to be fed up of this aggressive baking

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DH comes home at least once a month with yet another bakery offering from a woman he works with. I don't get when this became a thing? He defends it by saying how 'nice' it is and that she just likes 'making cakes' but I find it fucking odd and it really irks me.

To be honest I am queasy over other peoples baked goods- and I am sick of seeing her brownies seeping over my work surfaces. I don't get it at all and it boils my piss that DH cant see that it is WIERD. Why do people think they need to invest the time (and expense!) into feeding them their foul cakes? Its not like my DH is ill or thin, he is pretty robust.

Do you find yourself feeling intense rage in other parts of life? Jealousy? Do you normally feel this strongly about random things in life? You sound very very ... intense

OP you also sound like a very judgmental person regarding what people eat. Very weird. You have affirmed several times that you and your kids (and your "very slim" sister) are just so not sugar eaters and that you couldn't so much as touch a crumb of a cake and don't understand how people could. You just sound....strange. Do your kids not attend parties with cake, do you not do cake and candles?

And I would like to add finally before you jump to any conclusions, I too am slim, a size 8, and eat copious amounts of cake

I've been seeing this thread on the first page of AIBU for ages and assuming it was a misspelling of "aggressive barking."

But no, it really is about aggressive cake-making.

MN is the treat that keeps on giving.

@styledilemma I agree with you. It's so fucking patronising.

What I don't understand is why so many people are bitching about having cake in their office. Just because it's there, doesn't mean you have to eat it. Your lack of willpower to say no is your problem, not anyone else's .

Oh, and even though I'm an eating disordered, man pleasing and/or stealing, anti-feminist, unprofessional, feeding compulsive, 50s housewife; I actually just like baking. Sometimes cake is just fucking cake!

IDKY I follow this BS. I love baking. It's a hobby and I enjoy taking things to my friends and colleagues. If they don't want them, they can leave them. It's up to them.

My dad brings home a cake a week that his colleague bakes, she bakes for everyone and genuinely likes to make people happy.

I think it's very petty and, frankly pathetic, that you feel so threatened by another person's act of kindness and that you partner likes her a long.

Do you think she (cos I am sure if it was a man you wouldn't care!) is trying to steal him from you with her baked goods?? 🤣🤣
I doubt it.

She prolly just thinks you might appreciate a treat and something made with love and kindness.

maybe you should pull whatever is rammed up your arse out, put the kettle on, have a brownie and chill

I bake all the time, it's a hobby. I work at a dealership and the technicians work hard! They need cake! X

Please encourage your DH to bake a cake and take it in.

Shall we suggest recipes?

Oh, go on, pleeeease!

My db loves to bake. He just doesn't love to eat them. They're gorgeous but couldn't possibly eat them all his self. He doesn't have a big appetite and it fairly health conscious. Baking to him is an art.
He bakes like a painter paints. But he has to give them away otherwise they would go to waste

Although there was a girl at my dp's work who kept buying him cakes. She fancied him.. He still kept excepting them though the the big greedy floosy.
He took our dd in with him not long ago.
She said "Oh I never knew you had a dd?"
He said "yes dp and i have 2"
No more cakes

I think it's the neediness of it all - we had a female colleague constantly bringing in cakes and biscuits to our workplace because it was her dream to open a bakery. The problem was they were truly unpleasant - greasy, heavy and tasteless. I stopped being polite after the first few and would just say I wasn't in the mood for cake/cookies/whatever it was she bought in. If you said no, her face would just fall. Seriously, she would go around to everyone telling them she'd baked and would generally want feedback. Some people in the office decided to have a carrot cake baking competition and this person had a mini breakdown when she didn't win. It's not even like she was a young girl but well into her twenties. I think that is why some people here are really annoyed with this 'excessive' baking - making a (nice) cake every now and then is a generous and kind thing for someone to do. When it is all the time, and pushy, then no. Take your cake and shove it.

I like baking, I get a glass of wine, put on netflix and have some time to myself. I take the cakes into work and people really appreciate them. And I get cake at work.

Cake baking is a good thing and fun. At my last UK job there was at least three different bakers who liked making cakes and using the office as a test environment. We had the inevitable group of "everything intolerant" and it was fun to try to make tasty cakes that they could eat. Its harmless and if you dont want to take part its fine. I used to eat, give a report and go back to my office. Not a hassle.

I'm thinking of taking up 'aggressive baking'. Sounds like fun. I could piss people like OP off. Double whammy!!

There are surely people more in need than me and DH

This is where OP is misguided. Nobody NEEDS cake. People can love/like/be comforted by cake but no one dies because they couldn't have cake

I have RTFT and I am glad most people see OPs reaction as a bit OTT. I work on a ward and members of the team or parents (of our patients) bring in baked goods. It's almost always gone by the mid-afternoon but if there is lots (rarely), we take leftovers home. My DH also brings home cake he thinks I'd like sometimes and I have eaten it with pleasure. AFAIK, no one ever makes anyone eat the cake.
If your DH doesn't want it, he might want to be an adult and say no thanks? Also every 2 weeks is hardly excessive. The keen bakers I know bake every weekend 1.
Does your DH truly bring 'tubs' home? In that case, how much does she bring in and how many people work with your DH?