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To be upset about a lads holiday photo?

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nostringstoholdmedown · 08/06/2017 18:58

My dp has gone on a lads holiday (4 of them.) He has Snapchat (yes he's too old for it.)

He's put a photo of a pint on ... opposite that pint in the corner of the photo is a pair of boobs in a bikini. She's clearly sat opposite him at the same table at the hotel.

I just feel a bit sick ... like he's obviously allowed to talk to women but to be sat drinking together makes me uncomfortable.

I've not said anything as I might be being completely unreasonable.

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HCantThinkOfAUsername · 08/06/2017 19:01

I would feel the same tbh..


MrsTerryPratchett · 08/06/2017 19:02

This happened once with my DH, well similar. He asked me to go away with him and a group of friends to a chalet. I said yes. Then he found out it was only the blokes and was told I couldn't come. Fair enough. But when he got home he said that some of them had invited a group of women they met back to the chalet. So, wives and girlfriends not welcome but random women they met; fine. Hmm

DH thought it was stupid and didn't go with them again.

It's not the talking to people per se. It's that women aren't welcome on these holidays except when they are strangers.


Alcea · 08/06/2017 19:02

Are his friends single?


gttia · 08/06/2017 19:03

I would feel the same as you. Can you do something nice for you this evening?


peachgreen · 08/06/2017 19:05

I'd feel exactly the same. Am very grateful that my DH's idea of a 'lads holiday' is a weekend hiking and camping!


nostringstoholdmedown · 08/06/2017 19:06

It's split evenly .. half single and half taken.


Glad I'm not being unreasonable ...

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Trifleorbust · 08/06/2017 19:07

What do you mean, 'a pair of boobs in a bikini'? I don't think you are necessarily unreasonable, but what sort of a way is that to refer to a woman?


nostringstoholdmedown · 08/06/2017 19:09

I can't see her face or any other part of her in this photo.

It's literally describing the image as I've seen it.

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GahBuggerit · 08/06/2017 19:09

Just text back "nice tits who's are they"

Could be totally boring like no other tables free?


MrsFurphy · 08/06/2017 19:09

I think OP means that's the only part of the woman visible in the photo, Truffle.


EggysMom · 08/06/2017 19:09

I'd respond, keeping it light-hearted but still letting him know that you've spotted the woman ... something like "Nice pint, nice rack - make sure boobs doesn't steal your drink!"


missiondecision · 08/06/2017 19:11

Are you enjoying the boobs or the pint?


SomeOtherFuckers · 08/06/2017 19:12

Probably one of his single friends is chatting her up and DP is just with them ... if they're in a hot place or on the beach then they're probably all wearing swimwear and this woman shouldn't be penalised because she has boobs.
I do understand the worry though - but just ask him


Trifleorbust · 08/06/2017 19:12

She is still a woman, not a pair of boobs in a bikini.


StereophonicallyChallenged · 08/06/2017 19:13

Trifle, I don't think OP meant anything by it. I read it as literally a pair of boobs in a bikini in the frame. Like her dp has tried not to show the women is there at all really.


RestlessTravellerTheSequel · 08/06/2017 19:14

Are his single friends not allowed to talk to women just because you don't trust your DP?


PurpleDaisies · 08/06/2017 19:14

If there are single men on the holiday, maybe they're chatting to her.

Do you trust your other half?


isntitapip · 08/06/2017 19:15

Group of lads on holiday are going to attract groups of women. Especially if some are single. What did you expect would happen? You either trust him or you don't.
Sorry, that sounds harsher than I want it to but I've had a glass of wine and don't know how else to word it


LedaP · 08/06/2017 19:15

So a woman is sat talking to them.

Thats it?


Northernparent68 · 08/06/2017 19:17

Would not you talk to a man if you were out with your friends


Trifleorbust · 08/06/2017 19:21


I disagree. "A pair of boobs in a bikini"? Surely the whole woman is "in a bikini"? The language is unnecessary even if that is all she can see, in my opinion.


EC22 · 08/06/2017 19:25

You're being silly, it's just a woman in a bikini, they're in holiday, they'll be surrounded by women in swimwear. You're over thinking it completely.


Amanduh · 08/06/2017 19:29

You are being unreasonable. A woman is sat near him? Shock


unfortunateevents · 08/06/2017 19:30

Maybe she is sitting there talking to them, maybe she is part of some entirely different party? Maybe he put the pint down on the table (or the bar counter?) in order to take the photo and this woman happens to appear in the photo? Is your husband not allowed to talk to women on holiday - or only allowed to talk to ones who are fully clothed? If you are going to feel upset over something like this, do you not trust him?


unfortunateevents · 08/06/2017 19:31

Interesting user name by the way OP, given the subject of your thread.

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