to be fed up of this aggressive baking

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DH comes home at least once a month with yet another bakery offering from a woman he works with. I don't get when this became a thing? He defends it by saying how 'nice' it is and that she just likes 'making cakes' but I find it fucking odd and it really irks me.

To be honest I am queasy over other peoples baked goods- and I am sick of seeing her brownies seeping over my work surfaces. I don't get it at all and it boils my piss that DH cant see that it is WIERD. Why do people think they need to invest the time (and expense!) into feeding them their foul cakes? Its not like my DH is ill or thin, he is pretty robust.

I will tell you why OP - apart from the fact sone people actually enjoy baking ....it's because the majority of people like eating cake at work! Makes a welcome change to biscuits. And calling them foul is a bit unfair just because of your own anger issues, bet they're lovely!

redhead now scones with clotted cream and ham IS weird.

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No, she definitely bakes for everyone but I think a lot of people dont take it home like DH does. I think he would be worried about offending her if he didnt.

Still dont get it! I get hobbies and stuff but I STILL dont get the constant baking!! Its obsessive expensive and compulsive! I am clearly massively out of touch. When I worked in a office (admittedly YEARS ago) people might have bought a cake in for a birthday? But that was it!

I wonder if your dh works with my friend. In all honesty my friend (while lovely) is a bit weird with the baking and the giving to people. She means well but it's over the top and tbh if she was dh's colleague instead of my mate I might find it more uncomfortable. Im not a good armchair psychiatrist but i think it's to do with needing to be liked and also to do with justifying the massive amounts of shit she eats by having her colleagues do the same...

If she's making cakes for the whole office and he chooses to bring his home to share with you...fine. Maybe she loves baking (just think how popular the TV baking shows are!) but doesn't want to eat all she makes?

If she's making cakes just for him...not fine

So, as others have asked, does she bake for the whole office or just for your DH?

If you have a problem with your DH bringing home cake, you should talk to him.

But maybe your vehemently anti-cake stance means that he wouldn't GET any cake if he didn't bring home the uneaten office cake.

Redhead perhaps something like this?

You're a dick

Perhaps she feels sorry for him that you have such a disproportionate hatred of cake?

Given the number of exclamation marks in your post it's fair to assume you have major anger issues

I have a friend who loves baking (a chocolate loafy thing is her speciality) but I cannot eat it because of an egg allergy. I took some into the office once and a male colleague loved it (and still loves it) so much that she makes one every month just for him. And trust me neither when I say neither of us is trying to have an affair with him (despite the fact that he is the most handsome man you have ever met - seriously he is gorgeous)

Well, I don't get why anyone would cross stitch or sky dive or raise goats but each to their own. I'm sure people think I'm fucking mental for spending £££ on my horse monthly. You don't have to get it, it isn't your hobby.

Truly aggressive baking would be hiding nuts in a cake and giving it to someone who was allergic.

I think people are being a bit insulting towards people who enjoy baking.

If it's not your thing then fine.

OP you sound hard work and maybe your DH is comfort eating. I would be if my DP was that neurotic.

@lucydoz yes sounds like a pregnancy delight (I had weird cravings and thank you iPhone for autocorrect)

@LagunaBubbles yes exactly what I had in mind that's an aggressive baked good

I have talked to him and from reading the responses here it seems that he is deffo in your camp. He thinks it is nice and normal. I must be way out of touch. The cakes are not a treat thing or an occasion- it is every couple of weeks.

I have no sweet tooth so I just cant get excited about cake but tbh even if I did I would still find the whole dogged ritual bloody wierd.

Poxy phone apologise lucydogz

I love baking (and I'm pretty good at it too) but I don't want to eat cake every day, I'd be big as a house and it would lose appeal as a treat.

I quite often send cakes and treats into work with DH (I'm a SAHM) and the plates always come back clean.

Are you worried your DH will have an affair with seeping brownie woman (if they're seeping then they probably are foul, brownies shouldn't seep obviously).

I think if SBW is such a threat you might have other relationship issues to work on.

You sound unhinged OP, it's only cake tell your husband not to bring it home if it gets your knickers in such a twist, it's not like she is making it for him especially, he is choosing to bring it back with him! Does he eat it at home?

Arghhhh now I've seen she bakes for everyone - your husband just likes the cakes so much so he takes some home - after my initial reply I thought maybe she wasn't just baking for him. Now I'm a little annoyed at you. Is it because you can't bake and your husband likes cake - you're annoyed at this woman?!

Lots of people (including me) find baking relaxing and enjoyable. I'm never happier than when I'm pottering in the kitchen creating stuff - I'm not a creative type, can't paint or sew or build things, but I can bake. It's therapeutic - it calms me down. Office woman clearly gets pleasure from it, other people get pleasure from eating the results. I'm struggling with why you find it weird - I mean I can't see the appeal in golf, say, but I don't think it's weird that other people play it.

'Obsessive expensive and compulsive' ???
Some people enjoy baking like some people enjoy playing sports. My DPs mum enjoys crocheting and has made us 3 blankets. Do we need 3 blankets, no. But she enjoys making them so we accept them. Luckily she's good at it and they are lovely.

If your husband doesn't want the cake, then he needs to tell her 'no thanks'. Other than that I wonder why you need to get so worked up over it. It's cake. Eat it or bin it and move on.

I used to bake regularly when the dcs were tiny as I find it relaxing, DH used to take loads into work as we had far too much of the stuff. It always went down very well,

It's hardly weird, it's just something people do. It is a little odd that your husband is bringing home loads of it though as in my experience most gets eaten at work, on the day. Has he rhapsodised over her cakes in the past and now found himself being caked-up every fortnight?

I get it OP. It's kind of personal...my neighbour used to LOVE it if I baked because she knew I'd take her some round. She was a young lone Mother though...with no Mum of her own and not much money.

She came to expect me to knock on Sundays with her cake and if I didn't then the next day she'd be a bit :( Where was my cake?
A colleague though? That's odd.