to be fed up of this aggressive baking

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DH comes home at least once a month with yet another bakery offering from a woman he works with. I don't get when this became a thing? He defends it by saying how 'nice' it is and that she just likes 'making cakes' but I find it fucking odd and it really irks me.

To be honest I am queasy over other peoples baked goods- and I am sick of seeing her brownies seeping over my work surfaces. I don't get it at all and it boils my piss that DH cant see that it is WIERD. Why do people think they need to invest the time (and expense!) into feeding them their foul cakes? Its not like my DH is ill or thin, he is pretty robust.

Sulking big time. Why can't my DH have a colleague that gives him - and therefore me - ? It's not fair
It sounds awesome.
The only thing that makes me smile is whenever "homemade" comes up...he says Ah but whose home was it made in? Every. Single. Time.
I want an aggressive baker though. I ain't fussy. I used to accept all kinds of offerings from my pupils even scones with blue ink imprints squashed from being clasped in their little hands, bless. Dammit.

LOL OP you are hilarious.

You know what's almost as bad as effing "stranger cake"?

BUNCHES OF FRESH FLOWERS. Don't get me started on Valentine's Day. Arseholes giving each other bouquets of effing cheerful looking flowers. It makes me want to vomit.

And LAUGHING CHILDREN. If there's one sound that makes my blood boil it's the sound of youthful happiness. Gross!

Worse than all of that? FLUFFY EFFING KITTENS. Meowing and being all cute and shit. Who'd tolerate that? Not me!

Cake Rage

I love kittens. Just wouldnt want a load of new ones every couple of weeks.

LOL OP you are hilarious.

funniest thread,in ages

Do you overreact to everything like this OP? I hate Paul Hollywood but you know he bakes, right? And has made a good living as a result? That Radford bloke bakes, as do billions of male bakers over the world.

You need to calm down - your reaction is ludicrous

Don't forget SUNSHINE. Fecking cancer-causing star beaming down on us.

I actually don't think YABU - it does seem odd to me. Especially if she's doing it only for him.

Yes, I know Paul Hollywood bakes for sure. I don't see how that is relevant though. Not sure who the Radford bloke is and whether he makes a good living as a result also.

Assumes OP would have thrown the interview candidate proffering cake out of the office pronto. What happened to that thread? Did she get the job? OP, you wouldn't be a Cake Troll, would you?

Yabu. What's not to like about free cake if it's well made and you're not on a diet

my sister has this. a baker in her office who keeps bringing in cake, waiting for praise. hovers over everyone while they eat it saying "nice, yes?" over and over. it drives my dsis potty. She's not fat but is struggling to keep her weight stable and just doesn't need it!

I certainly wouldn't do it. It's just not professional. Same way i don't talk endlessly about my kids. Luckily i work mostly with men and we don't have someone bringing in cakes.

The Radford bloke is the one with 20-odd kids

I think your attitude of looking down on the woman for doing it is shameful.

I would rather stick pins in my eyes than cook, much less bake, but she clearly enjoys it and it doesn't make her some sort of 'surrendered woman' by doing it

Hi Lottie I think she bakes for all. There are a number of fellow bakers in the team. I have not worked for a very long time in an office and this thread has revealed to me how desperately intolerant I am. Who would want to work with such a curmudgeon as me.

That said, I still dont want anymore of the cakes.

From the level of anger you have about this, I'd say it's triggering your ED, or whatever caused it in the first place.

If you are genuinely not concerned she fancies your DH and aren't worried she is 'after him' then I think you need to look at talking to someone about your reaction to this and why it's making you so angry. All linked to your ED I'd say - from my armchair.

Hi Gin, no not me I didnt see that thread

You know it's not compulsory to eat them though? Anything your DH doesn't want can be thrown away.

Jesus Christ the angst

I work with a lady that brings baking in nearly every week. She lives alone, loves baking, kids grown and just too far away with their families for her to take it to them regularly.

She loves baking and likes to share. She is a lovely woman doing a kind thing.

Your reaction is VU.

Hi Annie, no eating disorder or concerns about fancying.

So fascinating though- so many associations with diets, lack of kindness, a derth of empathy - it seems that 'real women eat cake', and just not liking cake make you a mean oddity with some sort of eating disorder.

Am I on my own? Surely I cant be the only female who just doesnt fucking like cake?

Now I am am offended. You think only housewives bake?!

Oh dear, I thought there was only one page and now see there are loads of replies.

In the time honored Mumsnet saying "is that all you've got to worry about?"

Hi Livia neither is it compulsory to keep baking. I genuinely didnt realise it was such a big , emotional thing. I stand corrected. People obviously feel very strongly and it is clearly tied to a value system of 'kindness'.

To the one who threw cakes into a bin

How fucking selfish are you ? Could you have not donated to a food bank ?