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When you find out that your husband has some really disgusting habits

230 replies

Gaaaah · 01/06/2017 17:24

Firstly, not a poo troll.

I never realised how fucking disgusting he is until I happened to walk into the bathroom one day when he was having a shower and in the bottom of the shower tray was a massive lump of shit that he quickly stood on and pretended wasn't there. I was visibly horrified but apologised for going in and backed out sharpish.

I put it out of my mind. I don't even know why. I should have confronted him right there and then but I didn't. I haven't encountered anything like that again. More often than not he'll actually call me in to chat about something to do with his day that he feels won't wait until after he's showered.

He had a shower today after work. He forgot to flush the loo. So when I've gone to use it later, I can see that there's no toilet paper down there. He hasn't wiped his arse after a shit. Then he's got straight into the shower. My shower. That I scrub on my hands and knees.

It's disgusting, I know. Worse than poo crumbs man. And i feel absolutely ashamed and repulsed by him.

OP posts:
Unicornsandrainbows3 · 02/06/2017 02:03

Oh my god you poor thing!

Reading all this makes me even more glad that I am single, and now even more determined to stay so.

HappenedForAReisling · 02/06/2017 04:49

OP you really need to put your foot down about this sort of shit......

takeabreakthatslife · 02/06/2017 05:14

Sharing A flannel is disgusting

Anyone who is not a toddler / recovering from a car crash etc not wiping properly and leaving 'poo Nuggets' and bed skids and shitting in the shower is disgusting. I would of had to say something at the time like 'what the fuck are you standing on?'

pigeondujour · 02/06/2017 06:06

I'd be spraying the shower with bleach after he was done.

Surely not?!

BitOutOfPractice · 02/06/2017 06:11

Beyond. Grim.

BeeMyBaby · 02/06/2017 06:26

Obviously there is no reason to shit in the shower or for shit to somehow have ended up in the shower. However, maybe he doesn't like loo paper and you could suggest he gets a wee jug in the loo to wash with after. DH would never use loo paper as he finds it rank (he says it's basically sometimes just rubbing it around than properly getting rid of every trace like when you wash), and he has convinced me of the same. Our DDs also use water to wash rather than loo paper so I know they are very clean too.

MrsPeelyWaly · 02/06/2017 06:45

Obviously there is no reason to shit in the shower or for shit to somehow have ended up in the shower. However, maybe he doesn't like loo paper and you could suggest he gets a wee jug in the loo to wash with after. DH would never use loo paper as he finds it rank (he says it's basically sometimes just rubbing it around than properly getting rid of every trace like when you wash), and he has convinced me of the same. Our DDs also use water to wash rather than loo paper so I know they are very clean too

In the Middle East people use what is known as a 'bum gun' after the've been to the loo. Some people use tissue before washing with the gun, and others just go straight to having a wash. I now have the bum guns fitted in my house in the UK and you can get them from Amazon. They're not so fiddly as a wee jug, or as unwieldy as a cut down fabric conditioner bottle Wink But, if you were to fit the bum gun you need to make sure the water pressure isn't so high it blasts you off the loo and rips your bottom to shreds in the process.

BeeMyBaby · 02/06/2017 07:08

@MrsPeelyWaly yes we use a spray from the mains when we visit North Africa, however I've never ever heard it referred to as a 'bum gun' and I'm going to try to remove it from my mind now. In the central mosque for our city they also use jugs, I presume it's because people can make a real mess with the hose version if they turn the pressure on too much, like you warned about.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 02/06/2017 07:33

There are no words. Well, actually there are two words: fucking grim.

Lexieblue · 02/06/2017 07:47

I feel really sorry for you OP, just beyond vile. I'd suggest wet wipes on the loo, but if he's intentionally taking entire craps in the shower and then standing on it (oh god you poor thing, this is your life :( ) I don't think a pack of baby wipes will help you here Confused

I second the poster who said is it some kind of fetish/fascination because it's not just lax hygiene if he intentionally does that is it?

The fact someone has done this and come up with a name for it Shock

StrangeLookingParasite · 02/06/2017 08:18

But, if you were to fit the bum gun you need to make sure the water pressure isn't so high it blasts you off the loo and rips your bottom to shreds in the process.

OMG, this mental image! Grin

yorkshapudding · 02/06/2017 10:35

I second the poster who said is it some kind of fetish/fascination because it's not just lax hygiene if he intentionally does that is it?

This is why I would have to confront him. I would need an explanation for the behaviour, not just to tell him "it's disgusting". He already knows it's disgusting, hence he tried to hide it. I just can't imagine anyone could be so incredibly lazy that they would rather shit in the shower than walk to the toilet.

BlahBlahBlahEtc · 02/06/2017 11:24

waffle stomping

I laughed way too hard at that and now my toddler is asking me if I'm ok because I cried a little.

MrJohnsonAteMyCustard · 02/06/2017 15:02

Maybe he was having 'difficulty' with evacuation and doing it in the shower 'helped'?? I'm clutching at straws here Grin

picklemepopcorn · 02/06/2017 15:56

Waffle stomping and bum guns. Never let anyone say MN isn't educational.

Is there a proper name for a bum gun? No, I'm not thinking of looking online and getting one installed. Course not.

Fragglez · 02/06/2017 16:40

DB house shared with a girl at uni that used to shit in the shower and stamp it down the plughole.

Apparently it came up in conversation (god knows how!!) and she was confused as to why everyone else who used the shower was upset. She thought it was perfectly normal.

I can only assume her whole family did it!

HappenedForAReisling · 02/06/2017 16:46

Proper name for a bum gun is a shattaf. Which is even funnier than bum gun, I think.

TheWaffleStomper · 02/06/2017 16:58

You called?

AlansLeftMoob · 02/06/2017 16:59

I'm laughing so hard that there's no sound coming out - OP your husband is disgusting, but WHO SHARES A FLANNEL?!

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/06/2017 17:23

Oh god op

He's disgusting I couldn't cope with that

DarthMaiden · 02/06/2017 17:27

Pickle re: "Waffle stomping and bum guns. Never let anyone say MN isn't educational"

I agree. Flannel sharing is also gross...

As a side tangent does anyone else remember the bum towel thread?

I buy packs of cheap ones and keep them in the bathrooms. One basket for clean ones and after one use they go in the dirty flannel basket and get washed with zoflora in the washing machine.

Was so Shockb--y this thread i scoured the bathrooms with zoflora and checked the drain in DH's shower for evidence of stomping. No need in mine as I know I don't do this! Thankfully none found not that I expected it - he's a clean freak, though unfortunately not a tidy person.

LakieLady · 02/06/2017 17:48

Outing myself now. I once shat in the shower.

In my defence, I had had some sort of bug, and thought I had recovered enough to risk farting.

Sadly, I was mistaken. Blush

PollytheDolly · 02/06/2017 17:50

Reasons for divorce:

Adultery or
Unreasonable behaviour or
Shitting in the shower.

Needs to be made law.

user1493759849 · 02/06/2017 18:19

This is gross beyond belief. As someone said waaaaaay back in the thread, no wonder passion often goes in a relationship when you have a man who leaves skids on his knickers, nuggets in shower, shit on the towels, shit on the sheets etc. ( Women don't seem to do this . Hmm )

And yeah, sharing a flannel is foul, so is sharing a toothbrush or towel, or exfoliating glove. I don't care if you shag. No, just no! It's utterly fucking grim. I keep my 'hygiene and cleanliness stuff' in a place away from DH, so he is not tempted to use it.