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AIBU to think it's not my problem

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Doodlebug5 · 23/05/2017 12:50

My parents bought DP and me a house many moons ago. We decided at the beginning of this year to sell up and look for a new house. We found a buyer they were a respectable couple in their late 20's and we found a new build. The couple wanted to move in when their tenancy ended so DP and me packed up and moved home to my parents as new build won't be ready yet.

I was very friendly with my neighbours have got their numbers and have been out for dinner with them countless times.

So since we have moved out I've been getting daily messages about the new couple. Apparently lots of loud parties drinking in the street, drugs etc. I've told her she needs to call the police and she's saying no I need to sort it. I have countless times said no it wasn't even my house technically and once we completed legally I/my parents have nothing to do with it. She's now threatening legal action against me (have told her to get on with it) but is there/would there be any reason for me to have anything to do with this? I don't think she fully understands the buying process on a house and is asking why I didn't get references.

I suspect she's using me as a scapegoat for other things /stresses in her life that are going on.

Not really sure how to save this friendship and don't think I can

OP posts:
Willow2017 · 25/05/2017 01:02

Cordeliana

Did you read any more of OPs posts?

The neighbour is pissed off that the OP didnt sell her house to neighbours friends for £15k less than she wanted.

Did you read the txt her batshit neighbour sent her?

Think she can safely say the friendship is well and truly over!

TheStoic · 25/05/2017 04:04

The neighbours may not even be doing anything wrong. They may be perfectly reasonably people who happened to purchase a house that their new neighbour had earmarked for her friends.

SuperBeagle · 25/05/2017 04:18

Yep, 10 bucks says the neighbours aren't doing anything wrong, and this woman's just being a pain in the ass for her own twisted reasons.

Cary2012 · 25/05/2017 07:10

So, your ex next door neighbour rocks up at solicitors:

Her: "My neighbour sold her house and the new owners are making a lot of noise."

Solicitor nods encouragingly.

Her: "So I would like to issue court proceedings against them."

Solicitor yawns, gets a legal pad out of his drawer. "Have you contacted the council, or environmental health...the police?"

Her: "No."

Solicitor: My initial advice is that you log all incidents and contact the services I just mentioned."

Her: "I have sent her texts though"

Solicitor: "You've informed the new owners via text messages about the disturbances?"

Her: "Oh no! I've been texting the previous owners...I want you to make an example of them!!"

Solicitor puts away legal pad. Stifles a giggle, and stares wonderingly at her.

Solicitor: "The door is that way, please leave whilst you still have a leg to stand on...and that will be £200 please."

She shuffles out indignant with rage and a good few quid lighter.
Solicitor has a good story to share with colleagues over a bottle of scotch after work.

The end

ptumbi · 25/05/2017 07:36

She wants to make 'an example' of you? To whom? The house-buying fraternity? Hmm Grin

My friend and husband sold his mum's flat on her passing; the new owners harassed them for months demanding a new worktop in the kitchen, as the old one was stained.

Shock
fannydaggerz · 25/05/2017 07:49

She can't take you to court because you don't own the house.

F1ipFlopFrus · 25/05/2017 08:01

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oleoleoleole · 25/05/2017 08:05

It sounds like sour grapes as you didn't sell to her friend. If you are concerned for her mental health o would urge you to make contact with someone who knows her and voice your concerns. Please don't ignore it.

Trills · 25/05/2017 08:14

To be fair to the batty exneighbour your original post left quite a few people baffled as to who owned the house. Perhaps you have been equally garbled when explaining who owns the house?

I agree with @zzzzz

Andrewofgg · 25/05/2017 09:14

For s few pounds you can get a copy of the Land Registet showing that it's not your house - the Land Registry website is very user-friendly. Send it to her. It might, might just, get the message through to her.

artycakemaker · 25/05/2017 09:27

ptumbi we sold my flat and nearly 2 years later the new buyers came to us and said the boiler had broken down and what could we do about it.......

what we did was laugh.

pollymere · 25/05/2017 10:02

No solicitor would let her take you to court! I love the idea that you should've got references to check they were the right sort of people before selling! I think your old neighbour is either barmy or thinks you've only rented it out. Maybe go round and explain that you sold it and its not your responsibility anymore. If you're feeling particularly kind you could say that they seemed a lovely quiet couple when they viewed the house.

Tazerface · 25/05/2017 10:34

You had the instinct that her issue was over something else entirely. Could it be that she valued your friendship, and has been left feeling abandoned and rejected by your move? Her complaints about the new neighbours are really that they're not you, she wants you back, and wants her old life back the way it was with you in it.

What is she, five years old or something? Fuck sake I've heard it all now.

29Palms · 25/05/2017 10:35

It could even be that the new owners have rented out the house to tenants.

Anyway, I think it's now crystal clear that the main cause of neighbour's anger and resentment is that OP didn't sell the house to her mates.

Maxandrubyrubyandmax · 25/05/2017 10:35

Block her number

Jeanneweany · 25/05/2017 10:56

Clearly mentally ill

29Palms · 25/05/2017 11:00

I don't think she's "mentally ill". She's just an arsehole.

SapphireStrange · 25/05/2017 11:41

Trills and zzzzz, the OP says her ex-friend DOES understand that she no longer owns the house.

Willow2017 · 25/05/2017 11:51

Not mentally ill at all, just pissed off and taking it out on OP. Op has known her for years, I presume she would know if she had mh issues.

Nobody has mentioned the other examples of idiots who have bought houses and expected the previous owners to do work on them years later as 'mentally ill'

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 25/05/2017 19:26

You know in reality, she's probably all chummy with the new neighbours and slagging off the OP for being a nightmare.

iMogster · 26/05/2017 18:38

When I was selling my last house, my neighbour's cousin came for a viewing and put in an offer £20K under asking. I accepted an asking price offer from someone else. My neighbours were annoyed with me. I said if they had offered me asking price I would have accepted it, it's nothing personal!
You took the highest offer, as anyone would. As the new owners have only been in 2 weeks, I expect they just had a couple of house warming parties. It doesn't mean they will do this every weekend on going.
It is not your responsibility and this 'friend' has shown her true colours. Enjoy your new home and new life and put this all behind you.

Original poster
Doodlebug5 · 05/06/2017 14:54

So bit of an update to this.

She continued to text me so a day after that last message I blocked her number. She then found my dp's number and started texting him and he then blocked her also.

She apparently knows my new address ( I think she has been to this house before (I'm living with my parents temporarily)) as Saturday I received a letter basically saying that she wanted £10k off me as I've made her life difficult and she wants to move now and her house has been devalued due to new neighbours otherwise she would go to her solicitors and we could go to court. My dad is furious and I've had to stop him going round to her house.

So today I've phoned 101 and the lady on the phone said they will send someone round when I get home later. In the meantime I've deleted any kind of social media I have as I don't want her sending shit to my work.

The fucking best bit of all of this... her whole campaign has been against me. I didn't even own the fucking house my parents did.

I'm so stressed my psoriasis has flared badly.
I could cry right now.

OP posts:
DianaMitford · 05/06/2017 15:02

Don't stress! There's nothing she can do to you, legally. You sold your house. She doesn't like your decisions and she's kicking off. I would completely and utterly ignore her.

QuitMoaning · 05/06/2017 15:21

I can see why being involved and the target of this would be stressful. This of us not involved are just gobsmacked that the neighbour thinks she has a case.

You are not liable for any of this so try to ignore it. They really have no case against you so if they do harass you then just continue to report it as you have done. You are not responsible for this.

ohfourfoxache · 05/06/2017 15:53

What a stupid cow Shock

Please try not to get stressed, it isn't worth upsetting yourself over.

Hopefully a visit from a copper or 2 will do the trick. However, please keep a record of absolutely everything that happens- just in case you need it for a harassment case