To be mortified, or am I overreacting?

[mynotsoperfectlife]

We are on holiday at the moment, and when chatting to another family at the cottage we are staying at, DH announces that the children 'weren't planned.'

We've had a bit of a row about it. He says I'm being ridiculous and over reacting. I'm sitting upstairs avoiding him. Am I?

How was your day OP?

Are you still feeling the same? I advised you to grow up a bit last night, but your later posts make me think that there is more to this. Perhaps posting in another topic might be more supportive?

Are you feeling any better now?

A little bit thanks. It's been a tough day and I just want to go home to be honest.

I hope everything is alright, op.

PancakeFlipper

Grow up OP

Pancakeflipper

Surely it's part of a relevant conversation and he didn't wander up and say "see those - unplanned they were."

I've been in such a shitty mood this evening and that comment has made me cry with laughter! 😆😆

An unplanned child doesn't mean an unwanted child. You're completely overreacting

Oops! Didn't see it had got to page 9 already

But OP, I do get where you're coming from a bit.

We've had holidays where DH bangs on to those we're chatting with about the kids being bad sleepers/bad eaters and says they're 'free-range', and it can feel like a shopping list negatives which just seem unnecessary for the purpose of small talk.

Yeah, if we could maybe leave the 😂😂😂s now and find some other hilarious thread?

You are funny op.

Lasagne can you please read between the lines here? A little tiny bit?

Or even just read. 🙄

That, too

Are you still feeling poorly? Or just (justifiably) pee'd off?

Both, to be honest.

I started feeling unwell a couple of days ago. I was so exhausted today I did fall asleep for abit but now I'll be up half the night as I always am if I sleep during the day

DH annoyed me because I didn't appreciate the implication that I single handedly created the children. He was then absolutely awful to me last night but has been lovely today, so who knows

Husbands, huh. Drive me potty. Hey ho.

He was then absolutely awful to me last night but has been lovely today, so who knows

I think you do.

Best staying quiet and not arguing. I forget my own rules sometimes.

OP, it wasn't made clear in your first post that he said "she didn't plan them", it says "they weren't planned" but ho Hum, semantics and what not.

Neither of mine were planned, in fact DD2 was made when I was in medical menopause so very unexpected.

I suspect if you're feeling under the weather for whatever reason it won't be helping you and I'd bet on DH knowing he made a social boo boo, realised you're upset and is trying to make light of it to ease his conscience.

I hope you feel better soon!

Op maybe it would be helpful to you to start another thread ( not about this) about other things and just talk?clearly there are other things going on.

I think this comment isn't the issue at all. The comment shouldn't cause any consternation to anyone, as has been pointed out ad nauseum, and which you accept. The issue as is usually the case is about a host of other things and further examining throwaway comments about family planning will not solve anything

Walking through town with my dad when I was about 13, some guy trying trying to tout for business asks him 'have you had an accident in the last 3 years that wasn't your fault?' My dad says no. Guy then says 'what about the children?' My dad replied 'nope, they were planned.'

Probably the only nice thing my dad has ever said!

Anyway...as you were.