to be fed up of this aggressive baking

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DH comes home at least once a month with yet another bakery offering from a woman he works with. I don't get when this became a thing? He defends it by saying how 'nice' it is and that she just likes 'making cakes' but I find it fucking odd and it really irks me.

To be honest I am queasy over other peoples baked goods- and I am sick of seeing her brownies seeping over my work surfaces. I don't get it at all and it boils my piss that DH cant see that it is WIERD. Why do people think they need to invest the time (and expense!) into feeding them their foul cakes? Its not like my DH is ill or thin, he is pretty robust.

Gosh OP. You really do sound like you have massive issues over this woman. I can't understand why you'd be so angry over cake. It's very odd. Some people like to bake, that's all.

I am genuinely asking. Why?

Because it's a nice thing to do? Because your colleagues seem to appreciate it? Because it helps to build a good atmosphere within the team? Because you enjoy it and want to share your creations?

Actually that is a good point- no I dont work in an office so maybe I am massively out of touch. I genuinely had no idea this was a normal thing. I still find it strange!!! He treks home on the train with big heavy tubs of cake every couple of weeks. I get the being kind and friendly bit as a one off but surely not repeatedly?!?!

Because she likes baking and doesn't want to eat them all herself?

If you are generally asking why... most people love cake because it tastes nice! You may not think so but the general consensus is that it's yummy. It's something tobdonwith the combination of fat and sugar which most people like, plus the coffee or chocolate or lemon or whatever other flavours go in. Your aggressive anti baking attitude is really unusual. If it was common then programmes like the GBBO would flop.

Eh? Is she bringing in cakes specifically made for him? Or made for the office/workplace and they don't get eaten so he takes home the leftovers? I wouldn't have a problem with this unless I had the feeling this woman was actively pursuing my DH. I find your reaction and choice of words really over the top tbh.

We have people at work who are constantly baking too. I just accept their offerings with grace and then bin them on the way home. I don't eat sugary stuff.

Because she enjoys it! If she is making them only for your DH then it is a bit odd but if he is just bringing home leftovers that's perfectly normal. You sound very aggressive yourself.

Baking just for dh.....odd
Baking for everyone and dh bringing some home...kind

Hard to say whether you're unreasonable or not without knowing the whole story.

I would really like to see aggressive baking on ch4, I can hear Gordon Ramsay now shouting about fucking brownies

I'd love someone at my other halfs work to make cakes.

Occasionally the cook in the tea room makes me some scones and sends them home with clotted cream and ham

If I knew the person and they were a bit iffy in the old hygiene department then I'd think twice about eating it

It's gone from once a month to every couple of weeks already. Does your dh like them? It's quite possible she makes them for the office and he voluntarily scoops up the left overs.

I bet you he goes into the office and tells her how much he enjoyed the cake so she makes him another one. It's every few weeks, not daily. Dramatic much!

Actually, if she's baking only for him that's weird, but if it's for the office and he's bringing home leftovers, not weird.

Urm, you sound a bit unhinged OP and weirdly jealous of Mary Berry at your DH work.

We have a colleague at work who loves baking and regularly brings in cupcakes, muffins, cake etc for us all to share, it's lovely. Fattening but lovely.

Are you feeling a bit put out that your DH is enjoying another woman's cream buns?

because baking is fun and creative. I dont have much time to do so but when I do there are usually school events and family members willing to eat it. I dont like eating it I just like making it

There was a period when DS liked making and copying cakes from a Strawberry Shortcake app that DH work had a lot of cakes coming in.

I suspect though that he is encouraging it because he likes eating homemade baking goods and she likes baking them for people who like eating them. He knows you dont like baking or eating cakes so its a win for him

My 87 year old nan still likes baking cakes on a regular basis as well

Is she baking ONLY for your DH and not her other colleagues, in which case I would question her precise motive.
BUT if she likes baking and sharing her produce what is the problem? Perhaps she's practicising for Bake Off in which case she'll have a mountain of goodies to off-load.

I make the occasional cake and take it to work. I like baking and love cake but my dp is diabetic so a whole cake at home is too much of a temptation. I encourage my workmates to take the leftovers home so it's not wasted.

Your thoughts on this are totally bizarre.

Aggressive baking

It would be odd if she's baking for your DH specifically every couple of weeks (unless he's been so enthusiastic that she thinks he wants her too).

However baking in general or for the office isn't weird or aggressive. I find baking extremely relaxing and often took cakes to work. Sometimes there was 4 people in the office, sometimes 14 as we were out at schools. If there was only a few cakes went home with people. Hardly weird or aggressive, just baking.

Jesus Christ people will get annoyed over anything these days won't they!

Massive over-reaction op - are you threatened by this woman in any way?

And yes - I'm one who constantly bakes and brings cake into work - because I like baking.

YANBU. This complete obsession with fucking baking is bizarre, it's like a national hysteria. And a tv series watching people make cakes: what next, competitive paint drying? (disclaimer: don't watch much TV and never any of those pathetic cooking contests, I'd join the Mothers Union if I was interested in all that).

I may be slightly jaded having had coffee with a pal who's an ardent home baker and realising that her kitchen was a grade A health hazard replete with dog hair, piles of unwashed dishes and mouldy food

I often bake a batch of something for my team - they always go very fast, and sometimes they ask if they can take one home for a family member etc which I have no probs with (e.g the Star Wars cookies brought in on Star Wars day earlier this month). Why do I do it? I enjoy baking but don't want a dozen cakes at home, and my team seem to appreciate it.

Op answer the bloody question that has been asked a million times, is she just baking for your dh or the whole office?
It's perfectly normal, I love baking now and then but would have to bring cake to work if I did or would get fat!

Why is it aggressive? I imagine cupcakes with swear words on.

My nans friend always makes her cakes, the lady can't eat the cake herself for various different allergies but she gets joy from making baked goodies for people

I have always liked baking and long ago when I worked in retail I took a few in for my lunch which led to people asking me to bring some in for the staff room which led to the security guards getting in on it too. Now in farming you couldn't bake enough to feed DH and the various workers, cousins, friends and sales reps etc that turn up so perhaps I'm no longer an aggressive enough baker, plus I haven't the time.