15-21.She is now a beautiful 16yr old who i couldn't be prouder off and an amazing sister to my ds8

Its not so odd that you're finding yourself looking at babies and interested by them OP, our existence as a species is dependent on that drive to have a child and raise it :-).
I had no interest in having kids (had politely held other peoples, but felt little interest) until someone handed me one when I was about 25, and suddenly everything flipped to feeling that I absolutely had to have a child! As others have said, it made me a better, stronger person, and brought me a kind of peace when I had been a very anxious person, that I can't really explain in words :-).
Good luck OP, with whatever you decide :-).

I was 18 nearly 19 when I had her. Definitely unplanned but the best thing I ever did, she's 11 now and my best friend 😊