Aibu to think it's not possible for my dh to have crushed me...

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My dh and I were together last night and I felt like I got um crushed under him . I couldn't breather had pain in my ribs and tummy.
I was ok after a few minutes but felt faint and shaky for a while. I thought I might be a panic attack of some kind.

This morning my ribs and tummy are still hurting and the worrier side of me is saying that I have some kind of "sex crush" injury.

The rational part of me says dear god woman your fine you can't be crushed having sex.

Aibu to think that the pain must be a coincidence ?- you can't actually get crush injuries from just having sex bearing in mind my husband isn't massive.

For obvious reasons I don't really want to discuss this with people in real life especially dh!

Why did yo allow this to happen?

Did you alert him to your discomfort?

'Allow' this to happen?!

West- I did tell him after a while and we stopped.

As I say I thought it was some kind of panic so I tried to ignore it for a while!

So once you told him he stopped, Why on Earth didn't you tell him sooner?

If your rib pain is really painful it is of course possible you've actually hurt yourself

Pink I just thought I was being panicky and I didn't was to cause any bad feelings about it.

Why on earth would it not be possible? He was on top of you and you were in pain, surely the logical explanation for that is that it was because he was on top of you? Am I missing something?

So you were feeling panicky and in pain during sex and didn't feel able to ask your dh to stop straight away?

Why? I mean, is this just your issue (boundaries) or were you concerned that your husband might be angry with you/might not stop anyway?

I just thought it was more likely due to a pulled muscle or something he's not very heavy . I don't think I have worded this whole thing well sorry.

Green he wouldn't be angry with me but I would feel bad about it.

You do need to discuss with him, if you can have sex talking about this should be easy

If you don't mention it he won't know next time you have sex and you may feel crushed again

Plenty of other positions to try so your not crushed

And you told him you were in pain, and you stopped having sex. But now you can't tell him that that it still hurts? Why not?

Liney - I don't know I just feel guilty about it.
So I mean will this just get better in a few hours if it is related to that?

OP why would you feel bad about it?

Comfort during sex is important, OH and I have no qualms about asking each other to move a leg, or point out my hair has been trapped., or simply that either of us need to pause for a while or have some water.
It's part of being intimate.

Again, if you thought you pulled a muscle then why would saying so cause any bad feeling? Presumably he wouldn't want to hurt you so he'd want to know if that was happening so he could stop? It does sound extremely worrying from what you have said that you didn't feel able to say you were in pain and panicking.

You could call 111 for medical advice or take painkillers and see how you get on or see a doctor, but I think you need to address why you felt you couldn't speak up at the time.

OP if you are still sore I would get checked out.

My father broke one of my mother's ribs by on overly enthusiastic bear hug- all things are possible.

Why on earth would you feel guilty?

Dh has leaned on my hair before, it hurts, so I go 'oof, gettof' and he moves. Similarly if I get cramp or it's just uncomfortable.

Would you be embarrassed and guilty if this had happened outside of sex? Say if you were laying on the sofa together and it was uncomfortable, would you tell him to move?

Captain I don't think he would want to hurt me . I just felt bad interrupting.
I think I have handled both him and explaining here badly!

How strange.

If you can't feel comfortable enough to say "OW DH" whilst in pain you shouldn't really be having sex as you aren't able to assert even the most basic of boundaries.

What sort of relationship do you have that you can't discuss it with him?

I just felt bad interrupting.

But you shouldn't.

Your comfort is more important than anything else that's happening.

I thought I was having a panic attack which I have learned it's best to ignore . So i didn't say anything for a while.

I am I think we have a good relationship we have been together 16 years.

Definitely could have been a panic, but obviously if it keeps hurting see the doc.
I have panic attacks and I understand those feelings can also arise from that, and cause physical sensations.

So by the sounds of it koku it's "your issue" your not being bullied or coerced into doing things iyswim.

(That's not meant to sound nasty it's not supposed to)

Were/are you worried about hurting his feelings or something?

Yes you can injure yourself and like a PP says you need to have a chat so it doesn't happen again. Better his feelings slightly hurt then you getting physically hurt again.

I once snapped DH's frenulum (more commonly called banjo string) there was lots of blood. I did feel bad for a bit but it was a complete accident.