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To formula feed baby despite OH's objections.

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Herbie22 · 29/05/2017 17:08

DD is 5 weeks old and exclusively breast fed. I am finding this tough because she is either on the boob or upset.
This is my first baby so I'm not sure what I am doing. I think she might not be getting enough from me as she needs near constant feeds. I would like to top her up with formula as I literally do nothing all day/night but feed her. I know that it's hard work a newborn but I can't even walk down the road to the shops without her screaming. I don't get to see anyone and it is making me sad and lonely.

I tried to speak to OH about this and he said that he doesn't want her on formula. He said that I am making enough milk because she is gaining weight. I don't think she is gaining it fast enough though which worries me.
I also wonder if she would sleep better if she was formula fed. I am up nearly all night feeding her at the moment which is another reason I think I'm not producing enough milk as she won't settle.
I don't want to give up BF completely. Maybe just supplement her feeding but at the moment I feel like I've lost all my zest for life because all I do is sit either on the sofa or on my bed feeding. It is also damaging my relationship with OH as we can't even have dinner without DD wanting to be fed (though I do feed her just before) and I'm starting to resent him getting to do things, even popping to Tesco, without a baby attached to him.
I know I sound horribly ungrateful as I am so blessed to have DD! I just want to be able to do things other than feed her!

OP posts:
NameChange30 · 09/06/2017 10:27

Have you got her properly assessed for tongue tie yet?

fuzzyfozzy · 09/06/2017 10:32

So pleased. Has your dp come round?

Lweji · 09/06/2017 10:36

That's good news. :)

I'd try and get back to at least one breastfeed in the middle of the day, mostly to keep your breasts producing enough milk.

But I had that schedule when I returned to work at 16 weeks and managed to exclusively breastfeed fine at weekends when I was at home.
Whatever works best for you and the baby. :)

Herbie22 · 09/06/2017 10:38

Yes nameChange the lactation expert checked for tongue tie at the front and the back? I think they called it an anterior TT they were looking for but they said she wasn't tongue tied.
Fuzzy yes he has Grin and he enjoys feeding her 😀

OP posts:
fuzzyfozzy · 09/06/2017 10:39

Oh good!

LRDtheFeministDragon · 09/06/2017 10:45

Oh, I am so very glad things are going better. Well done you for coming through all this!

GoodyGoodyGumdrops · 09/06/2017 11:20

Lovely news. Smile

Wonderful that you have found a solution that works for everyone.

LapinR0se · 09/06/2017 11:47

Wonderful news!!!

PersianCatLady · 09/06/2017 15:30

She is much more content and the whole house is happier
Excellent, I am really pleased for you and your family

NameChange30 · 09/06/2017 21:15

Oh I'm glad she doesn't have tongue tie and it's all going much better x

AyeAmarok · 09/06/2017 22:57

Fantastic!

Well done Herbie.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 09/06/2017 23:05

I'm so glad things are going well for you, @Herbie.

M0stlyBowlingHedgehog · 09/06/2017 23:41

Brilliant news, Herbie - it's so lovely when you see them eating and putting on weight and looking better for it (I still remember the relief of watching the change in DS over a few days and knowing it was the right thing.)

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