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Womans aid isn't open who else can I ring? (Posting for traffic)

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Queenofthestress · 28/05/2017 06:09

Womans aid isn't open on weekends, it's says Monday - Friday on the website, who else can I ring?
Posting on here for traffic & because some of you have read my previous threads

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PeaFaceMcgee · 28/05/2017 22:45

Well done Queen x

Dawsonforehead · 28/05/2017 22:46

Gosh well done, this must have felt huge for you. Stay strong and know you did the right thing for yourself and your children. So glad you have your sister.

mayoli · 28/05/2017 22:47

Well done. You are brilliantly strong. Flowers

DancingLedge · 28/05/2017 22:51

Good going Queen that took bottle.

pipsqueak25 · 28/05/2017 22:55

we are all here for you op x

early30smum · 28/05/2017 22:56

Well done xx

MilesHuntsWig · 28/05/2017 23:12

Well done you.

NellieBuff · 29/05/2017 05:58

Well done - have been thinking of you Flowers

erinaceus · 29/05/2017 06:38

Wow, you are courageous. Well done for taking this step Flowers

user1000000000000000001 · 29/05/2017 07:45

well done! thats the hardest step done

prettywhiteguitar · 29/05/2017 08:28

Well done, it's great that you have your sister

SparklyMagpie · 29/05/2017 10:30

Well Done OP! How are you feeling this morning? Xxx

Original poster
Queenofthestress · 29/05/2017 11:24

Bloody awful; his mum is texting me saying he doesn't know what to do with himself and is just sat crying, I don't know what to say to him,he wants to come back and talk without arguing

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picklemepopcorn · 29/05/2017 11:28

Absolutely not! How dare he! Tell her you need some space to recover from his behaviour, and would be traumatised if you had to see him right now.

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Queenofthestress · 29/05/2017 11:29

I said I needed space and I will let her know when I want to talk to him face to face but I'll ring him later

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picklemepopcorn · 29/05/2017 11:30

You don't have to say anything to him. How dare she think you should have any responsibility toward and spend any concern on someone who has behaved like that.

picklemepopcorn · 29/05/2017 11:31

Well you are a kinder woman than me. It would take a hell of a lot longer than that before I was prepared to speak to someone that behaved like that. If I was his mum I'd be horrified, apologetic, and giving you as much space as you need.

NellieBuff · 29/05/2017 11:50

No darling do NOT telephone him. Both him and his mother are using emotional blackmail please do NOT fall for it. He is not worth this. You found the strength to go to the police and you are safe. You have the courage and the strength to stay away from him. Of course he will say he is sorry etc and if you go back the cycle will start all over again. Please do not fall for it. You can do this please I am begging you not to call him and not to go back. It cannot and will not be better if you go back to him but it will get better if you stay away from him. Hugs Flowers

Chloe84 · 29/05/2017 11:53

Yes, I wouldn't want to see or speak to him either. I don't think you have to.

Please don't feel obliged to make him feel better because he is feeling sorry for himself. I doubt he is crying for you Sad

prettywhiteguitar · 29/05/2017 12:30

Who gives a shit if he's crying, he's feeling shame. His mum is part of the problem here.

Don't engage with them, if anything tell his mum he needs to leave your house and get his stuff. His mum will never take your side, it's always the same no matter how bad they are the mum will always blame you. Don't fall for their emotional BS

pipsqueak25 · 29/05/2017 12:37

mum will stick up for him, he's her son and you are the upsetting him ! she must have been conditioned in some way to actually believe this rubbish maybe her dh is the same as the son.
there is no need for you to speak to anyone until you are ready to do so and then it should only be when you have support with you so you can't be talked round by this idiot or his deluded mother.
stay strong, you really can do this and you've made a great start by walking. well done !

Original poster
Queenofthestress · 29/05/2017 12:47

I might ring the domestic violence team again and tell them what's going on, he doesn't seem to understand what's going on

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Merrymumoftwo · 29/05/2017 12:49

Stay strong. Abusers will try every trick to get their victim back. You have done the right thing for you and your children. The domestic violence team are their to help, do call and use them.

Amiable · 29/05/2017 13:02

Queen by name, Queen by nature, woman you rock! I am very proud of you, well done. It is not easy to do this, but you have done the right thing. Is it possible for you to get a temporary restraining order, until you have sorted things out a bit more? That might you give you the headspace you need to think about everything clearly. Sorry, I have not read your other threads, but will you want him to have access to the kids in the future, visitation rights or whatever? Having a clear break from him can really help you to make these decisions.

Sending you strong vibes, you got this!Flowers

DancingLedge · 29/05/2017 13:14

Sounds like a good idea Queen

Be very very wary of meeting him

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