to be fed up of this aggressive baking

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DH comes home at least once a month with yet another bakery offering from a woman he works with. I don't get when this became a thing? He defends it by saying how 'nice' it is and that she just likes 'making cakes' but I find it fucking odd and it really irks me.

To be honest I am queasy over other peoples baked goods- and I am sick of seeing her brownies seeping over my work surfaces. I don't get it at all and it boils my piss that DH cant see that it is WIERD. Why do people think they need to invest the time (and expense!) into feeding them their foul cakes? Its not like my DH is ill or thin, he is pretty robust.

Do you get the feeling she's after him? My neighbour started bring round trays of bread and butter pudding and mushroom pate. Fast foward 18 months and she and my (by that time) ex were living together in the area we had planned to retire to together. Just saying.

At various workplaces, one of us has periodically announced we don't want to be offered cake (type 1 diabetes on one occasion, trying to lose weight the others I think) zero offence caused.

I'm agog at this thread and love the idea of aggressive baking and the glorious "stranger cake". You do need to look inward as to why this bothers you so much, given you aren't even the victim of said aggression. Is the cake really coming in a tidal wave of Mrs Doyle sandwich proportions? Does it involve extra trips to the tip? Infestations of cake eating vermin? Gangs of predatory pensioners jemmying your windows to get to the lemon drizzle?

If it is firmly gendered it might bug me but in my experience it isn't. My DH is MD and majority shareholder in a very non-fluffy business, he doesn't bake, but he does cook a two course meal including pudding for all staff at least once a year. Other staff occasionally bring in baking, or more often shop bought cakes. They are just trying to brighten the day. It always worked for me.

? People bake cakes and take them in to work to share....
It's friendly and normal.
I hope you don't mind me saying, but do you not cook or something?
Is it that you think she is making a play for your husband through giving him cake?
Would it not be easier for her to lock him the stationery cupboard and jump on him?

I work with a lady who loves baking but is diabetic so can't eat too many cakes, she lives alone and you can only scale recipes down so much, she also knows that my baking skills are pretty limited, so if she fancies brownies or whatever she bakes a whole batch, takes a couple out for her then brings in the rest for me to take home for my DC.

Seriously?

I'd bloody love someone to bake me brownies or cakes every month.

Lol! I love to bake! I used to take cakes in all the time. A male friend commented on how much he loves cheesecake so I made him one. I love to bake so I brought food in every week or 2. I send them in with my husband now or to his friends on "guys night"

I've not read all the replies but I'm with the op, I'd find that odd and I hate the idea of eating food from someone I don't know. What if their kitchen is rank. Ram the cakes and tell your OH to stop playing up to this odd cake feeder woman!

There is no such thing as free cake. I don't make delicious baked anything and then give them away....unless I want something in return. YANBU it's bad juju and if you don't like it your DH should see it from your point of view. How would he feel if your colleague was buying you lunch everyday?

I wish there was someone at my hubbys work that did that! Homemade cakes are the best!

original problem aside, I am now getting worked up over the fact that the word 'weird' is being repeatedly misspelt on this thread....

Angelreid14 - I give cakes away regularly without wanting anything in return

If they're not getting eaten it's a waste though and she probably thinks they are ... maybe he could say something like you have frozen some because it's not getting eaten and he'd rather she didn't make any for him for a while because he doesn't want it to go to waste ... you need to catch up on the ones in the freezer. Maybe this will let her down gently do the trick

Fuck it OP, I really want brownies now!

Drags arse off sofa to go and bake

Misses point

You are overreacting but I do think it's weird of her to keep on doing it. Once in a while is ok but just how often is she sending him home with cake? if it bothers him he should tell her. Maybe tell her he is trying to be healthier and her delicious cakes are just too tempting so would she mind not baking for him anymore?

I have known people that do this and tbh they were needy types. It felt as though they were buying popularity.

I agree with others that it's nice if someone who is a good baker sometimes brings in a treat for the rest of the team.

However I have also known people who:

a) do it to overkill - to the point where nobody wants any but has to take it out of politeness
b) do it for some kind of ego boost and stand over you intensely
waiting for compliments
c) expect everybody to eat it without respect for their diets/tastes/whether they're actually hungry and make loud comments like 'what's one little piece of cake going to do?!' when someone tries to refuse them.
d) Seem to get a kick out of being 'the office baker' and get threatened when anybody else dares to bake/express an enjoyment for baking

In short, simple cake = good, territorial baking = annoying

Rhoda, make sure you bake them aggressively

What about an idea for a new TV programme called The Aggressive British Bake Off? Could that catch on? All participants must bake aggressively.

I agree with you OP - if some mad woman kept sending my DH home with her baked goods I'd think it highly strange indeed! Can't believe people think it's normal!!!

A lovely older lady at my husband's work bakes every weekend and brings in loads of goodies on a Monday. She just genuinely enjoys it and is very much the office mother hen (as well as being a very warm and generous human being).
It seems you're aware you're BU but maybe have a phobia? The use of the word 'seeping' suggests something deeply unpleasant (I always think of pus from a wound!) which might explain your strong reaction?

What next?
Combative knitting?
Hostile gardening?
Antagonistic stamp collecting?

I like the thought of Mrs Berry giving
Mr H a seeing to with a spatula or hoofing his arse as he bends down to look at someone's rise...

A lovely older lady at my husband's work bakes every weekend

Why is she lovely?
Is it because she's older?

I've always wondered why, when describing older people, they are nearly always prefaced by the word lovely.

''this lovely older man'
'lovely older lady'

I've never heard this ''a lovely younger lady''

sorry if this is off topic.

I can't get over aggressive baking 😂😂

I am quite taken with the idea of aggressive baking and now can't stop thinking of going off to start a fight with some cupcakes
(misses point entirely)

I test out new baking recipes on my hubs' work colleagues. He works with a mix of men and women. Last time I took something in, they were straight in there, thanking me and munching away. Nothing wrong with doing something nice for other people. Perhaps you should try it.

Dh: I'm very sorry Sandra, I can't eat any more of your cakes, because my wife is insanely jealous.

Oh. Ok then.