Is no oral sex a deal breaker?

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Just having a conversation with a friend about a guy she is with that point blank refuses to go down on women.
He doesn't 'expect' blowjobs but does enjoy them.
He says he doesn't give oral because he wouldn't like the texture and because she has asked so many times why he doesn't and that it offends her he now says there is 'pressure' on the situation which means he probably will never do it.
I think this would be a deal breaker for me? Is this normal?
I don't think I've ever known someone to completely refuse....

I have been/am in love- and I like oral sex as well. Do you feel sorry for me too, anon?!

Jaques yes I understand that, but maybe there is something that your partner wants but you don't fulfil it,
there might be someone out there that is more sexual compatible with him then you are, maybe it's not just the sex that keeps you together.

'I'm 100% certain that if a women came on mumsnet saying that her husband threatened to leave her because she no longer wanted to dress up as a school girl and take it up the arse while licking the neighbours balls (but she used to)
Everyone would be up in arms.'

anon, are you being deliberately obtuse?! Such a person would never be my husband because I'd have ended it long before we got to that stage because a) I never waited long to have sex with someone I found attractive if he felt the same b) if we were not compatible, things would end for us shortly.

And speculating on the future is ridiculous. Yes, people change over time, most commonly, one or the other wants to quit having sex at all, and it's pretty unreasonable to expect the other party to go without for the rest of their lives.

hilda I can only speak for me not anyone else obviously but;

1. I'm more of a giver
2. My partner isn't unhygienic at all, I've never even detected bad breath on them, but the thought of someone else's saliva and other things that exist in human mouths on my bits, I can live without. 3)it does absolutely nothing for me. I'm not that sensitive down there and need a former touch to receive pleasure,than one can get from a tongue.

It isn't something that bothers me, aside from previous partners not believing me and insisting on trying it. One in particular was so insistent on a regular basis that it caused arguments.

Sucking on a bristly discharged clit??

Crikey, you sound like you have isshooos, anon.

Firmer*

Who in God's merry fuck has a bristly clit?!?

histiny why would I feel sorry for anyone?
I love oral as well and lucky for me my partner loves giving it.
But then again I'd like him to have big muscles, but we can't have everything and that's the whole point I'm trying to make.

I once nearly fell in love with someone just because he was so good at oral.

But then again I'd like him to have big muscles

Weren't you talking about being shallow....?

expat

It wouldn't necessarily be a dealbreaker, but I would be a bit miffed. I would think why does he not want to 'go down?' Am I that repugnant? Rightly or wrongly, that is how I would think.

As I said earlier, no man has ever refused to go down on me, so it's hard to say exactly what I would do if it did happen.

As I said, tell us ANON, wtf does sucking on a 'bristly discharged clit' mean?!

Jaques I'm not shallow because I can let one tiny thing slide.

Sorry but i dont buy this.

Oral sex is a dealbreaker for her. He said maybe he will feel comfortable whrn they have been together a while. And she just hung around hoping he would do it eventually?

If its a deal breaker why would you accept 'maybe in a year'

And why would you wait a year if its so important?

I think the friend wants to end things and looking for reasons.

You said 'I'm beginning to wonder if any of you have ever been in love before?'

I wonder what made you say such a bizarre thing?

Raven you see it on porn, makes me want to throw up 🤢

He had a huge wanger, too, Jacques. There was no ride like that at Disneyland.

anon You just asked why would you feel sorry for anyone, when only a few minutes ago you wrote this:

Expatinscotland that's sad, I'm sorry you feel that way.

Conflicting comments. But like your one about shallowness. But carry on, you're providing much entertainment one way or another

I'm 100% certain that if a women came on mumsnet saying that her husband threatened to leave her because she no longer wanted to dress up as a school girl and take it up the arse while licking the neighbours balls (but she used to). Everyone would be up in arms.

Firstly, this is in no way an apt comparison to the situation being discussed.

Secondly, the end result really is the same - if the husband decides the role-playing is a deal breaker for him, then the wife can either choose to continue to do it, or choose not to, and the husband can choose to end the relationship over it if it's that big a deal to him.

Dealbreaker for me if they didn't want to. I would NEVER pressure anyone to do it, or probably even ask, but a man who is grossed out by my bits is not for me.
I am very blessed in my current relationship. I think he was down there about 5 hours after we met..

anon if your clit is bristly you might want to see a specialist.

expat and I am a massive fan of Disneyland 😂

Not for me, I go down on my wife but she has never given me a blowjob.

Shatner it was in relation to another comment they posted.

anon you said you're not shallow "because I can let one tiny thing slide". Are you referring to your husband there? Poor sod, talking about him on a forum full of a nest of vipers....

And you felt sorry for expat, despite her completely reasonable comments.