To be upset about a lads holiday photo?

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My dp has gone on a lads holiday (4 of them.) He has Snapchat (yes he's too old for it.)

He's put a photo of a pint on ... opposite that pint in the corner of the photo is a pair of boobs in a bikini. She's clearly sat opposite him at the same table at the hotel.

I just feel a bit sick ... like he's obviously allowed to talk to women but to be sat drinking together makes me uncomfortable.

I've not said anything as I might be being completely unreasonable.

Don't worry, OP. If there was anything funny going on I'm sure he wouldn't have uploaded it.

If you don't have any reason not to trust your dh? I don't see the problem. Just because it's a "lads" holiday doesn't mean there won't be any female's there at all!

I dont get the issue, so hes took a photo of his pint and a woman is in the background.

Hes also not to old for snap chat. Its a photo, unless you dont trust him, I am not seeing the issue tbh.

Has he taken a photo of the pint but the photo is really of the boobs?? That would piss me off.

im not seeing the problem here

So he's sent you a picture of his pint poolside and in the background there is a lady (with some boobs) wearing a bikini?

Yeah. No problem with that at all. I've yet to be poolside where long-sleeved vests and burqas are the enforced dress code for women.

Is it deliberately framed to make the woman's chest a faux-unintentional focus point? Why would he send that to you? If this is as it reads he sounds like a sleazy, egotistical asshole.

If it was a photo taken in an intimate setting like a bedroom then I can understand but if it's by the pool or on the beach or even just outside (presuming he went somewhere sunny) it can be totally innocent. Women in bikinis on holiday is normal.

Man talks to woman. Must be an affair. Leave the bastard.

Can you print a large picture of a man's tuxedo'ed chest and take a carefully framed picture of a glass of champagne in front of it and post it back at him?

"I just feel a bit sick ... like he's obviously allowed to talk to women but to be sat drinking together makes me uncomfortable. "

Whopps. I misread this part of the OP - sorry about that! However, this is a little bit weird - he's out having a drink and having a chat with a human being who just happens to be someone of the opposite sex. Really no big deal (unless there's a huge backstory here).

hang on
you're saying he deliberately took a picture of a woman's breasts to display on social media?

That makes him pretty grim.

or are you saying you're jealous that he's chatting to a woman in a bikini?

So a woman is sat talking to them. Thats it?

This.

How dare he talk to another woman without you with him to keep an eye on him.

It's probably one of his single friends chatting to her

Unless he's cheated before or you have another reason not to trust him you're being unreasonable

If you were on a Girls holiday with some single mates, would you ban them from talking to men in swimming trunks when you were in their company?

YANBU. I would have it out with him

The woman might well have nothing to do with him.
But surely he was aware of what he was taking in photo? So he knew perfectly well that there was a pint but more importantly very visible boobs there. And just the boobs, not a face etc...

I personnaly think it's sleazy.

What you answer back to that photo?

If I was on a trip with just women, I certainly wouldn't take a photo with a glass of wine and just a man's speedo in the background.
Very different that seeing a torso for a man.

In that situation, boobs are clearly seen a sexual object (otherwise they wouldn't be featuring just on their own)

I'm struggling with this, is the women ok with the fact she is being plastered all over your fellas snapchat ?.Only if I was on holiday and some bloke took a sly picture of my chest and sent it to his mates I'd go apeshit.For me that's the main issue, I may of read it wrong and she likes this sort of thing, but I doubt it.

That would wind me up too!

Eggsymom has the right idea - gently make sure he's aware. I'm sure he'd do similar if the situation were reversed!

Can you print a large picture of a man's tuxedo'ed chest and take a carefully framed picture of a glass of champagne in front of it and post it back at him?

Excellent suggestion. Send him something like this...

From the photo I wouldn't have been able say who else was there. His mates could have been else where ...

All I can 100% say is that it's him and a woman having a drink together (she has a drink in her hand.)

I'd post the photo on here for opinions but obviously out of respect I won't (even though you cannot see her face).

Like I said I might very well be being unreasonable ... and I haven't actually said anything to him about it.

thanks Sniv for making me laugh.