AIBU to ask for your most appalling examples of sexism?

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I've learned over time and with bitter experience my dad is terribly sexist. Every time I see him he has something grim to say that erodes my soul and chips at my confidence.
I won't give examples of his crimes but his father -my grandfather- had several girls and my father was his only son. When my fathers siblings went on to have children of their own, they all had girls (7 in total). My grandparents said practically nothing, but then they rarely seemed to at significant events.
When my younger brother was born, my grandfather went to visit my mum in hospital. He had never visited after any of the births of his other grandchildren and presented my mum with a single red rose, then left.

Cheer me up with some of your tales.

My mum yesterday "what does dh think about the election result"

He wasn't there she hadn't asked what I thought. Her reasoning, well it'll affect him at work. It'll also affect me. But...

My mother is the most sexist person I know,

She was a surrendered wife, and brought me up in the sane mode.
Always to bow to male authority, never to question.

I remember when my kids were playing, buzzing around the room, pretending to fly a plane, my 5 yo DS said I'm a pilot, I'm flying a plane, my 4 yo DD joined in, saying "Im a pilot too, I'm flying a plane". My mother said loudly to my DD- don't be silly, you can't be a pilot, you have to be an air hostess.

Not sane- same. ha ha.

I drink black coffee and my bf likes latte. We often switch cups.

Also, when looking at a daycare for my DD, teacher pointed at the toy train set and said "the boys area" and to the doll house and said "the girls area".

SIL's ex was handy with decorating and plumbing and other things, you know "man jobs" as he put it. When DH and I moved in to our old flat we needed to decorate and do other bits and bobs and had planned everything that needed doing. When we were at work one day MIL was staying at the flat as someone was coming round to fit the oven in. She invited SIL's ex over who went ahead and he went ahead and started doing things without consulting us. We got home and we're grateful for the help bit explained that we had planned to do this and that. The ex laughed saying I wouldn't be able to do x,y,z and DH laughed too before taking him over to the washing machine that I had plumbed in myself. Ex then shouted me over and said how impressive it was that I did that then said he had a really important job for me and it's definitely something only I could do as if I was a fucking toddler. He asked me what letter came after 'S' I was and replied 'T?' to which he said "I thought you'd never ask. Milk and no sugar." DH very calmly told him to stop being a patronising twat and to apologise to me. Which he did but insisted it was just banter. I accepted the apology but DH told him that he won't tolerate him speaking to me or his sister like that and he needs to change his sexist attitude ASAP.

DH later apologised for him and then said he knew I could stand up for myself but felt that he would just brush it off and the ex needed to know he was wrong, it was just a shame he needed to hear it from a man.

I knew there and then that I definitely wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.

I've a couple. Ds and a neighbours son had a falling out. I called to their house to sort it out. The mum answers the door but cuts me off when I explain why I'm there. It's not "our" business apparently. I misunderstood and thought she meant her and her husband but no. It was none of the women's business. It couldn't be sorted until he returned home. Later that day he knocked on. He asked for dh. Dh was at work. However our male friend was there so he said he'd speak to him instead. Friend was like and said I was his parent not him. Neighbour cut me off with a finger held up as if to shush me. Then said he'd call back. I lost my cool and told him how rude and sexist he was. He then told me as a white woman I was lucky he even passed the time of day with him. Him, his wife, dh and our friend are all Asian. Dh made it his business to call on him that afternoon.

Me and dh went couch shopping. We were deciding between two styles when the assistant came over. He asked if we needed any help. Dh started to ask him something and he cut him dead and said "I'll speak to the organ grinder not the monkey. We were both . We got up and left.

I qualified as a barber 28 years ago and have worked in the industry ever since. A few years ago I was teaching a barbering course at the local college and one of my students gained work experience with a local barber. This ignorant t* decided that as a female I couldn't teach barbering and rang the faculty head to complain. Luckily my boss ( a woman) told him where to get off in the most diplomatic fashion. I have seen some of his work and quite frankly it's shit.

but when positive sexism does happen there are never complaints

Could you give an example of 'positive sexism'

Our new neighbour (not attached thank God) came round to introduce himself holding a chainsaw. He had already begun his charm offensive by hacking into our hedge and making holes in it. Then told us he was going to hack the height down - it affects him in no way whatsoever other than not being able to look into our garden, no light issues etc. My dh told him he could not and he looked extremely shocked. When I tried to get a word in to point out he had bought his house with the hedge in situ, he glared at me and said "Look, you must just listen to your husband". It reminded me of The Handmaid's Tale.

Previous job. In a small office, company paid for all the men to enjoy an evening at a go kart track. One rather feisty female colleague asked to go and was told it was full, despite one of the men saying it wasn't his idea of fun. To avoid a full scale row, company hastily arranged a pampering session at a hotel the next week, making it clear this was women only.

That 'solution' should have caused a bigger row, compounding sexism.