To be upset about a lads holiday photo?

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My dp has gone on a lads holiday (4 of them.) He has Snapchat (yes he's too old for it.)

He's put a photo of a pint on ... opposite that pint in the corner of the photo is a pair of boobs in a bikini. She's clearly sat opposite him at the same table at the hotel.

I just feel a bit sick ... like he's obviously allowed to talk to women but to be sat drinking together makes me uncomfortable.

I've not said anything as I might be being completely unreasonable.

I would feel the same tbh..

This happened once with my DH, well similar. He asked me to go away with him and a group of friends to a chalet. I said yes. Then he found out it was only the blokes and was told I couldn't come. Fair enough. But when he got home he said that some of them had invited a group of women they met back to the chalet. So, wives and girlfriends not welcome but random women they met; fine.

DH thought it was stupid and didn't go with them again.

It's not the talking to people per se. It's that women aren't welcome on these holidays except when they are strangers.

Are his friends single?

I would feel the same as you. Can you do something nice for you this evening?

I'd feel exactly the same. Am very grateful that my DH's idea of a 'lads holiday' is a weekend hiking and camping!

It's split evenly .. half single and half taken.

Glad I'm not being unreasonable ...

What do you mean, 'a pair of boobs in a bikini'? I don't think you are necessarily unreasonable, but what sort of a way is that to refer to a woman?

I can't see her face or any other part of her in this photo.

It's literally describing the image as I've seen it.

Just text back "nice tits who's are they"

Could be totally boring like no other tables free?

I think OP means that's the only part of the woman visible in the photo, Truffle.

I'd respond, keeping it light-hearted but still letting him know that you've spotted the woman ... something like "Nice pint, nice rack - make sure boobs doesn't steal your drink!"

Are you enjoying the boobs or the pint?

Probably one of his single friends is chatting her up and DP is just with them ... if they're in a hot place or on the beach then they're probably all wearing swimwear and this woman shouldn't be penalised because she has boobs.
I do understand the worry though - but just ask him

She is still a woman, not a pair of boobs in a bikini.

Trifle, I don't think OP meant anything by it. I read it as literally a pair of boobs in a bikini in the frame. Like her dp has tried not to show the women is there at all really.

Are his single friends not allowed to talk to women just because you don't trust your DP?

If there are single men on the holiday, maybe they're chatting to her.

Do you trust your other half?

Group of lads on holiday are going to attract groups of women. Especially if some are single. What did you expect would happen? You either trust him or you don't.
Sorry, that sounds harsher than I want it to but I've had a glass of wine and don't know how else to word it

So a woman is sat talking to them.

Thats it?

Would not you talk to a man if you were out with your friends

StereophonicallyChallenged

I disagree. "A pair of boobs in a bikini"? Surely the whole woman is "in a bikini"? The language is unnecessary even if that is all she can see, in my opinion.

You're being silly, it's just a woman in a bikini, they're in holiday, they'll be surrounded by women in swimwear. You're over thinking it completely.

You are being unreasonable. A woman is sat near him?

Maybe she is sitting there talking to them, maybe she is part of some entirely different party? Maybe he put the pint down on the table (or the bar counter?) in order to take the photo and this woman happens to appear in the photo? Is your husband not allowed to talk to women on holiday - or only allowed to talk to ones who are fully clothed? If you are going to feel upset over something like this, do you not trust him?

Interesting user name by the way OP, given the subject of your thread.