When you find out that your husband has some really disgusting habits

[Gaaaah]

Firstly, not a poo troll.

I never realised how fucking disgusting he is until I happened to walk into the bathroom one day when he was having a shower and in the bottom of the shower tray was a massive lump of shit that he quickly stood on and pretended wasn't there. I was visibly horrified but apologised for going in and backed out sharpish.

I put it out of my mind. I don't even know why. I should have confronted him right there and then but I didn't. I haven't encountered anything like that again. More often than not he'll actually call me in to chat about something to do with his day that he feels won't wait until after he's showered.

He had a shower today after work. He forgot to flush the loo. So when I've gone to use it later, I can see that there's no toilet paper down there. He hasn't wiped his arse after a shit. Then he's got straight into the shower. My shower. That I scrub on my hands and knees.

It's disgusting, I know. Worse than poo crumbs man. And i feel absolutely ashamed and repulsed by him.

There was no flushing. He shouted to tell me he hadn't flushed before I went into the bathroom. Opened the lid, presented with shit but no paper. There was no way that it was a ghost poo either before anyone says that it might have been.

I don't have sex with him anyway at the moment. Had a baby not too long ago.

I'm off out for supper and wish I could unread this!

On this basis - will definitely be advising my dc - when they are older - to have an extended period of living with a partner (renting - no real joined up, difficult to dissolve commitments) before making things more permanent with their love interest.

This is completely unacceptable. You're going to have to confront him about it OP. I don't know how I'd recover from this to be honest. Why on earth would someone poo in the shower??

Oops sorry - didn't mean to post that straight after you saying you had a baby with him recently!!!! Looks a bit pointed! - completely unintentional

The skids are only on his side of the sheets . He wasn't so vile when I married him and, when habits have gone downhill, he's been told in no uncertain terms

So OP you've just created a 2nd generation waffle stomper. Ooh.

Good lord some people have low standards.

This is dreadful and yes absolutely disgusting of him. It makes me wonder what other bad habits he might have. I'd not delay in telling him exactly what I thought of him.

Har bloody har

Actually PacificD You've just reminded me I do live with a male, my 6yr old is a boy.

He's the perfect chap though, he likes things as clean and tidy as I do and tells me he loves me more than sweets, so he's the exception and can stay for another year or two.

Back at you Memyself

Pacific my male cat is extremely meticulous about his personal habits.

He hasn't got any other bad habits.

Plus my son is lovely - and would never, ever do such a thing. He would die from embarrassment if he, as a teenager, had his mum clean up his poo.

He may not have any other bad habits but the one he has top trumps just about everything else by a mile apart from the shitty sheets.

I know

OMFG.

I'm still reeling from the thread where people (openly!) admitted (themselves! Not even their DHs!?) to weeing in the shower.

That is grim enough.

This is another level.

You have to tell him that this a dumpable (sorry!), deal-breaker offence. As in, this makes you never want to even look at him, let alone get intimate with him, again.

Is he OK with that?

In some countries they don't use toilet paper because the drains are not great. Is your DH British born and bred?

(Trying to think of a possible reason why he might do this)

Sorry OP, but pooing in the shower is disgusting. What does he do, pick the soggy poo up afterwards and put it in the toilet.

With regard to pooing in the toilet and not wiping his bum, you should introduce him to my DH, he's the opposite and goes through toilet paper like there's no tomorrow.