to be fed up of this aggressive baking

[JHMJHM]

DH comes home at least once a month with yet another bakery offering from a woman he works with. I don't get when this became a thing? He defends it by saying how 'nice' it is and that she just likes 'making cakes' but I find it fucking odd and it really irks me.

To be honest I am queasy over other peoples baked goods- and I am sick of seeing her brownies seeping over my work surfaces. I don't get it at all and it boils my piss that DH cant see that it is WIERD. Why do people think they need to invest the time (and expense!) into feeding them their foul cakes? Its not like my DH is ill or thin, he is pretty robust.

Oh I love to bake and I love eating cakes so spreading the happiness is great! I get an immense satisfaction knowing if I've cooked a delicious meal for people to enjoy or made someone smile with a delicious cupcake.

Don't be such a grumpy pants OP!

Just came back onto this thread to see if we'd got to:

-the OP stays at home and does domestic things
-the DH goes to work
-domestic/creative things happen at work and symbolise the fullness of DH working life
-OP resents this and feels threatened and sad about it

• OP is an achiever/feminist/strong woman and it all stirs up weird feeling

-which she transfers to baking

Cos, money on, that is where we are going with this.

No one cares if you eat cake or not.
If it bothers you so much just ask your husband not to bring them home.

"That said, I still dont want anymore of the cakes"

They aren't your cakes , they are your dp's. Up to him whether he wants any more or not.

OP it's ok to not like cake. It's a really strange reaction loaded with anger about being gifted free cake though

Hi Bertrand no lots of other stuff to worry about- life is full of big and little things naturally. I was genuinely curious and I am glad I asked.

"If it bothers you so much just ask your husband not to bring them home"

So he can say "sod off-it's my cake and I'll bring it home if I want to..."

OP I do agree with you in principle. It is a little odd, sad and a bit needy to bake specifically for a work colleague. It also irks the feminist in me when women bake for men they know, not quite sure why - probably because its reminiscent of 1950s stereotypes.

I'm not sure I would rage about it in the way you have though.
My guess is your DH has made nice/polite comments about her baking and unwittingly encouraged more offerings.

Hi no I work full time, but from home. I travel quite a bit with my job but I dont have an office as such.

Sounds like your DH isn't eating them either. If they're sitting on the side going hard before being thrown away he's wasting her time all because he won't say 'that's kind of you but actually neither me or my Wife have a sweet tooth and the kids love to bake their own with her, thanks for offering though'.

Just tell him no more at home and send them back with him if he still doesn't listen. She'll get the message when she sees them going mouldy on his desk at work.

Nothing wrong with not liking cake. I'm just not sure why you are taking it so personally - it's not like someone pushing cake on you face to face.

Ftr I love baking and sometimes bring it into work. No one is obliged to eat it and I don't do it often. I totally understand people don't want to eat cake for many reasons and I don't take it personally!

I do think it's a bit weird that your dh is bringing it home if he doesn't want to eat it. He needs to refuse.

Just going to leave this here...

YABU but you're funny and I like you.

Still agreeing with the OP and it is all a bit 1950s from the 80s/90s feminist perspective, viz the guys bringing in girlfriends' cakes cited by PP.

There is also quite a strong connection between over-consumption of cake and weight gain, apparently.

Good idea Cuppa, it is a real waste.

Nah baking has come back into fashion hasn't it, with GBBO and all that. My male manager brings in his dry efforts quite a lot and I have a male friend who is proper into it.

And if I baked I'd probably give most of it away so I didn't end up the size of a house.

Ah thanks Lamp, you are stand alone in that sense. The only single, brave friend of the evil cake denyer.

He could always pretend to her that you're starting a strict diet so he's not allowed to bring any cakes into the house. Might be a way of him telling her to stop it without hurting her feelings. Sounds like she's just being nice as your husband must be pretending to her he loves eating them

Dry Efforts. Thats the first volume of my autobiography.

Dry Efforts. Thats the first volume of my autobiography.

Genuine lol

Do food banks really want several day old cake then? I'm surprised.

JHMJHM, don't worry, there are a few of us evil cake denyers out there.

I never buy cake or biscuits. Happy if others describe it as an eating disorder, but as far as I'm concerned I am greedy, and haven't mastered the concept on "just one slice". I would be livid if DH kept bringing cake home, whether baked by man or woman.

My husband likes baking little fancy things at the weekend and if we ate them all I'd need to be full time in the gym. He bakes on a Sunday, leaves one or two for us and takes the rest to work on Monday. It's the process that he enjoys but you have to get rid of the product somehow to be able to make more.

And she's giving them to him, let him deal with them.

As for it being a 'big emotional thing' it's you that is accusing the baker of being aggressive and have overreacted - and the 'real women eat cake' is not what is being said. Some people like cake. Some people don't. Some peoples like baking, some people don't. Liking baking or. Oh

I'm not sure what part of that you are struggling with tbh

Aggressive baking =beating the mixture!!!