To be upset about a lads holiday photo?

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My dp has gone on a lads holiday (4 of them.) He has Snapchat (yes he's too old for it.)

He's put a photo of a pint on ... opposite that pint in the corner of the photo is a pair of boobs in a bikini. She's clearly sat opposite him at the same table at the hotel.

I just feel a bit sick ... like he's obviously allowed to talk to women but to be sat drinking together makes me uncomfortable.

I've not said anything as I might be being completely unreasonable.

What? surely the fact that I originally said in my OP that it's a lads holiday would make it very obvious to anyone reading that the woman isn't a partner.

This wouldn't bother me at all but I trust my dh more than 100%. If our relationship were not so secure it might worry me, but I still don't think he's necessarily done anything wrong by talking to someone on holiday.

I agree with Nando...it was my first thought. He's posted that so everyone can see he's near boobs.

I'd agree with this too ... if I were dating a 13 year old.

But surely we're not actually discussing the possibility of a grown adult man thinking 'being near boobs' is an actual achievement / something to crow about...?

P.S. Sorry, but 😂 at the very notion.

P.P.S. Sorry OP.

He's shared the photo navy because maybe he isn't doing anything wrong. A lady is sat at the table drinking with him. I honestly dont see a problem. If it's annoyed you that much just ask who it was.

Are you going to actually ask him about this or are you just going to continue hand-wringing on here - and drawing diagrams of a photo?! Just post the photo for heaven's sake - unless you think we can identify your dp from a pint of beer or the woman from a "pair of boobs"!

What is it he has done? I've got pictures of me abroad with people in bikinis and shorts on in the background. My DH has never got suspicious or questioned it.

Agree with Nando. He's doing the big I am - people often post pics of glass of wine, beer etc on table, but the glass is the total focus and nothing else in the pic to distract from the drink. Sounds like the boobs deliberately included as a laff for the lads. A bit sad and juvenile and it is disrespectful to you but probably doesn't mean any more than that.

Send Sniv's photo - it might make him think about the appropriateness of his photo, and it's funny.

Dowager SOME men would post a pic like that because they were near boobs! They honestly would even in their 40s!

I've seen them.

Send a photo of your boobs 😆

YANBU and I think you've had a hard time on here. It's one thing drinking with this woman but it says a lot that he's posted a photo of her boobs. Yeugh, he sounds pathetic.

MrsOver

I do know, I'm taking the piss a bit - but isn't it funny, really?

Just to be clear - I'm laughing at how daft some people can be. I think it's quite clear that the OP's DP doesn't fall into this bracket, as he wouldn't be this obvious.

You've been together a year.
You don't trust him.
Let him go.

I think you're being utterly ridiculous.

Some women on here seem to think that only their own CONSTANT VIGILANCE prevents their partners from being sucked into the vagina black holes that surround them. And I suppose they could be right, but what a sad way to live. Unless I implant a chip in my husband's brain, he will always be able to choose to cheat on me. There is nothing, absolutely nothing, I can do to stop him. And I don't. Either he stays faithful to me because he chooses to do so and his own moral code tells him it's what he should do, or he's not worth me and can fuck off.

If you are upset because he is in a place women also are, and one of them even dares to wear a bikini, then you don't trust him. So dump him. It's the only way, because you can't stop him, and I wouldn't for a second put up with my husband having issues with their being people of the opposite sex in the background of my photos FGS.

If he posted a snapchat of himself having a drink with a woman at home you would be asking who the fuck is that - so ask him what's the story? Although will you believe it when he tells you it's just a drink with a girl one of his mates pulled and he was there too?

If he posted a snapchat of himself having a drink with a woman at home you would be asking who the fuck is that

Er, what? Sure, you'd ask about a woman that was actually in your home, but he's in a public place. The woman has every right to be there whatever either he or you think about it, and quite possibly has nothing to do with him whatsoever. And if you don't believe what a partner tells you, why be with them?

Everyone wears bikini or similar on holidays. This woman could be anybody. Ask him and stop tip toeing around

Well I'm a weirdo on here because I don't like the idea of "lads holidays" like these and I'm so glad I'm married to someone else who doesn't.

But even if you don't have issues about them, yes he's clearly showing off. He's either forgotten that this could be seen by you and hurt your feelings, or doesn't give a shit anyway, the twat.

Some women on here seem to think that only their own CONSTANT VIGILANCE prevents their partners from being sucked into the vagina black holes that surround them.

I looked at his Snapchat, like I do everyone's on there. How is that constant vigilance?

If you are upset because he is in a place women also are, and one of them even dares to wear a bikini, then you don't trust him.
I wouldn't for a second put up with my husband having issues with their being people of the opposite sex in the background of my photos FGS.

When have I said I ever had an issue with him being in a place with other women? Do you think he told me he was going on a jolly to stay with monks?

Also, she wasn't in the background as in a random stranger who just happened to be in the same place. She was obviously sat with him. MAJOR difference.

I have no issue with bikinis and women wearing them, or even going topless.

Oh my god! OP - are you married to Mike Pence?