To pick my own ring.

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I have just been on holiday and whilst there a ring caught my eye. Nothing expensive, just a piece of dress jewellery, probably not even silver with a shiny bit of glass in it. Either way I liked it, it fit and I bought it for myself.

Got back last night, BF says where's that ring from, I said I treated myself to it. well today whilst I am at work he has gone out and bought me a new ring to wear instead. "So my finger doesn't go black". I am at work so haven't seen it yet but I said, Thanks, as you do. Is it the same as this one? He says No, it's nicer.

I don't usually wear any jewellery, the odd day I might wear earrings but no rings, rarely a necklace. This ring will probably get left in the drawer after a couple of weeks.

AIBU and ungrateful to think it is weird to immediately go out and replace something I obviously like, because I chose it myself, with something he has decided is better?

Haha!!!
A horcrux is a thing from Harry Potter!
A kind of cursed object that holds a piece of someone's soul :)

Its a thing from Harry Potter. An inanimate object that contains your soul. Or something. That book was complicated, lol.

maybe he had a particularly dreadful experience with dodgy jewellery and it's left him a bit traumatised

OP how many fingers does he have?

Otherwise, engagement ring notwithstanding, he's a weirdo/control freak.

Yes sorry... Harry Potter joke!
harrypotter.wikia.com/wiki/Marvolo_Gaunt%27s_Ring

OH, I only saw the first 2 Harry Potters and never got round to reading it! Not sure he is a fan either, might drop it into conversation and see...

He has a god awful ring that he wears but I have never thought to replace it because I don't like it. That is silver too with some shiny red glass in, definitely not couture jewellery or anything.

Navy He tries to be, he passes comment on my clothes often but I never entertain it. I just tell him I am a grown up who has managed to successfully dress myself for 30 odd years!

He doesn't like your ring. Wear it anyway.

Plus you should put up a picture so we can see if we agree with him.

Pic of ring please!

Sounds a bit controlling IMO.

I wouldn't be happy about that at all. Is he controlling in other areas?

I will put up a picture of both rings later and you can decided which of us has superior taste

Pretty odd behaviour.

How does he react when you don't wear what he wants OP?

I suggest you put the rings on then stick both your middle fingers up at him (just to show him, obviously).

Then tell him to fuck off.

OP was he with you when you bought the other ring?
Tbh I don't know why you're upset about this. He probably knows you bought your own ring and felt guilty that he didn't buy it for you. Maybe he feels bad that it's a cheap one and he thinks you deserve a diamond.
You can wear both rings anyway.
DH has bought me all my jewellery over the years and I love it all.
Never look a gift horse in the mouth

Tbf I did buy a lovely ring myself in Spain a few years ago, nothing special just similar to what you describe but I loved it. Unfortunately over time it did turn my finger green whenever I wore it, a real shame as it was lovely.

Maybe it is an engagement ring?

Wear both rings? if you like the one his brought of course

Good stuff OP. Shall await rings picture before passing further judgement.

I like TempusEedjit's suggestion btw .

That's is odd. Unless he gets you an engagement ring it's strange.

Man logic .
My DP probs wouldn't bother but in his brain he sometimes does these kinds of things because it makes sense to him. It's not - she bought herself a ring and she likes it - instead it's - she bought herself a ring but didn't consider the fact that it might turn her finger black, I'll get her one that doesn't so she can still wear a ring- it just seems logical to him.

I'm placemarking for the pictures.

My immediate thought was weird proposal, but if that's not it then I'd worry about him being oddly controlling.

I don't like the sound of this at all. As PPs have said, it sounds controlling; I also don't like the sound of "he passes comment on my clothes often". Dodgy.

I think the black finger thing is just a bullshit excuse.

He just doesn't like your ring. So he's going to get you one he approves of and sulk until you wear it instead.

I'm another one in the "That's fucking weird" camp.

My boyfriend likes me wearing earrings but wouldn't ever insist on me wearing them or wearing a specific pair.

Maybe his intentions are noble (I doubt it) but it's a fucking weird way of doing something nice for you. Even if your ring does end up turning your finger black, you could wear it on a chain or something.

Very odd.