To be upset about a lads holiday photo?

[nostringstoholdmedown]

My dp has gone on a lads holiday (4 of them.) He has Snapchat (yes he's too old for it.)

He's put a photo of a pint on ... opposite that pint in the corner of the photo is a pair of boobs in a bikini. She's clearly sat opposite him at the same table at the hotel.

I just feel a bit sick ... like he's obviously allowed to talk to women but to be sat drinking together makes me uncomfortable.

I've not said anything as I might be being completely unreasonable.

I wasn't actually speaking about you there, nostrings. But there are a lot of women posting on MN who do seem to feel that any 'unauthorised' contact with people of an XX persuasion must be stopped, pronto, or terrible things will happen. And I do think that's a miserable way to think, for both partners.

What difference does it make if she's sat with him? He can talk to a woman. He can invite a woman to sit with him. He's not doing anything wrong. If you don't want him going on lads' holidays, tell him so, but don't approve them only on the grounds that he avoids women.

Well you'll never know if you never ask? :S...

Wouldn't you rather peace of mind than wondering and racking your brain?...

Harmless to ask who's she!

There isn't many women on MN who get feelings of insecurity over situations like this it seems. It isn't always about trust, just insecurity.

If this was my husband I would be a bit miffed. Not because I think he would fuck her. It would be my problem and I accept that but I admit it might make me insecure due to my own hangups to see my husband sitting with another woman in a bikini while he is on holiday.

MNers very rarely admit to feeling insecurity over anything their husbands do. I am pretty sure that if you questioned people in real life who you know well quite a few would admit they would be a bit put out by it because they are human. I am sure some people genuinely wouldn't give it a second thought but I think a hell of a lot would.

I am actually pleasantly surprised so many people have admitted they won't like it for once.

Then I'm assuming you're also pleasantly surprised by all the insecure and controlling men on here too.

Huh? Admitting you might get insecure about something doesn't mean you have to be controlling with it.

I can get insecure on the odd occasion because I am human. It doesn't mean I am ever controlling or make my insecurity anyone else's problem.

I have no idea why you are bringing controlling men into the conversation.

I wouldn't be happy OP

I think it boils down to that you were not happy about your DP going on a lad's holiday, OP, but you could handle it until you saw the boob photo. I can understand that. I would not want my DH to go on a lad's holiday. In my world, that's for single men. But then again I am 44, I am guessing you are younger than me.

I was fine with my DH going on a business trip until I saw the photo of him on what turned out to be a beach holiday fondling his 3 young female staff.

Not read all the posts. Maybe its the situation where you are in a bar and the only seats that are free are at a table already being used?

I have definitely seen two/three guys at a table with two seats free and have went over asked if anyone is sitting there? No? Can we please sit? No other reason other than needing a seat?

Could that be a possibility? Have you asked him?

I'd be very miffed by this op.

No, Haliez13, you're mixed up. Op's description of the photo much more accurately describes Bill Clinton and his carefree escapades with a young intern complete w DNA evidence.