I need a good old fashioned MN dressing down

[Givemeasterntalkingto]

I have a shameful tale to confess....
A prolonged flirtation with an extremely hot tradesman who had been working in my house. Husband is a good man who I love but always at work. Nothing physical has gone on, just lots of extremely flirtatious texting and lots of time spent sitting around chatting (instead of him working).

The job was finally finished last week and we both decided we needed to stop the texting. Bloody hard though, he's extremely hot, just my type totally. Dark, beardy and body like Becks in his heyday. Feel completely overtaken by carnal desire - so am not making good decisions really.

We've had no contact for 5 days (after speaking virtually every day either in person or by text) for 2 months, and I'm going stir crazy.
Obviously it's a "bad idea" to text him but I am weakening and need a right royal roasting on Planet Mumsnet. In my heart I know that I've been leading all of this and he's just been responding (he isn't married), which is making me feel very undeserving of my lovely husband and generally like a bit of a lowlife for letting it get so far.

[DonaldJBottyburp]

God I really don't think I can delete his number and/or block him... fucking hell what is wrong with me

You're a cheater, that's what's wrong with you.

Is this menopause related?? I'm too young surely (44)

Whether it is or isn't, you are looking for an excuse. Would DH be OK to do this because of MLC?

[Pinkheart5917]

Umm unless someone has chopped your hands off of course you can delete his number! Be honest you don't want too

What are you hoping for here? More flirting? A quick meaningless shag? To lose your dh?

If you honest think your the only customer his got hot with you are a daft.

If you don't want to be with your DH then show him at least the minimum respect one deserves and you leave, you don't fuck around behind someone's back

[ExplodedCloud]

Yes you can. You can delete that number. It'll hang around on your phone being a dirty little temptation. One day you''ll feel a bit down, use it. And he won't remember which one you are. :(

[Givemeasterntalkingto]

Pigface... am hoping to get where you are soon... I think I will cringe over this in a few weeks and feel very bloody thankful

[Givemeasterntalkingto]

Donald ... fucking hell. Harsh but fair!

[Givemeasterntalkingto]

Pink heart ... spot on assessment

[Bubblesdays]

God I really don't think I can delete his number and/or block him...

Then your choosing the hot stranger essentially over your husband, so go tell your husband, so he can LTB

[zeezeek]

Maybe a meaningless shag is actually what you need to get him out of your system?

[gunsandbanjos]

Imagine your little fling as a crap daytime soap. Middle aged wife falls for handyman, hopefully you can see how sad and grim it is.

[Givemeasterntalkingto]

ExplodedCloud ... ouch! But accurate. I'm a chronic drunk texter. Hadn't considered that.

[BetterEatCheese]

Delete the number now. If you don't you need to reassess your life.

[Pinkheart5917]

Maybe a meaningless shag is actually what you need to get him out of your system

Only if she's going to be ok if her dh went out tonight and put his cock in another women.

Only if she is prepared to end her marriage after shagging some tradesman that next week when his flirting with someone else won't even remember her

I think you need to be really honest with yourself about why you acted this way and why you can't delete his number, then you need to decide if you actually love your dh and want to be in your marriage

[SaucyJack]

If the tradesman was interested in you then he would have carried on texting you.

He hasn't because you were just a bit of fun to make the working day go a bit quicker.

Stop embarrassing yourself.

[GeorgiePeachie]

Instead of a dressing down.
DRESS UP for your husband and flirt with him instead. refocus your attention to the person you actually want to be with.
You're just bored.

[Givemeasterntalkingto]

Pinkheart - I absolutely do

SaucyJack ... that's it... just letting that one sink in... pretty fucking uncomfortable...

[Pinkheart5917]

SaucyJack makes a very good point, if he wanted you why hasn't he been in touch?

When your sitting at home thinking of him, fighting the urge to text why hasn't he?

[FlyingElbows]

Grow up. You sound like a pathetic teenager. Builder boy doesn't actually give a fuck about you, he'll be exactly the same with all his bored female clients. You know that. What your playing at wanting is cruel and utterly self serving. Really? Is that really what you want? And the "I can't delete or block" is the sort of shit I'd expect my kids to say (I'm just a bit younger than you).

[Givemeasterntalkingto]

GeorgiePeachie yes ... am not feeling super worthy at the minute but am hoping to get there

[Givemeasterntalkingto]

All true all true.

[Waltermittythesequel]

God I really don't think I can delete his number and/or block him... fucking hell what is wrong with me

Jesus, I'm cringing for you.

Do you really think he gives a shit about some middle-aged housewife? I have absolutely no doubt whatsoever that he was laughing about you with his mates in the pub.

And I am equally sure he doesn't give a shit about you, or he wouldn't have happily trotted off.

Meanwhile, your dh has to live with you.

Who's paying for this work anyway?

Classy, OP. Real classy.

[nina2b]

Is you husband a tradesman??

[millifiori]

You're bored. And the laziest way to cure boredom is an illicit crush. Find something else in life that you are really truly passionate about, that won't wreck your marriage, break your heart and leave you full of shame and regret.
It's sleazy and unprofessional of a tradesman to flirt with a customer. He sounds like a creep. Imagine you were working long hours to help provide a good life for your DH who was at home tossing off over hot texts from the gorgeous dark haired cleaner, hanging out in your kitchen flirting with her. How would you assess his character?

[Givemeasterntalkingto]

WalterMitty well I did ask for a roasting so I can't very well complain about that post. You're about 80% on the money id say. Which still makes it some shameful shit, I agree

I am frustrated that I'm not deleting the number bit on the plus side this absolute pasting is having the desired effect.

[Givemeasterntalkingto]

Nina - no

And I'm paying for the work as well, I work 4 days a week from home