Aibu to think it's not possible for my dh to have crushed me...

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My dh and I were together last night and I felt like I got um crushed under him . I couldn't breather had pain in my ribs and tummy.
I was ok after a few minutes but felt faint and shaky for a while. I thought I might be a panic attack of some kind.

This morning my ribs and tummy are still hurting and the worrier side of me is saying that I have some kind of "sex crush" injury.

The rational part of me says dear god woman your fine you can't be crushed having sex.

Aibu to think that the pain must be a coincidence ?- you can't actually get crush injuries from just having sex bearing in mind my husband isn't massive.

For obvious reasons I don't really want to discuss this with people in real life especially dh!

OP, I have no idea why people are having a go at you

How heavy is your DH? Did he put all his weight on you?

Obviously it is possible to get injured like this and given you are feeling tender today then yes you probably were injured. And yes, you should have said something - suggesting a different position is a way to do it if you feel "guilty" about spoiling something!

If it gets worse or doesn't improve over the next day I would get it checked out

OP, you don't sound at all happy. And your user name -'humiliating injury' - why is it humiliating? Why do you try to ignore panic attacks? Has someone suggested you ignore them or are making them up / exaggerating them?

Sorry for all the questions.

Soup dragon - he is about 15 stone and 6 foot. All his weight on me yes.

Liney- i just try to ignore them because I know they will go away so I don't want to let them rule me.

Unborn - yes worried about hurting his feelings and I just don't want to cause any bad feeling or atmosphere about it.

It could just be the physical weight of him then. My dp is a skinny wee thing and about 10st I actually oddly find it comforting when he lies on me haha but my ex was about 17 stone and Jesus no if he tried to lie on me I couldn't breathe.

That feeling is why people die in restraint holds. If you compress someone, they can't breathe. Men usually support their own weight on their forearms, surely?

I understand ignoring panic attacks. However, would you normally get a panic attack during sex?

You need to have a think about this, and try and work out what was going on. Has anything similar happened before?

Worrying about causing a bad atmosphere, by spoiling the mood? I'm getting more worried as you type. He should be worried about having accidentally scared/worried/hurt you. Is he?

Pickle - I don't know I can't remember maybe he was supporting his weight a bit I don't know it a bit of a blur .
I do have panic attacks during sex sometimes I don't know why. I just thought its loss of control maybe ? Don't know.

I think it was just his weight on you and the position he was in, if he was quite relaxed then it would be like a dead weight on top of you.

I'm quite small and have been crushed a few times by larger men. Maybe next time go on top? Or ask him to be more careful?

Pickle - no I don't mean he would be angry but I would feel like he was disappointed - gah I'm bad at explaining - im even worse at explaining in real life!

Panic attacks during sex really isn't right. I think you need to get to the bottom of that.

He's quite a big lad. It's perfectly possible you have an injury. Try NHS website or 111. You don't have to say how it occurred, say you were crushed and if they probe further just ask them if they have any advice.

I would be absolutely gutted if my partner felt unable to say theyd been injured during sex.

I've had a panic attack during sex before but it's because of some past issues with an ex not my DH.

I can see how you could confuse the two they do feel "crushing" the hurt feeling thing is fair enough but being worried about an atmosphere seems a bit off.

Do you feel you could have a proper chat with him about all this?

Unborn - I don't want to discuss it with him unless I really have to . Im trying to think how to word this - he is very caring and loving but when we have sex he is a little more selfish . I will move sooner next time though.

Why would you especially not want to tell your dh???

Yes it's possible to get hurt during sex, it happens fairly frequently. You probably led in a weird position and something got trapped/squashed that wouldn't normally.

Take it easy for a couple of days and you will probably be fine. If it gets worse seek medical help.

Remember that although it's super awkward to interrupt sometimes you just need to do it. Moving slightly at the point you feel "wrong" could help stop you being hurt like this again. Lots of people have to adjust mid act. If it happens again and you don't want to say something and Break the mood you can try just moving or gently guiding him to move.

Thanks Ihop I will try to move sooner next time.

Even if it was "just" a panic attack you should have felt comfortable to ask for a break or to stop.

You are getting the answers you are getting because we are all worried.

Your reluctance to interrupt sex when you are uncomfortable or upset makes it sound as if something bad has happened to you.

I think your physical wellbeing is more important than your husbands potential hurt feelings

If he was hurting you then you definitely needed to say something and ask him to move. Are you usually this passive?

I cracked a rib lifting a table - it is easy to do.

Get to the drs.

OP that's fair enough, just on a physical level is get checked out. The problem with ribs is they can pierce other things.

Mentally if the panic attacks are regular there is a medication available that can stop the physical symtoms (beta blockers)

I don't want to discuss it with him unless I really have to
I will try to move sooner next time.
I don't mean he would be angry but I would feel like he was disappointed
panic attack during sex

None of this is cool in a loving relationship OP :-(

If you honestly don't feel able to say "DH, i'm really sore today! I think I got a it crushed last night when we had sex" then I am worried for you.

Are you OK in the relationship generally? Are things in life (work, friends) etc happy?

Do you have any heart problems op? Please get to your GP and get checked out, just explain what happened - GP will have heard it all before and can make sure you are ok.