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When you find out that your husband has some really disgusting habits

230 replies

Gaaaah · 01/06/2017 17:24

Firstly, not a poo troll.

I never realised how fucking disgusting he is until I happened to walk into the bathroom one day when he was having a shower and in the bottom of the shower tray was a massive lump of shit that he quickly stood on and pretended wasn't there. I was visibly horrified but apologised for going in and backed out sharpish.

I put it out of my mind. I don't even know why. I should have confronted him right there and then but I didn't. I haven't encountered anything like that again. More often than not he'll actually call me in to chat about something to do with his day that he feels won't wait until after he's showered.

He had a shower today after work. He forgot to flush the loo. So when I've gone to use it later, I can see that there's no toilet paper down there. He hasn't wiped his arse after a shit. Then he's got straight into the shower. My shower. That I scrub on my hands and knees.

It's disgusting, I know. Worse than poo crumbs man. And i feel absolutely ashamed and repulsed by him.

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ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual · 01/06/2017 18:17

I honestly can't imagine the act of shitting in a shower. It's repulsive.

Unfortunately he's not the only one. I went to the gym recently and someone had left a poo in the shower there too Angry. Fucking animals.

PeaFaceMcgee · 01/06/2017 18:18

Yup. Disgusting and pathetic.

Writerwannabe83 · 01/06/2017 18:18

I'm with you OP - it sounds disgusting!!

What's he using in the shower to clean between his bum cheeks after having a poo? Is he just using his hands or a shared sponge? Either option are disgusting in my eyes.

And as for standing on a poo in the shower to try and hide it....I don't even know what to say.

BillyDaveysDaughter · 01/06/2017 18:21

Bloody hell. Thats awful!

Idrinkandiknowstuff · 01/06/2017 18:21

Utterly vile. I once caught my XH pissing in the kitchen sink and I thought that was bad enough, but you win.

LucieLucie · 01/06/2017 18:22

Eww that is rank!! I bet he's one of those disgusting cretins who shit in the public swimming pool too.

Yuk

Gaaaah · 01/06/2017 18:23

He uses his hand to wash with. Fortunately.

Christ! I'm saying fortunately but I'm not actually very fortunate to be sharing a shower with this heathen, am I?!

Ugh. I think I'd convinced myself I was imagining it the first time.

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shinyredbus · 01/06/2017 18:24

Hi Op - maybe you need to tell him how you feel. Seeing as how he 'pretended' to step on the poo - he is obviously ashamed and knows what he didn't was wrong, he's probably mortified and doesn't know how to bring it up/say sorry etc.

I would suggest just being honest.

Davros · 01/06/2017 18:26

Mine leaves skids on the sheets and regularly pisses in the sink if he can't sleep at night (no downstairs loo). I once cleaned out the shower plug after DD had been in there as she leaves so much hair and found that the strange blob clinging onto the side under the plug cover was a small poo nugget left by DH earlier. I was pulling the hair out and rubbing big round the plug with my hands Shock

LordBeefCurtain · 01/06/2017 18:30

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yorkshapudding · 01/06/2017 18:32

He did a pooh in the shower...then stood on it??? What the actual fuck?? That's repulsive! Confused

OP in your shoes I would have to confront him. If nothing else I'd want to know why. What possible motivation could someone have for shitting in the shower when there's a perfectly good toilet right there?? Extreme laziness? Some kind of fetish? Revenge? I don't get it!

gunsandbanjos · 01/06/2017 18:32

Davros!! That is beyond vile... did you bleach your hands afterwards?

CurlyWurlyCatcher · 01/06/2017 18:34

Davros what the actual fuck? Did you question him on it?

Oh my god, I'm taking back every time I've ever moaned about DP and his actually not so bad at all hygiene habits

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haveacupoftea · 01/06/2017 18:34

God I don't know, I really think I'd have asked him in the first instance why he was standing on a shite in the shower Confused

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/06/2017 18:35

Hang on, hang on, hang on........

there is something amiss here. Why the hell would he shit in the shower when presumably there is a plug hole with little holes that are a lot smaller than your average turd?

PoorYorick · 01/06/2017 18:36

I feel sick. OP, I think you've got serious reasons to talk frankly to him about this because it's not in the realms of normal secret disgusting habits.

LordBeefCurtain · 01/06/2017 18:36

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iffikitty · 01/06/2017 18:36

Perhaps it was a fart gone wrong.

How would that go down the plughole, he must wiggle it down with his toe. No toe sucking antics for you OP.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/06/2017 18:38

If this real, then surely it must have been a one off? Because I've got this image of a turd trying to go down a plug hole, and then the DH picking it up and carrying it to the toilet, dripping pooey water everywhere.

This can't be right.

Davros · 01/06/2017 18:38

Oh yes, my DH knows in no uncertain terms that I am NOT his mum! He has got much better after a great deal of shaming but it's taken time. I bleached and scrubbed my hands with Zoflora!

yorkshapudding · 01/06/2017 18:39

Why the hell would he shit in the shower when presumably there is a plug hole with little holes that are a lot smaller than your average turd?

Fucking hell...I hadn't thought of that..now got a mental image of OP's DH trying to mash a steaming great turd down the plughole with his foot Shock

Boak.

MikeUniformMike · 01/06/2017 18:39

LTB, obvs.

LadyGlitterSparklesSeriously · 01/06/2017 18:40

He shat in the shower, you saw it so he STOOD on his OWN TURD to hide it?

Fucking hell. This man is a fucking animal. Bathes in his own shit.

This wouldn't be funny for me either.

Elendon · 01/06/2017 18:41

That's just gross. It's so gross, it would put me off having sex with him. He should be on his hands and knees washing it for the next 10 years.

hmcAsWas · 01/06/2017 18:41

I am pretty sure that this is why sex dwindles in many long term relationships. To my knowledge, my dh has never shat in the shower!- but he has other questionably poor standards which have gradually chipped away at how I see him....