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to be fed up of this aggressive baking

415 replies

JHMJHM · 20/05/2017 08:55

DH comes home at least once a month with yet another bakery offering from a woman he works with. I don't get when this became a thing? He defends it by saying how 'nice' it is and that she just likes 'making cakes' but I find it fucking odd and it really irks me.

To be honest I am queasy over other peoples baked goods- and I am sick of seeing her brownies seeping over my work surfaces. I don't get it at all and it boils my piss that DH cant see that it is WIERD. Why do people think they need to invest the time (and expense!) into feeding them their foul cakes? Its not like my DH is ill or thin, he is pretty robust.

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feathermucker · 20/05/2017 19:26

Aggressive baking?! That's a thing now????? Hmm

Here, have a biscuit Biscuit

styledilemma · 20/05/2017 19:29

Does she make coffee and walnut cake?
Carrot cake?
Lemon drizzle?

Does she heck. She's makes boring old fruit scones and brownies. The poor relations of the cake world.
Not only does she give the OP's husband cake, it's crap cake by the sounds of it. Shock
I bet the rest of the office hate her cake, but your husband is a soft sucker who can't say no, so you end up with all the cake that everyone has refused Grin

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JHMJHM · 20/05/2017 20:00

Thanks all. Been out to the pub for a beer and crisps. Things I have learned:

  1. The baking thing is huge and normal but it is always sweet (there was a brief mention of quiche but sounds like savouries are not generally done, which is a pity because if DH was bringing home cheese straws and the like I would be more enthusiastic I reckon)
  2. It is not necessarily gender driven- there are lots of men baking for work too.
  3. Senior members of the team join in with baking cakes too.
4a/ Possibly there is a socio-economic shift in the work/gender balance which means baking has replaced a drinking culture 4b/ Equally the huge influence of the zietgheist in terms of TV shows, the all-permeating passion for that clean eating bollocks has facilitated a joy and interest in CAKES.
  1. No one would ever want to work with me in an office
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PacificDogwod · 20/05/2017 20:15

5. No one would ever want to work with me in an office

You would catch on in no time Grin

Fwiw, much as I love our weekly cake offerings, I very rarely partake.
'No' is such a valuable little word. And not offensive if followed up with 'thank you'. Smile

prettybird · 20/05/2017 22:54

I did occasionally make cheese scones. Is that savoury enough? Wink

SecondRow · 20/05/2017 23:10
  1. If your husband is doing something that annoys you, simply find a woman whose fault it is and make a thead about how weird SHE is. OW, MIL, or sugar-pushing office admirer. Where would MN be without them?
MyOtherProfile · 21/05/2017 00:19

Hm good point SecondRow.

Craigie · 21/05/2017 17:43

You sound CRAZY. It was entirely normal in my work for people to bring in baking. Loads of people I know like to bake, but don't want to eat it all. It's NICE, stop acting weird.

TheExuberant1 · 21/05/2017 18:01

I wouldn't eat them, especially if she had cats because no doubt they would have been walking all around her worktop beforehand.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2017 18:03

The worst ones are the ones who bring in cakes, smile indulgently when people eat them and then decide to divulge that their toddlers 'helped' 🤢

LedaP · 21/05/2017 18:04

This thread has inspired me to take cake ro work tomorrow. Dh is baking it for me. I asked him to do it agressively and got this face Hmm

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2017 18:05

GrinGrinGrin

Reminds me of this...

to be fed up of this aggressive baking
Aeroflotgirl · 21/05/2017 18:08

Don't see a problem, you won't be eating them, your dh will. They probably give them to him, as he might want them. You do sound very OTT and unreasonable.

LedaP · 21/05/2017 18:08

livia i so want dh to write 'cunts' on the top of my cake now Grin

Those cookie cakes go down well at work, from Millies cookies. Wonder if they would write something similar for me when i leave my department next week . Something like 'later....you cunts'

GrinGrin

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/05/2017 18:10

Oooh doooooooo it Grin

Scandelicious · 21/05/2017 18:10

If it's a largish office then every couple of weeks is totally consistent with celebrating someone's birthday.

My office has some 50-60 people and most weeks we have a birthday and cake. Would be great if we had someone regularly baking for it!

LottieDoubtie · 21/05/2017 18:11

Loving your summary update OP made reading page 1 and then page 14 of your thread worthwhile!

Topseyt · 21/05/2017 18:14

Wow. This is normal in many offices. You do sound as if you have a bee in your bonnet over this and that is what comes across as weird.

Three years ago my DH turned 50 and one of the ladies in his office who regularly bakes had made a massive cupcake as a birthday cake for him. They all shared some at work and he brought the rest home. It was lovely. It never occurred to me to consider it aggressive.

Non-issue. Just enjoy the cake, or let DH enjoy it.

user1473602935 · 21/05/2017 18:17

I think that's a bit weird myself. I'd also find it odd and annoying (and hard to resist eating!)

DistanceCall · 21/05/2017 18:34

Februaryjones

I can't stand it when people bring homemade stuff into work. There's no way I'm going to eat something when I've never visited their home and don't know what their hygiene standards are. They might have cats that walk all over their kitchen surfaces. Have some nice shop bought

You don't know what goes on in factories or shops either! Even if you cook all your meals from scratch, other people have handled it and potentially done gross things with it. This is verging on paranoia.

Janey50 · 21/05/2017 18:35

Aggressive baking Grin Is this a 'thing' now?

DistanceCall · 21/05/2017 18:36

Oh, and, not being British, I find the British obsession with baking somewhat bemusing. But nothing to get so angry about. OP, you sound jealous and unhinged.

CruCru · 21/05/2017 18:36

Actually, I don't think the OP is being particularly weird. I assume that, as she doesn't have a sweet tooth, she doesn't bake - I can easily imagine someone saying "Gosh, how sad that you don't get cakes made for you at home - here, why don't you take some of these?" That would irritate me quite a lot.

A friend and I started a campaign to reduce the number of cakes etc people brought in to the office (because it was quite hard work to resist the Table of Plenty all day). Yes, if we'd had super willpower, it wouldn't have been a problem. However, we didn't.

LedaP · 21/05/2017 18:39

Cru the op says the wiman bakes for the office and her dh brings it home. No hint of that at all

caringcarer · 21/05/2017 18:47

My sister loves baking. She is a teacher and quite often takes in cakes or cookies for staff room and if not all eaten on day some staff take home for kids. She is sometimes asked to make special cake for kids birthdays which she loves to do. I don't see anything aggressive in it she is alone now and has a lot of time which she likes to bake. It is just a hobby nothing sinister.

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