To pick my own ring.

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I have just been on holiday and whilst there a ring caught my eye. Nothing expensive, just a piece of dress jewellery, probably not even silver with a shiny bit of glass in it. Either way I liked it, it fit and I bought it for myself.

Got back last night, BF says where's that ring from, I said I treated myself to it. well today whilst I am at work he has gone out and bought me a new ring to wear instead. "So my finger doesn't go black". I am at work so haven't seen it yet but I said, Thanks, as you do. Is it the same as this one? He says No, it's nicer.

I don't usually wear any jewellery, the odd day I might wear earrings but no rings, rarely a necklace. This ring will probably get left in the drawer after a couple of weeks.

AIBU and ungrateful to think it is weird to immediately go out and replace something I obviously like, because I chose it myself, with something he has decided is better?

Yabu to be planning this without even seeing the ring!

that's well iffy!

does he do this sort of thing often?

Wtf?? That is weird op.

tiffany replacement excepted, natch :o

Maybe his is an engagement ring? YABU without seeing it, I agree with acquie

Well if its tiffany I will forgive him, I just thought it's a weird thing to do.

It's not an engagement ring, he specifically said he has bought me a new ring so that this one doesn't turn my finger black.

Could it be more than just a ring op?
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God dammit, spent ages looking for an emoji and everyone says the same

Does he think everyone who wears bits of cheap jewellery from claire's accessories end up with their fingers going black? What a weirdo. It's a bit insulting to make out that what you've chosen is tat and what's he's chosen will be so far superior. Does he always have to make the decisions about what you buy?

To pick my own ring?! Bahh ha ha ha! 😂🤣😂🤣

Sorry. Immature moment there!

Yeah, he sounds a bit controlling. ' I know what is best for your dear, now stop worrying your pretty head and go in the kitchen and get my dinner!'

He sounds like a control freak

depends...if its exactly the same only real silver and real gems then I would be very happy, if not...then weird.

It could be an engagement ring. Id wait and see. If it's not, you have two dress rings.

That's fucking wierd.

I will bet you £100 that he will expect you to never wear the ring you actually chose again, but will expect you to wear his choice instead, and if you actually have the audacity to persist wearing the one you bought, he will sulk like a child.

Its kinda fucked up, tbh.

Hang on, has he taken your ring back to the shop?

Raven, now I am laughing inappropriately.

Could well be an engagement ring but it's quite a quirky way to do it. Fingers (non blackened) crossed you like what he's bought.

It does sound controlling, like you can't be trusted to make your own decisions about a bit of jewellery.

And I make some costume jewellery. My fingers, or neck, etc, have never gone black, so he's an idiot.

Oh I was thinking he might be planning a proposal too! If not, yeah it's a bit weird... maybe he had a particularly dreadful experience with dodgy jewellery and it's left him a bit traumatised? That's the only other thing I can think of.

Please update us if you find out what the story is op. It's quite intriguing.

I have my ring on, it's from a little tourist shop on a tiny greek island so he can't take it back.

Elspeth That's kind of what I think will happen. I might try wearing both, I have two middle fingers after all but the intention is 100% that his ring replaces the one I chose.

I will definitely update tomorrow once I have seen the ring.

We have spoken before about getting engaged and he knows it's not something I want to rush into. there is also the fact that I am still married to contend with so hopefully he would wait until I am divorced! (separated almost 7 years)

my immediate thoughts were engagement ring. if not then i agree with what everyone else has said.

That's weird. You bought a ring, presumably because you liked it, and so he bought you another ring to wear instead. I'm not really getting why he would do that...

Does he think your ring is a horcrux?

Figment What is a Horcrux? I try not to google anything from mumsnet!